Divorce-but where is she?

wackyjacobeany

amber, i came on her about advice for one matter and you are trying to take this somewhere else for some strange reason.

This is what you quoted me

'She ran out on him leaving him in debt with house being repossesed and leaving behind there daughter as well.FACT So please no sympathy for her.'

'I dont think she ever was of sound mind'.FACT

'Believe me she was in the wrong when she left.'.FACT

'She is in hiding from what she has done and cant face up to her family or ours' FACT.


I also believe that you dont know what goes on behind somebody else front door.

Also i believe in practice what you preach therefore that comment about your ex is going against exactly what you said to me about negative comments:rotfl::rotfl:

Amber_Sunshine

You seem determined to misinterpret what I say.

My point about my ex was that he could tell people who have never met me that it was all my fault, and they would probably believe it because they would not have heard anything from me. Don't twist what I have said to use against me. I could tell you some horrendous stories, but I don't want to give details any more than it seems you do, and I don't care whether people believe me or not. I have moved on.

You are insisting that what you are posting is FACT, well interpreting that literally how can we be sure of that, just because you say so? The more you insist that you are right, the less convincing you sound.

If you wanted advice solely on the divorce aspect, then you should have stuck to asking about that, and not bringing your PERSONAL feelings about your SIL into it.

Frankly all you are achieving is making me have more sympathy for your SIL, and wonder if you were determined never to like her. Maybe you need to look more closely at whether your attitude towards her contributed to her leaving.

Genuinely, I am concerned that she may be depressed or vulnerable. I am sorry, but I cannot see this one-sided version of events as the gospel truth. If you really think that I am wrong about it, then just hit ignore. It's that simple.

CouponWoman

Hi Wackjackobeany.


Maybe your brother will be eligible for legal aid to pursue a divorce and the solicitor will sort out the trace, in fact they quite often employed a PI to trace people, when they had done a disappearing act.

Failing that a solicitor can write to the DWP if the person they are looking for claimed benefits and they can forward letters in special cases. As the woman appears to be suffering from maybe depression or similar she could be signing as sick so might be on income support or DLA.

Good luck to your brother

c_l_a_i_r_e

The wifes whereabouts are known though, the OP has stated the police found her but won't pass her contact details on.

The fact is that the OP's brother can lodge a divorce petition without knowing her address anyway. An application will just have to be made to the court to dispense with service and the circumstances can be explained then.

Tygermoth

Hi there wackyjacobeany,

I believe that Amber Sunshine is 100 percent correct.

You need to hit ignore.



Does the comments of this poster help you in relation to your original enquiry? I believe not, if you agree then i would not continue the discussion any further and draw a line under the matter by hitting the ignore button.

I hope all for your brother sorts its self out.

Kind regards

Tyger

wackyjacobeany

Hi there couponWoman and claire thanks for your advice, I am going to talk to my brother this weekend regarding this.

Thanks again to all who have helped.

Amber - you mention just hit ignore. Please tell me where ignore can be found and I'll quite happily hit it.

k_bagpuss

I had a similar situation - so once we'd been split for 2 years you can apply for divorce with consent. I had no idea why my husband was - I suspected he'd gone to his sisters at first in London so my solicitor sent 2 letters; one to his parents and one to his sister saying basically that if they could forward them on to him, and if he signed within2 weeks and sent them back then he wouldn't have to pay anything. If he didn't sign and send back in 2 weeks we'd take it that he was contesting it and therefore we'd go down the "unreasonable behaviour" route which would prove very costly for him.

My solicitor got the forms back in a week signed!

Amber_Sunshine

I'm a PERSON, not a poster, as is the OP's SIL, and some people obviously find my comments helpful. Find the ignore button yourself. I'm not going to waste any more time on people like you who only ever see things their way. Next time ask the relevant person for advice, like a solicitor. I still don't see why I'm obliged to take your word as the absolute truth, as a trained historian I know how evidence can be twisted.

Now I'm off to do something more productive like clean the cat's litter tray.

BallandChain

It's funny how someone starts a thread and only wants people to see their side. I am concerned for this woman's safety. It isn't normal for a woman to leave her child behind and have no contact with her own family.

c_l_a_i_r_e

BallandChain wrote: »

It's funny how someone starts a thread and only wants people to see their side. I am concerned for this woman's safety. It isn't normal for a woman to leave her child behind and have no contact with her own family.

The fact is that unfortunately it does happen, and for many different reasons. With regards to her safety if the police have been in contact with her and she clearly states she wants no contact with her family i'm not sure what else you expect the OP or her brother to do. I'm sure the police would have acted if there had been any concerns for this womans health and wellbeing.