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marshallka

dialysis wrote: »

hello all you lovely people I have not been on today been too busy and tonite had a few whiskies so if my words are a blur sorry hope you are all ok
Di hope you have something sorted with your Dad and you are ok.
my daughter has passed her maths exam so we are really chuffed so proud:T she frightened the life out of me yesterday she rung me in hysterics and I couldnt get out of her what was wrong she eventually said through tears her hair was orange, I could have killed her I thought allsorts , apparently she is a natural blond but had dyed her hair red some weeks ago and decided to go blond again, so she thought it went tango orange. I couldnt help but laugh. She was not amused as her boyfriend had laughed also. anyway she put another colour on on its fine. I couldnt resist youve been tangod. oops sorry Im a bit drunk dont know how I typed all that. its great to forget all the stress for a while;)

Well done to your daughter. Enjoy the rest of your evening dialysis. It will do you good to have a few whilst under the stress you are under.

di3004

Hi Di, thank you.;)X

This afternoon the SS decided to make a visit to the hospital to see dad and the staff, and explained the situation to the Ward sister etc, that it is very important and urgent that a bed must be given to my dad at the local hospital as a matter of urgency, it is actually day by day at the moment, but SS hoping this will be tomorrow.

Well done to your daughter, Congratulations, what a bright spark she is........:beer::T:beer:XXXX

marshallka

di3004 wrote: »

Hi Di, thank you.;)X

This afternoon the SS decided to make a visit to the hospital to see dad and the staff, and explained the situation to the Ward sister etc, that it is very important and urgent that a bed must be given to my dad at the local hospital as a matter of urgency, it is actually day by day at the moment, but SS hoping this will be tomorrow.

Well done to your daughter, Congratulations, what a bright spark she is........:beer::T:beer:XXXX

You will just have to keep on at them Di and make them hear you. Hope its tomorrow then.

di3004

marshallka wrote: »

You will just have to keep on at them Di and make them hear you. Hope its tomorrow then.

Cheers Marshallka.;)
I know Social services did give the hospital a good talking to today apparentely, she decided to go directly to them.
My older bruv Jeff have also been helping out a lot today as well, and he is very straight to the point, polite but blunt then.:D;).
Yes hopefully tomorrow, again fingers crossed. XXX

amersall

hi all, you keep on at them di, we are all more educated now in lots of things, their not god, when my mum was in hospital last year most of the staff were really nice, except one, my mum had messed herself and i told this nurse so that she could change her, 20 mins later we were still waiting so i went to find this nurse and she was in the room where you could get a cup of tea laughing with two other nurses!!! i stormed in and gave her a real peice of my mind ( how i did not grab her by the throat i dont know) anyway to cut a long story short my mum did not get the care that she needed and starved to death,that was not on the death certificate though, she looked like a prisoner from belson, the two weeks she was in she hardly ate anything (she only had an infection) we went in at all hours to get her to eat small amounts when we were not there the meal trays were just put down and then taken away. i had a go at everyone by the time that two weeks were up, when i visited my mum there was an old chap who clearly had dementia (my mum did not, but i wish she had as she would not have been aware of what was happening to her bless her) but this chap fell out of bed twice and the nurses were stood at the nurses station chatting and laughing, they were in front of the four bed ward as the patients need to be constantly monitered , i helped him back in bed the first time but when he fell out again i shouted the nurses and one just said oh he has done that a few times!!! i know most of nhs staff are really good we had a couple who could not do enough for mum, but sadly she died last july, the news has had an item about the elderly not getting proper care in hospital, so it still goes on, just because you are elderly doesnt mean you shouldnt have the care you need, so di you keep at them and dont be afraid to open your mouth ,and make sure your dad is getting nourishment, i hope your dad doesnt have to wait long to get the bed he needs xx

maxdp

amersall wrote: »

