MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Would you give up a £50 train seat for a pregnant woman?

honeypop

whosforachat wrote: »

Anyway, what if you got it wrong and she really was just fat?

I have never seen a heavily pregnant woman who you could mistake for just being very fat - It is a very different shape!

Rico2

An emphatic YES - because it would help her (whatever the reasons for her being there and in that state) and it would make me feel good at the same time. What a wonderful society it would be if this did not have to be labelled "a dilemma" in the first place.

jennie65

nope, the woman is pregnant not ill. I have been pregnant and honestly was quite fit and able throughout.

Now if i were needing to travel a long way i would book a seat as I have pain in hips and knees and this would be made worse by standing all that way. If she needed a seat then she should have booked one.

Also people should not assume that just because you look fit and healthy that you are. I do not look like I have a hip condition, i wont limp in public, I have had surgeries to alleviate pain, but would certainly not be able to stand for a long while and why should I

whosforachat

honeypop wrote: »

I have never seen a heavily pregnant woman who you could mistake for just being very fat - It is a very different shape!

Maybe, but why risk it in this body-conscious age?

sabz_saver

Well to be openly honest if I paid £50 for a seat, and saw a heavely pregnant women standing with great difficulty then yes, I would give up my seat to her as morally the situation would pull at my heart strings, but at the same time I would think, why didnt you just book online, then again I would feel sorry for her not knowing the circumstances she may be in. I know I know its not my problem to be thinking about individuals personal life and circumstances, I guess I think that way because, when I was heavily pregnant I was rarely offered a seat by any one able to stand on public transport and understand how it feels. Im just a softy...

smk77

honeypop wrote: »

I have never seen a heavily pregnant woman who you could mistake for just being very fat - It is a very different shape!

What about a fat women who is heavily pregnant? What shape is she?

Rockerchick,_75

robpw2 wrote: »

yes but why should i have to explain about my disability etc just because people cannot see it untill i have to try and stand and move around .

I am sorry but you do not know everyones back story

i book a seat if possible because other wise i have to stand in agony being thrown around a very fast moving train but because i am not old .. pregnant or a women i get the greif from people like you for not wanting to give up my seat to someone else ..

if it was my mum .. id be very worried if she got pregnant ... over 60 ...
my sister .. she would understand about my disability wht happens then do you pick straws to see who deserves it more ..

would a pregnant women give up a seat for an old lady ?

i know for a fact that old people and women with childeren do not want to give up their fold down seat at front of buses for someone in a wheelchair ..

Fair Play on your comments.....

to repond:
I have never given greif to another about seating etc. So in fact you would not get grief from me. And I would not presume to do so. Its called ettiquette.

Its very true about not knowing back storys, the point I was trying to make is that ettiquette is a dying art. And for us to try and put ourselves in anothers shoes.

Where I grew up (in a small town) most folk had decent manners and anyone needing a seat on a bus/train etc got it because others that were more able to stand automatically gave up their seat.

rogthedodge_3

I'd like to think I would have a quiet word with the pregnant lady to enquire whether she was in discomfort and would, therefore, benefit from my seat. Hopefully this would not offend her, and would allow her to decline my offer if she was fine standing.

chou_123

I would always offer my seat - not just to a pregnant women, but also to an elderly person, or visibly disabled person whatever I had paid for it, partly because I've been brought up that it is good manners to do so, but also partly because as a young male, I would feel so guilty if I remained sitting down.

CarlB360

Can't believe how judgemental some people are! Whether you reserved the seat or not it's the same crap standard seat that you'd get if you didn't reserve, Of course you'd give it up. Everyone assumes the woman had a choice of getting that train! And some even assume she's using state money to bring up her child. What if is she was wearing a top grade (pregnancy) business suit. What if you overhear her conversation that she had to get the train last minute to get to her relatives deathbed and her car had just been wrecked?

It's just a seat - give it up

What next - Kick older folk off because they have alzheimers and didn't pre book? (yeah I know prejudgemental - not all older people have alzheimers / bad memories)

Bring back chivalry - That was the backbone of being English:mad: