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Today I turned away work. :eek::shocked::shocked:_pale_ Do I want to get out of debt or do I not want to get out of debt? It was a job I've taken on fairly recently, with a fixed price per chapter (of which there are 22, so not to be sniffed at), but having done the first two chapters I found that it was taking me about three times longer per chapter than I would expect it to take if I was charging the same fee on an hourly rate. (If this doesn't make sense, probably I should not have been doing the job anyway.) I am so stressed at the moment that I can't be taking on jobs at a loss. But it still goes against the grain. I even managed not to write back and beg to keep the job even when they said there was no room for manoeuvre in the fee. I think I should be proud of myself for standing my ground, but but but ...
I am also worried because I am expecting a huge job from the same publisher later in the year and now I think they may not send it to me. The one I've just turned away is the first I've done for them, so it's not a great advert for me. Still, I'll cross that bridge when and if I come to it.
Bunnies arrived today! But not the hutch, so they are in a halfway house with Domestic Goddess 2, who of course keeps hens and has paraphernalia around to take in stragglers. Unlike those of us who are not domestic goddesses and are completely unprepared for anything.
AND favoured friend announced he was coming to visit next week and I said that I really was too busy (absolutely true) to be able to manage work and a visitor. He's disappointed; I am relieved. I am a bad, bad, ungrateful person. But I couldn't cope with the stess of work and entertaining.
I took my blood pressure today, expecting it to have gone through the roof. But the reading was actually better than it was a couple of months ago. I am not a hypochondriac, by the way, but I was getting a tad anxious about stress levels. But now I know it's OK, I can carry on working into the night."Green pastures are before me,
Which yet I have not seen;"
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Today I turned away work. :eek::shocked::shocked:_pale_ Do I want to get out of debt or do I not want to get out of debt? It was a job I've taken on fairly recently, with a fixed price per chapter (of which there are 22, so not to be sniffed at), but having done the first two chapters I found that it was taking me about three times longer per chapter than I would expect it to take if I was charging the same fee on an hourly rate. (If this doesn't make sense, probably I should not have been doing the job anyway.) I am so stressed at the moment that I can't be taking on jobs at a loss. But it still goes against the grain. I even managed not to write back and beg to keep the job even when they said there was no room for manoeuvre in the fee. I think I should be proud of myself for standing my ground, but but but...
I am also worried because I am expecting a huge job from the same publisher later in the year and now I think they may not send it to me. The one I've just turned away is the first I've done for them, so it's not a great advert for me. Still, I'll cross that bridge when and if I come to it.
OTOH they may have gone for a chapter fee knowing perfectly well it was in a state, and thinking they'd get away with it... and may be impressed that you clearly have quality standards and know your stuff. I'm proud of you for standing your ground, and you'll get your good karmic reward somehow.
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Apparently the two boy bunnies I took in because they were dumped on someone's doorstep and no one would give them a home are not both boys. And I know that how?"Green pastures are before me,
Which yet I have not seen;"
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Baby bunnies? How lovely!
Well done on turning away work. That is a really grown-up thing to do. And I'm sure you'll get karmic reward for it.
I had to turn down two freelance jobs in the last month, when my mum got ill and then died. And in my inbox this morning? Two more offers of work!Total debt: 1 January 2007 £[strike]49,387.79[/strike] 1 January 2012 £[STRIKE]19,312.85[/STRIKE] 1 August 2012 £11,517.620 -
Baby bunnies? How lovely!
Well done on turning away work. That is a really grown-up thing to do. And I'm sure you'll get karmic reward for it.
I had to turn down two freelance jobs in the last month, when my mum got ill and then died. And in my inbox this morning? Two more offers of work!
Now, that is karmic reward. Will you be able to do the jobs OK? Don't stress yourself out too much - you have to give yourself a "looking after you" period (although without worrying about money either ...). I hope you and your family are coping all right. Take care of yourself, Seax."Green pastures are before me,
Which yet I have not seen;"
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I am going to have to come up with a plan. That's never worked in the past, but I suppose I must give it another shot.
The cats and I have just got back from the vet. I had to get the kitten vaccinated and as I've never got the older boys done I decided to go for a job lot. That was €140. And it'll be the same again in three weeks' time when they go back for their boosters.
So, I was thinking, €150 each year for vaccinating cats, €70 a year for vaccinating the Tart, a farrier every six to eight weeks for the donkeys at €40 a time, a year's supply of carrots, periodic vet bills because they are a clumsy lot, rabbit creche fees, hay and straw for whoever needs it and various other sundry beasty expenses ... That's an awful lot of dosh to find. Hence the need for a plan.
But first I need a little lie down in a darkened room.
Oh, and it's going to be €50 to neuter the boy bunny and €80 for the girl. And I will have to decide whether to vaccinate them. I can't even think about the baby bunnies yet. Daddy bun has been relegated to the shed - this is extremely unsatisfactory from his point of view and mine, but I couldn't leave him in the hutch and had nowhere else to put him. He is not a happy bunny.
And I am supposed to get the donkeys chipped and issued with passports. I don't know how much that is. I would prefer to stay in blissful ignorance, but that is against the law, so I should find out. Not now, though.
Today I bought three months' car tax, which was €108.
Not exactly a NSD. Definitely not after I've bought that bottle of wine to take home with me.
Still cheaper than children though, so mustn't grumble."Green pastures are before me,
Which yet I have not seen;"
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There you go - a saving already. Went from here to my inbox and found a book to edit - it's probably best not to do it with a glass of wine in my hand. Sigh."Green pastures are before me,
Which yet I have not seen;"
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