Dad who pays csa but doent get to see his child

likkle

Hi,

I currently need advise on what to do. I used to see my daugher every weekend untill her mother got a new boyfriend and she is now saying i cant see her at all.

She also has started claiming csa dont see why as i gave her more money than they do.

I just wanted to know who i can contact in order to get rights to see my daughter which cant be changed as and when she feels free?

Thank you for your time

Soubrette

likkle wrote: »

Hi,

I currently need advise on what to do. I used to see my daugher every weekend untill her mother got a new boyfriend and she is now saying i cant see her at all.

She also has started claiming csa dont see why as i gave her more money than they do.

I just wanted to know who i can contact in order to get rights to see my daughter which cant be changed as and when she feels free?

Thank you for your time

I think your only option is to go through the courts

If you are paying less money to your ex than previously then put the extra aside for your daughter so you can spend that on her directly.

Keep all evidence such as emails or texts where you have tried to arrange contact but the ex had blocked it.

See a solicitor.

Sorry I can't be more helpful - good luck

Sou

kaya

solicitor?

marksoton

likkle wrote: »

Hi,

I currently need advise on what to do. I used to see my daugher every weekend untill her mother got a new boyfriend and she is now saying i cant see her at all.

She also has started claiming csa dont see why as i gave her more money than they do.

I just wanted to know who i can contact in order to get rights to see my daughter which cant be changed as and when she feels free?

Thank you for your time

Families need fathers could be worth a shout as well. If you do go to a solicitor the first half hour should be free.

bdt1

Be very cautious please.

My hubby (NRP) and I'm NRPP, has laways paid support for his child, yet for nearly 16 years has not been allowed to see his child - this child has been denied her fathers love and has never had the chance to bond with siblings, I just think it's so sad not to have the love of both parents even if they belong in diffrent families.

But apparently, child maintenance in the eye of the law does not have any link at all to contact, they are totally separate issues.

My hubby tried getting access through the legal route - has always paid maintenance - but that doesn't matter. The x simlpy said that the child was 'unwell' at a child's 'party', was 'away with family' etc etc, or she simply didn't turn up at designated meeting points - it was an awful time -we just hope at some point in the future the child will track her father and realise he has always loved her. What the mother did was not in the best interests of her daughter, but selfish and damaging to a little girl.

Soubrette

bdt1 wrote: »

Be very cautious please.

My hubby (NRP) and I'm NRPP, has laways paid support for his child, yet for nearly 16 years has not been allowed to see his child - this child has been denied her fathers love and has never had the chance to bond with siblings, I just think it's so sad not to have the love of both parents even if they belong in diffrent families.

But apparently, child maintenance in the eye of the law does not have any link at all to contact, they are totally separate issues.

My hubby tried getting access through the legal route - has always paid maintenance - but that doesn't matter. The x simlpy said that the child was 'unwell' at a child's 'party', was 'away with family' etc etc, or she simply didn't turn up at designated meeting points - it was an awful time -we just hope at some point in the future the child will track her father and realise he has always loved her. What the mother did was not in the best interests of her daughter, but selfish and damaging to a little girl.

Another very sad story

Maintenance and contact cannot be linked or there would be an even bigger problem of say PWCs refusing contact with non paying NPRs. As an NPRR said quite recently to a PWC (and I paraphrase) children are not pay per view.

That said, by continuing with the maintenance it is more proof that your husband wanted to do the best for his daughter. I really hope that she does track you down and you can all forge a relationship with her.

Is she on anything like facebook?

Sou

minnie123

bdt1 wrote: »

Be very cautious please.

My hubby (NRP) and I'm NRPP, has laways paid support for his child, yet for nearly 16 years has not been allowed to see his child - this child has been denied her fathers love and has never had the chance to bond with siblings, I just think it's so sad not to have the love of both parents even if they belong in diffrent families.

But apparently, child maintenance in the eye of the law does not have any link at all to contact, they are totally separate issues.

My hubby tried getting access through the legal route - has always paid maintenance - but that doesn't matter. The x simlpy said that the child was 'unwell' at a child's 'party', was 'away with family' etc etc, or she simply didn't turn up at designated meeting points - it was an awful time -we just hope at some point in the future the child will track her father and realise he has always loved her. What the mother did was not in the best interests of her daughter, but selfish and damaging to a little girl.

Yes I have two close family members with experiences very close to the one you mentioned too. Off thread but something needs to change!!

Blob

Hi.

Been there done that, if you want to see your child then it is time to [as the saying goes] to get down and dirty.

You have to file for a 'Defined Contact Odren' you can if you like go through a solicitor or do it yourself, it is cost related!

You should also apply for a 'Penal Notice' to be attached to the contact order, so that in the event that you ex decided that she is not bound by the Court Order she will have to answer to the Court.

The Court will then get CAFCASS involved and they see the child and both parents, they then make a report to the Court it should be in the best intrests of the child.

Remember that once you are down this rout it will be covered by the Childrens Act, and as such it matters not one jot what you or your ex wants, it is what tehCourt thinks is best for the child that is the rule to be followed.

At this time it is deemed that it is in the childs intrest to have contact with both of its natural parents, and as such this is the line the Court will take, with few exceptions, such as achole abuse, drug abuse and of course the most important one child abuse, should these not be relevent then contact will in all prob be restored!

Hope this helps, best of luck, it is a long and hard road, but believe me well worth it when the child gives you that hug and says "Daddy I love you". Say what you will no one is that hard that it fails to move them when that is said! Tissues at the ready then, well for me anyway!

marshmallows

go to a solicitor

charlie..._7

no matter what people say the csa and payments are linked - they are linked through the very basic fact that if a non resident parent has access and over night stays then csa payments are reduced.

the csa is an agency set up by the governemt who saw a way to make money out of fathers wanting to have a relationship with there children and vindictive mothers with part time care, the government won as they make money out of tragedy, at the end of the day the government pick up a little tab of those children who go into therapy in their later lives.

if the governemnt really cared they would adopt the austrailian way of csa methods, if a parent doesnt see child, a parent doesnt pay = result 98% of children in austrailia have a relationship with both parents who have split up thus = happy kids, thus more balanced future adults

LizzieS_2

charlie... wrote: »

if the governemnt really cared they would adopt the austrailian way of csa methods, if a parent doesnt see child, a parent doesnt pay = result 98% of children in austrailia have a relationship with both parents who have split up thus = happy kids, thus more balanced future adults

I take your husband is still in the remaining 2% then.