hi all, you keep on at them di, we are all more educated now in lots of things, their not god, when my mum was in hospital last year most of the staff were really nice, except one, my mum had messed herself and i told this nurse so that she could change her, 20 mins later we were still waiting so i went to find this nurse and she was in the room where you could get a cup of tea laughing with two other nurses!!! i stormed in and gave her a real peice of my mind ( how i did not grab her by the throat i dont know) anyway to cut a long story short my mum did not get the care that she needed and starved to death,that was not on the death certificate though, she looked like a prisoner from belson, the two weeks she was in she hardly ate anything (she only had an infection) we went in at all hours to get her to eat small amounts when we were not there the meal trays were just put down and then taken away. i had a go at everyone by the time that two weeks were up, when i visited my mum there was an old chap who clearly had dementia (my mum did not, but i wish she had as she would not have been aware of what was happening to her bless her) but this chap fell out of bed twice and the nurses were stood at the nurses station chatting and laughing, they were in front of the four bed ward as the patients need to be constantly monitered , i helped him back in bed the first time but when he fell out again i shouted the nurses and one just said oh he has done that a few times!!! i know most of nhs staff are really good we had a couple who could not do enough for mum, but sadly she died last july, the news has had an item about the elderly not getting proper care in hospital, so it still goes on, just because you are elderly doesnt mean you shouldnt have the care you need, so di you keep at them and dont be afraid to open your mouth ,and make sure your dad is getting nourishment, i hope your dad doesnt have to wait long to get the bed he needs xx

Hi Amersall

So sorry about what happened with your mum. I totally agree with you about the care. There are some good ones out there but sadly there are as many who are useless. It makes your blood boil doesn't it.:mad:

pinknico

Really sorry to hear about your mum amersall. xx

amersall

thanks max and pinknico, the only comfort was she had a crumbling spine for years and was in a lot of pain, i would not want her back to keep suffering that, she worked full time till she was 65 then she retired and everything went down with her health from there on in, she worked all her life and boy could she graft, my dad died when i was 10 and i was the eldest of five, he was only 32 so she was left with 5 of us to bring up so had to work, and i must say she did a pretty damn good job, she has earnt her rest and i hope that whatever is after this life she is happy and pain free now, ps, i am an orphan now does anyone want to adopt a 49 year old lol

di3004

amersall wrote: »

hi all, you keep on at them di, we are all more educated now in lots of things, their not god, when my mum was in hospital last year most of the staff were really nice, except one, my mum had messed herself and i told this nurse so that she could change her, 20 mins later we were still waiting so i went to find this nurse and she was in the room where you could get a cup of tea laughing with two other nurses!!! i stormed in and gave her a real peice of my mind ( how i did not grab her by the throat i dont know) anyway to cut a long story short my mum did not get the care that she needed and starved to death,that was not on the death certificate though, she looked like a prisoner from belson, the two weeks she was in she hardly ate anything (she only had an infection) we went in at all hours to get her to eat small amounts when we were not there the meal trays were just put down and then taken away. i had a go at everyone by the time that two weeks were up, when i visited my mum there was an old chap who clearly had dementia (my mum did not, but i wish she had as she would not have been aware of what was happening to her bless her) but this chap fell out of bed twice and the nurses were stood at the nurses station chatting and laughing, they were in front of the four bed ward as the patients need to be constantly monitered , i helped him back in bed the first time but when he fell out again i shouted the nurses and one just said oh he has done that a few times!!! i know most of nhs staff are really good we had a couple who could not do enough for mum, but sadly she died last july, the news has had an item about the elderly not getting proper care in hospital, so it still goes on, just because you are elderly doesnt mean you shouldnt have the care you need, so di you keep at them and dont be afraid to open your mouth ,and make sure your dad is getting nourishment, i hope your dad doesnt have to wait long to get the bed he needs xx

Hi amersall,
So sorry to hear what you been through as well, and your poor mum as well, how sad this is.....
Your right though, we do need to keep on, all morning I have been ringing the hospital he is in now, and also contacted his SS, she was ringing at the other hospital and has an arrangement with a ward sister to ring the hospital about a bed as soon as one comes up.
Apparentely the hosital only has 12 respite beds,(the main part for dementia patients) but they are also looking towards the unit next door to that as well, which also has 12 beds, so whatever comes up first.
We are to keep ringing basically.
My older brother will be away as from tomorrow for 2 weeks, but my other sister stepping in to help as well, as she has the weekend off for the bank hols.
I made sure with the SS that is did not make any difference due to the bank hols, she said as dad is urgent for the very next bed, it will make no difference at all.
Again Amersall sorry to hear of the experience you have been through as well.;)XXXX

maxdp

amersall wrote: »

thanks max and pinknico, the only comfort was she had a crumbling spine for years and was in a lot of pain, i would not want her back to keep suffering that, she worked full time till she was 65 then she retired and everything went down with her health from there on in, she worked all her life and boy could she graft, my dad died when i was 10 and i was the eldest of five, he was only 32 so she was left with 5 of us to bring up so had to work, and i must say she did a pretty damn good job, she has earnt her rest and i hope that whatever is after this life she is happy and pain free now, ps, i am an orphan now does anyone want to adopt a 49 year old lol

Me me me me :rotfl:I will.