My C-section went wrong..advice needed please

lynn44

So sorry it happened to you, glad you have a wonderful son.
I spent nearly 3 weeks in hospital the 3 days after the second op I cant remember much I was so heavily drugged my partner said I was horrible but he understood it wasnt me..

I will complain Im not sure whether to go straight to a solicitor or pals have been told many things my head still spinning, But I have most written down, plus notes in my mobile when I stayed in Hospital.

As I said I am most upset this being my last baby and unable to breastfeed I loved the closeness we felt the first few days of his life

All hospital staff need to listen and understand please....even back in hospital the 2nd and 3rd time I was put under water restriction because my legs felt like they were going to burst.
My wee's had to be measured, I asked the auxurilary (sorry cant spell it ) nurse to make sure it was tested as they needed to test me for something...Hour later the sister came in and asked if I had a wee ? holding my notes in her hand!!
I said I dont believe this I made it quite clear it needed to be tested. The sister apoligised it had been tipped away!!

Then I had 4 lots of "hats" lined up in my toilet waiting to be measured I got sick of asking staff to empty them so I tipped them away ( purely found it embarassing when visiters called ) sister said dont worry we only want to measure what your drinking??? then night sister would come on and have a fit it was not being done properly!!

elastigirl

Hope you get the result you are after.
ds= dear son not daughter :rotfl:
I couldn't breastfeed either as he didn't want my milk after 6-7 hours of not being with me. Midwife refused him a bottle during this time too as they wanted me to breastfeed i was quite shocked that he hadn't had a drop in nearly 7 hours. In the end the midwife had to spoon feed him some milk as he lost his suction. Then as on a cocktail of drugs i wasn't allowed to even try and feed him when i was well enough and he when he wanted to.

lynn44

oops sorry
I am still trying at home now I have stopped taking all the drugs
but when I express no milk our baby now 24 days old ( still no name ) shall I keep trying ?

MadDogWoman_2

Re the breastfeeding,

Keep trying also try contacting the NCT or La Leche league for some advice.

It is possible, but it takes work, there is plenty of advice on the internet as well, try https://www.kellymom.com.

But if it's not working, don't stress, it's more important that your son has a happy mum.

HTH

MDW

tsstss7

lynn44 wrote: »

oops sorry
I am still trying at home now I have stopped taking all the drugs
but when I express no milk our baby now 24 days old ( still no name ) shall I keep trying ?

Lynn when my ds2 was born I couldn't bf at first and ended up expressing purely to keep it going - however I found I was producing less and less and ended up holding the baby to the breast before each bottle feed to stimulate instead and it seemed to work much better. I started to do a proper bf in the middle of the night also (as that is one of the best times to keep the milk flowing) and eventually I returned to fully breastfeeding. However I was told that the first six weeks of breastfeeding sets up your supply so I presume that means it's not too late for you if you really want to.

I'd recommend seeing a breastfeeding councillor though or going to a local bf group as they can really help with your confidence.

Sorry to hear about your problems with your cs scar too...mine was infected for ages after LO was born and if it was't for my regular gp who gave me an antibiotic with something else in it to help dry the scar up I think it would still be bad.

KellyWelly

How awful, it sounds like something from a horror film. I had two sections, both times the wound was infected and opened back up. The first time I went to see my GP who told me to squeeze the puss out and keep it clean!! I eventually got some anti biotics and it was sorted. The second time I was discharged on day 3 (so only two nights in hospital) and the wound was infected and open the next day. The sickness-cover midwife who saw me said there was nothing wrong with it when she called in but when I saw it was open I phoned the ward (where really I should still have been!) and the midwife on the phone told me it was infected because I was fat. Of course I had a fat tummy, I'd had a baby 3 days before.

I wish I had made a complaint, especially the second time. The care my babies and I had in the hospital was awful and I'd never have stood for it or accepted the BS I was fed at any other time but personally I was all over the place physically and mentally at the time. Good luck to you OP.

chameli

hi there
i had a c section and was treated quite badly, not as bad as urs but i can understand how painful it must of been.
Pls do something about it cos hospitals get away for acting like this due to people like me who lets them get away.
Contact PAL services which should be in the hospital, they can advice you how to make a complain as that is what they are there for.
pls get compensation for the horrid time. TAKE them to Court.
hope its all better now. x

Natalie6999

I can understand how you feel about your c-section, although I didn't get an infection, I felt that mine was forced on me.

