I'm frightened to death

xmaslolly76

No logical reason for it i just am. I am now 20 weeks pregnant and i am due for my scan next thursday.

In the last few months three of my friends have lost their babies two very early on and one at the 20 weeks point. I also lost one my self last year. I have two beautifull children and count my blessings everyday for them. I was never this worried carrying them so why am i being so paranoid this time. I have had no problems this time round and i am positively blooming baby is moving well and i even have a monitor so i can hear flump at night when he/she starts kicking the hell out of me. Its seems like a viscious circle i worry then worry that the worrying is gonna cause a problem with the baby which makes me worry more. I'm 33 now and wanted to complete my family before I turned 35. This was so much easier when i was in my twenties and didnt have a care in the world. I think the person who said a little bit of knowledge is a dangerous thing was very correct with the last two i just went with the flow this time i have read every book magazine and pamphlet going and i dont think it has helped at all.

:-( xx

Glamazon

ah (((hugs))) to u.

I am 18+5 and have my scan on Wednesday, I'm also worried about it especially as I have fallen over today!

I am excited about seeing my baby again and hopefully finding out the sex but am also apprehensive that something will show up. i think this is just natural for anyone whether it's their first or sixth baby.

Try not to worry (I know it's hard)

Happy Baby = Happy Mum

Loopy_Lobes

Sorry to hear about you and your friends losing babies, this is bound to have a big effect on you. This is probably why you're reading everything and anything you can get your hands on to try and reassure yourself but it sounds like it's just upsetting you more.

I was nervous before my scans too, it's only natural but you say you're blooming and baby is active so there's no need to worry. Best of luck with it all, I hope you'll be able to relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy when you have seen all is well.

lil_miss_06

Hi Xmaslolly,,i am 19 weeks,i can understand how you feel,but just try and relax and enjoy the pregnancy you and baby will benefit from that.....
all the best,are you going to find out what the baby is??? i am but my scan isnt untill the end of may. xx

xmaslolly76

congrats Glamazon :-)

I blame the lack of antenatal care this time i have only seen my midwife twice during the whole twenty weeks and she has never checked for the heart beat or felt my tummy. This was done everytime with the other two and i was seen at least once every 4 weeks I cant help but feel sorry for the first time moms out there getting that kind of care they must go through hell everytime they get a strange ache or pain or symptom.

I hope your ok after your fall baby should be fine they have a wonderfull cushion to protect them. Apparently we are more prone to falling over at this stage as our centre of gravity changes i nearly went on the car park the other day. Goodluck with your scan i'm going to find out what im having as well :-) xx

jillymit

Firstly congrats to you.
I'm sure you'll feel much better after you've had you scan.
I think it's quite normal to worry when you are expecting even if you've had children with no real problems at all already there's still a kind of feeling you're pushing your luck having another IYKWIM.

Have you talked this over with your partner? It might be worth mentioning your worries at your next check up if it's causing you to loose sleep etc.

xmaslolly76

Yeah i really want to know lil miss. I have one of each already but this is the first for my new partner and i think he is secretly hopeing for a little girl as all his family have had nothing but boys for years now but will be over the moon with either.

xmaslolly76

my partner is being fab with me i couldnt ask for better its a complete new experience with him as the last one was a bit of a jerk didnt want to know until they were born. I may mention it to the midwife but im hopeing as you say i will calm down once this scan is done. My worries have been getting more compounded leading up to it as this is really the last milestone to get past to know that everything is as it should be so to speak. :-) x

Glamazon

xmas - do u post on pregnancy thread? I find it invaluable for reassurance and advice (not medical advice though!) and a good old natter!! Join us and let us know whether you'll be on team pink or blue!!

I had 12w dating scan, 13w private NT scan, 16w Consultant appt which was a waste of time as I didn't need to go so I insisted on hearing HB!

I work in a surgery so asked the MW's to have a listen on Thursday (18w) but if it wasn't for this, private scan and consultant appt I wouldn't have had anything since 12w scan. My next appt after this one is 22weeks with MW - was supposed to be 24 (according to my book) but MW said that was too long to wait. If u have any concerns then just book in to see ur MW it's what they are there for - or at least ring them.

Loopy_Lobes

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

congrats Glamazon :-)

I blame the lack of antenatal care this time i have only seen my midwife twice during the whole twenty weeks and she has never checked for the heart beat or felt my tummy. This was done everytime with the other two and i was seen at least once every 4 weeks I cant help but feel sorry for the first time moms out there getting that kind of care they must go through hell everytime they get a strange ache or pain or symptom.

xmaslolly, if you are ever worried at all about the baby or just want reassaurance that all is OK then phone the midwife and ask to see him/her. That's what they're there for, not just to see you at 'check up' time.

xmaslolly76

I do pop on the pregnancy thread now and then and it is very usefull and full of lovely peeps but unless i have a bit of time to hang around i find i get lost on there and cant keep up lol x