Re: Really Upset - Need Help - Feel Conned

JanCee

You have already been given good advice by your own solicitor that this would not be in your best interests, so just tell your boyfriend that - end of discussion as far as you are concerned.

Pee

It's unanimous. None of us think you should sign.

It is possible that this is something his solicitor suggested rather than him, so do give him the benfit of the doubt, but you do need to get the Declaration of Trust sorted.

You are not stupid, and if he is going to try treating you as such, it is clear he is going to have a surprise.

Good luck!

kunekune

You have a good solicitor ... Stick to your guns.

sunnysea83

i cant beleive that your boyfriend bought this up with his solicitor with out even talking to you about it.

when i purchased my house my boyfriend had to sign something as he lives here but isnt on the mortgage. not sure if its the same but he was advised by my sols to see solicitor as she couldnt act for him due to conflict reasons.

I still cant beleive he had the cheek not to talk it over with you

gazfocus

Let us know what you decided and how your conversation with you boyfriend went when you got home

Tozer

sunnysea83 wrote: »

i cant beleive that your boyfriend bought this up with his solicitor with out even talking to you about it.

when i purchased my house my boyfriend had to sign something as he lives here but isnt on the mortgage. not sure if its the same but he was advised by my sols to see solicitor as she couldnt act for him due to conflict reasons.

I still cant beleive he had the cheek not to talk it over with you

Couple of things. Firstly, we don't know that the boyfriend did bring this up with his solicitor.

The thing you signed probably related to an occupier's rights form - very different.

silvercar

If you are friendly of course you would let him remortgage to a lower rate for the same amount.

If you split up what are the reasons you would stop him remortgaging if it didn't effect the amount owed? Only if you wanted to use the situation to persuade him to reduce the level of mortgage. You may want to do this if the equity was eaten up by reduced prices or he had arrears or you wanted the place sold.

As he has the power (by paying the mortgage) of getting the place repossessed and arrears eating into your equity, you may feel justified in having this control. But explain to him that htat is the only situation that it would be important. So if he has no intention of using the mortgage to manipulate you, it shouldn't be an issue.

newbie2009

hi there peops. so far my solictor has agreed the land registry states in joints name ie i'm noted. secondly she has stated he can re-mortgage but only for the same amt without my permision, so i have a roof over my head.

i think thats fair so will just wait outcome!

gismo1554

newbie2009 wrote: »

hi there peops. so far my solictor has agreed the land registry states in joints name ie i'm noted. secondly she has stated he can re-mortgage but only for the same amt without my permision, so i have a roof over my head.

i think thats fair so will just wait outcome!

What did your boyfriend say? Was he OK about it all?

Rick62

newbie2009 wrote: »

More than welcome to come round but just found out whats worse is that his solicitor has advised him that my solicitor is out for the money!!! the cheek! me thinks maybe his solicitor is?!

I'm afraid I don't understand what he says his lawyer is now suggesting, if you should have something that shows that you owe 2/3rds or not, your first email was not clear.

However, this claim above sounds very worrying to me. I don't believe any lawyer would have said this, it would be totally unprofessional and could cause him to be struck off if he went around defaming other lawyers.

If his lawyer didn't say it, then your partner made it up. This is abusive behaviour from a control freak, trying to disparage your advisor in order to manipulate you into signing something that you don't want.

I may be totally wrong, I've never met the guy and am only relying on your (not very clear) explanation of what is happening. However you need to ask, is he a toxic manipulator? If so you have bigger questions to consider.