I had pre eclampsia, was induced at 37 weeks, after 24 hours I had my waters broken & the full force of the contractions hit me. On my birth plan I had put that I wanted to avoid an epidural & wanted meptid or diamorphine as my primary pain relief, the midwife told me "my ladies have an epidural" I again asked for what I wanted & was told that an anaesthetist had been called to give me an epidural. After a further two hours the anaesthetist came & by that time I was in such agony that I agreed to the epidural as I could not cope any longer.

The consultant kept on upping the syntocin to get my contractions going, but after the epidural I could not move to try & help things along, when a further 18 hours had passed I was dilated to 8cm, the consultant refused to wait any longer, thrust a consent form in my hand & I had an emergency CS.

At no time was anything explained to me as to why I had to have a cs & this has caused me to have severe postnatal depression which I am still having problems with after five years.

thatgirlsam

chameli wrote: »

hi there
i had a c section and was treated quite badly, not as bad as urs but i can understand how painful it must of been.
Pls do something about it cos hospitals get away for acting like this due to people like me who lets them get away.
Contact PAL services which should be in the hospital, they can advice you how to make a complain as that is what they are there for.
pls get compensation for the horrid time. TAKE them to Court.
hope its all better now. x

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compensation will not take away the experience, it will only be draining funds from the NHS ..
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-but registering a complaint will highlight there has been a mistake and hopefully it will not happen to anyone else

Lynsey76

How awful for you and your family I hope you are starting to heal now.
I also had a breech baby delivered by c section, luckily I had no complications, but I would like to say that I found both consultants and midwifes quite forceful in applying pressure on me to do what they thought was best.
At 37 weeks I went to see the consultant who was insistent that I should attempt to have the baby turned. I had done enough research on breech pregnancies to be certain that a c section was what I wanted. It took a long time before the consultant agreed to this, she kept insisting I should turn the baby.
Then when she agreed to the section she wanted to schedule it for the following day :eek:
As I was only 37 weeks I told her quite firmly that I would like to be booked in for a section on my due date. This went down like a lead balloon, and I was subjected to a huge amount of pressure again to have an early delivery. I stood my ground, and eventually she agreed to see me the following week. I should say that I had no probs in pregnancy or cause for concern, and I felt it would be detrimental to my baby to have an early birth. My first child was overdue, and I had no indication that this child was ready to come out.
I returned the following week and was examined by a registrar who insisted my baby was no longer breach. I knew he was wrong, I hadn't felt the baby turn at all, and I requested an ultrasound to check. The ultrasound showed the baby was still breach (what a surprise) and I was once again subjected to barrage of pressure to have a section the next day. Again I refused, and was met with extreme disapproval. I stuck it out and eventually got my wish. My baby was delivered on my exact due date (he was fast asleep when he came out) at a healthy 7 lb 7 and I was so glad I did not cave under the pressure to have him early.
I think in your situation I would have stuck to my guns and told the midwife in no uncertain terms that she was not going to remove my stitches early. You know your own body, and it sounds like you instinctively knew this was the wrong option for you.
I have great respect for the work that midwifes do, but after having 2 children I can say that no 2 midwifes act the same, they give confusing, and even conflicting advice on how to feed and care for your baby, and your instincts as a new mum are usually right, even though you may be nervous.
My first child would not take to breast feeding, he was a forceps delivery, and it was a full 24 hours before anyone recommended he have painkillers poor little mite his head was cone shaped. He didn't feed for 2 days at which point I sent my partner out to buy formula and a bottle (my milk had not come through yet) as the midwifes were insistent he should breast feed.
He took the bottle straight away and fed brilliantly. My second pregnancy I was more prepared and took formula in with me just in case. As it happened the midwifes here had no problem with giving him formula milk until my milk came though. A completely different attitude to the previous hospital.

Please do make a complaint, I feel you have been treated very badly, and that there must have been some mis communication somewhere along the line. I hope you and your family are starting to recover from this trauma, and you are enjoying being a new mum again