MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Would you give up a £50 train seat for a pregnant woman?

squidworth

Of course I'd offer my seat, tho as everyone knows it was sitting in a warm seat that made her pregnant in the first place...

(last night got back to a packed london commuter train with my son after a eurostar trip and we had to sit diagonally opposite on a four-seat layout, the kind suited gentlemen opposite me offered to swap places so that my son and I could sit together, which was really nice of him. as it happened we werent going far so politely declined and thanked him. oh yeah, i'm a single dad)

Lizbethanne

Can't believe the number of selfish, rude, unthinking people on this post. The lady may not have had chance to book a seat due to a late need to travel - maybe visiting a dying relative or something else just as awful, or maybe has a seat which some ignorant moron has taken and refuses to give up [I've seen this happen to an elderly, frail lady who was eventually seated in 1st class by a conductor], she may not have the money to buy first class [I certainly don't], or any other equally valid reason. My heart goes out to the lady who lost her baby due to such ignorant, rude morons. I would not hesitate to offer to share my seat with this lady [taking it in turns] and i have a back condition which precludes me from standing for any amount of time. Manners cost nothing and remember all you meanies; what goes round comes round, and you get what you give.

ThinkingOfLinking

PeteW wrote: »

Of course I would, and I'm disgusted that so many people wouldn't, clearly you've never seen how exhausting pregnancy can be - a friend of mine was still commuting when she was heavily pregnant and passed out on a regular basis as !!!!!! on the tube wouldn't give up their seats.

Crowded trains are dangerous places for pregnant women - a friend of my wife lost her baby at 35 weeks when I busy commuter elbowed her bump trying to rush past her. If people had given up their seat that baby would be alive. Perhaps the scum above might like to consider that.

I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope whoever pushed her got arrested for manslaughter (of her baby).

Losinmoney

YES every time! Pregnancy is unbelievably uncomfortable, and you were all in the womb once, I suppose.

SusanC_2

keys wrote: »

I definately would NOT...a pregnant lady - is NOT ill !!!!!

I was. I may have chosen the pregnancy bit but I definitely didn't choose the ill bit. Having said that I was too ill to stand to sing the hymns at church (or even to sing them for that matter) so in the unlikely event that I had managed to make it to a train you wouldn't have seen me standing - I would have had to sit on the floor as I physically wouldn't have been able to stand.

Also the idea that she should have booked makes a lot of presuppositions. Maybe she is making a journey which couldn't be planned in advance. Maybe she tried to book but couldn't. Maybe she was too ill to book. Maybe someone else is in her seat and she can't get them to move. Maybe she has a booked seat but can't get to it because the train is crowded and she is huge.

I would definitely offer a seat to anyone I thought needed it more than I did.

crowjane

What a bunch of miseries on this thread!

`I have not read all responses so forgive me if I am judging too harshly but - honestly if I see a hugely pg woman standing while i am seated I am not going to sit there smugly in my seat judging her for not booking - I will offer my seat, as I wish would have been done more often for me (I have had 3 children in the last 3 years).

I always book in advance when travelling long distance by train; but I know that occasionally things happen that require unplanned journey's. Even when you are pregnant. I find the mean and judgy tone of some of the responses to this dilemma very depressing. It is the most basic of manners to offer seats to those more in need. As I am always travelling with very young children I am not often in a position to offer seats to others (usually carrying a small baby) but when I can I do, as I was brought up to do so.

HeimRoller

A simple yes.

I would never ever contemplate sitting if there was any female standing anywhere, whatever her condition.

That said, it is now policy on South West trains (and I am sure many others) that pregnant women can be put in first class if they do not have a seat.

jkmum

I don't know how people can sit on a train and watch while someone who needs a seat suffers. It happens to me all the time on the tyne & wear metro when I get on with my nearly 3 year old and people watch her try and stand while the train is moving around. People just look away, pretend to be asleep or buried in their paper. I would love to know what people actually think of themselves behaving like that :mad:

As for those saying she should have reserved a seat - well you don't know the circumstances for her not having one and it's not for you to judge. All that gets me through these :mad: moments is knowing what goes around comes around and they'll get theirs one day :rotfl:

Jacopo

Yes, of course.

(Provided I'm not asleep that is... I ALWAYS fall asleep when travelling!!)

JayD

Maybe she couldn't book a seat in advance. Maybe she has been forced to travel in response to a family emergency. Maybe she hasn't access to a computer or the internet. Maybe she couldn't afford a pre-booked ticket.

Maybe we should all start becoming compassionate human beings again ...

Yes I would give her my seat.