Taking my finger off the self-destruct button

savingwannabe

Stay happy Wordsmith. I agree with everyone. Dont beat yourself up. You are you and great. No need to worry about things we all like you as you are and clearly your boss does too.

startagain_2

Hope all is well, Wordsmith, and that you are managing to keep up to the challenge of the various work commitments.
Feel free to come and give me grief about the Ex anytime you like - I deserve it
Big hug
SA

chevalier

Wordsmith was it you who needed a new mobile phone?

Lula-Hula

Wordsy - sorry I have nothing of substance to add re the wedding & gift as startagain & others have expressed all my thoughts so eloquently.

All I can say at this point is that you are a wonderful person & we all have Big Black Dog days when the periphery seems like an impenetrable barbed wire fence

(I wanted to say 'insurmountable', but then became racked with indecision as to whether it was actually unsurmountable :undecided)

I loathe a good cliche but to be honest, & at the end of the day, in the grand scheme of things, whether you bought an extra wedding present or not is not a big deal.

On the other hand if you were a low-down, sneaky being ... you could always come up with a rather fab 'welcome home to your new married life together' gift. Maybe some hand picked flowers or a bottle of wine left at their house for when they return .


Off to look in the dictionary now, happy Monday to you
xx

RosaBernicia

Lula-Hula wrote: »

On the other hand if you were a low-down, sneaky being ... you could always come up with a rather fab 'welcome home to your new married life together' gift. Maybe some hand picked flowers or a bottle of wine left at their house for when they return .

Or, if you were to nick a much-appreciated idea from a friend of my cousins, you could give them a bottle of wine when they get back together with a different one for each month of the first year. (Replace wine with other treat if case of wine feels expensive.) Thoughtful and gives them a reminder and mini-celebration x 12.

(must keep this in brain for next friend who gets married...)

Rosa xx

savingwannabe

OOh Rosa very good idea!

lionheartedgirl

*waves at Wordsmith*

I think £20-30 is fine for a wedding present if you know someone well and like/respect them. People get so much stuff, the little personal touches are the ones that are remembered. The last 2 friends' weddings I have been to, I have just taken my gift of music and that has been that.

When I got married the first time, we were pushed into a gift list as well, we didn't want to do anything other than leave a list with my ex hubby's mum. We had lived together for a while so had most things we needed. We got a couple of quirky bits and loved them.

Don't get me started on 'clubbing together' with people you don't like :mad:

Hope you are doing OK and the menagerie are behaving I get confused as to who is a dog and who is a cat but I love hearing about them all :cool:

DDpimp

Ello you.Poped by to catch up,sorry for not being around for some time but was called away to ....hmmm.Any whooo I must agree with the general thought that you are beating yourself up too much over this,after all from what I know of you(I know this not to be a great deal) you should be secure in the knowledge that you are a just indvidual.Be well and good to yourself.

Wordsmith

Thank you everyone.

Lula-Hula wrote: »

in the grand scheme of things, whether you bought an extra wedding present or not is not a big deal.

I know, I know. I don't know why I was so upset - partly I didn't want lovely boss man to think I was ungrateful, mainly because I felt stitched up by colleague.

RosaBernicia wrote: »

you could give them a bottle of wine when they get back together with a different one for each month of the first year. (Replace wine with other treat if case of wine feels expensive.) Thoughtful and gives them a reminder and mini-celebration x 12.

What a lovely thought for a wedding present!

Anyway, I am over it now. Sort of. And I say this with no special tone of voice or particular facial expression, but half the wedding party came back with a stomach bug, caught off one of the flower girls. Unfortunately, the bride and groom also got this, but fortunately it was a 24-hour thing and they weren't flying off on their honeymoon until Tuesday. And from their honeymoon, lovely boss man has just phoned me to say that he has ordered coal to be delivered - quite what his bride thought about this spot of business on the beach I don't know ... but I can guess.

I did have rather ignoble thoughts about a present on their return, but after giving myself a good slapping, I have decided to let it lie. Except favoured friend is visiting, and I forgot that I had asked him to bring some Somerset cider over so that I could give it to lovely boss man to try, so in a way I am going to be doing it anyway.

Enough of this knot I have tied myself in. I am going to start acting like a grown-up now. Well, for some of the time anyway.

Wordsmith

startagain wrote: »

Feel free to come and give me grief about the Ex anytime you like - I deserve it

Yes, you do. But only because you are lovely and deserving of so much better.