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In the case of the op, with her ex living in a different country, living a new life with a new family by all accounts, it's not unreasonable for her to want to include her own surname in her childes name. It's not just to make medical appointments easier, it's about your child sharing YOUR name, not about taking on a new name, whether it being that of the ex's, or just a random one. It's about family. (so I sound a bit Eastenders here).
I'm so glad you can see my point! :T
Yes the practical issues are a pain but as i have said before it was never just about that!
obviously i never imagined myself in this position, we were engaged and seperated just weeks before the wedding hence not having a double-barrel name from birth.
Why? My sister did it. She gave her dd her ex's name because they were engaged and planning to marry, she split up from her ex and very soon afterwards found out she was expecting again. To make sure that she and her children all had the same name she changed hers to her ex's.
At the end of the day if it's an issue for the op having a different name than her child then she really has only one sensible option.
we don't know the circumstances surrounding the op's split with her partner. i am currently trying to get my children's surnames changed to mine as their dad is in prison for sexual crimes (towards me) i've been told it's unlikely i will be able to without his permission while my children are so young (3 and 5) but i would certainly never want to take his name after what he has done to me
