Can the CSA leave father destitute ? ? ?

pd001

Soubrette wrote: »

And when you have kids who have 14 have a couple of 100 quid a month to spend (assuming the give as much pocket money as you can is true) then don't blame the PWC is your kid has little incentive to work, budget or refrain from total self indulgence :rolleyes:

I can see the reasoning too - if all you are interested in is punishing your ex and not at all interested in what's best for your child.

Some people just hate their exes so much more than they love their children

Sou

As I said for some people the advice given is the advice that they will take. We are all different, and we all take different steps in life.

Going on the dole was an option for me, albeit in different circumstances, but an option all the same.
An option, I choose to add, that I did not take.

Soubrette

pd001 wrote: »

As I said for some people the advice given is the advice that they will take. We are all different, and we all take different steps in life.

Going on the dole was an option for me, albeit in different circumstances, but an option all the same.
An option, I choose to add, that I did not take.

But one of the options presented to me was to deny my ex access to his children to punish him for not paying a fair proportion of his income as child maintenance.

I do not even consider that an option and would strongly advise any other PWC considering it, to think again about the needs of the children.

I would never ever say I understood why some people would do it (unless it were down to the safety of the children) because I simply do not understand it.

The same with deliberately avoiding paying maintenance for your children - who are you actually punishing, in the end?

Sou

Zara33

pd001 wrote: »

As I said for some people the advice given is the advice that they will take. We are all different, and we all take different steps in life.

Going on the dole was an option for me, albeit in different circumstances, but an option all the same.
An option, I choose to add, that I did not take.

Let's be honest here Jamie's "advice" certainly isn't the best advice being given is it. After having a few run in's with him today i would personally give this poster's advice a wide berth.

pd001

Soubrette wrote: »

But one of the options presented to me was to deny my ex access to his children to punish him for not paying a fair proportion of his income as child maintenance.
Been there done that,
my whole family (me, grandparents, my sisters and brothers) were forbidden from seeing my children by the pwc. All due to the pwc's spitefulness.

I do not even consider that an option and would strongly advise any other PWC considering it, to think again about the needs of the children.
I knew that you were a good person

I would never ever say I understood why some people would do it (unless it were down to the safety of the children) because I simply do not understand it.
Spitefulness, well it was in my case

The same with deliberately avoiding paying maintenance for your children - who are you actually punishing, in the end?
Not applicable

pd001

Zara33 wrote: »

Let's be honest here Jamie's "advice" certainly isn't the best advice being given is it. After having a few run in's with him today i would personally give this poster's advice a wide berth.

I never said that is was good advice, I merely said I could understand his reasoning.

Bye the way, I can see that you have had a couple of skirmishes with him during the course of today
I read most of the posts on this forum and today has been a very busy day indeed. People falling out all over the place... laughable really

Soubrette

I'm prepared to admit I'm an ok person most of the time

I agree with you about spite - it is why my ex would rather throw things in the bin that let the children bring them home to me (and yet is always happy to accept things from this house from the children :rolleyes:).

I was the NRP for about 6 months and he used to cry if one of the children wanted to visit me (luckily we were separated and I used to see the children every day to take them to school anyway)that came out very recently so about 5 years after the fact.

I know all about spite and alot of maintenance issues are in my opinion all about spite too

Sou

pd001

Soubrette wrote: »

I'm prepared to admit I'm an ok person most of the time

I agree with you about spite - it is why my ex would rather throw things in the bin that let the children bring them home to me (and yet is always happy to accept things from this house from the children :rolleyes:).

I was the NRP for about 6 months and he used to cry if one of the children wanted to visit me (luckily we were separated and I used to see the children every day to take them to school anyway)that came out very recently so about 5 years after the fact.

I know all about spite and alot of maintenance issues are in my opinion all about spite too

Sou

Wholeheartedly agree with you here

Soubrette

pd001 wrote: »

Wholeheartedly agree with you here

Just to be clear - I meant on both sides

Anyway - now it's my turn to say - have one on me :beer:

Sou

pd001

Soubrette wrote: »

Just to be clear - I meant on both sides

Anyway - now it's my turn to say - have one on me :beer:

Sou

I ll have a half thanks, driving tonight

Zara33

pd001 wrote: »

I never said that is was good advice, I merely said I could understand his reasoning.

Bye the way, I can see that you have had a couple of skirmishes with him during the course of today
I read most of the posts on this forum and today has been a very busy day indeed. People falling out all over the place... laughable really

Hardly falling out just pointing out a few lies.