Support for people with Depression

twinklebelly

Hi everyone :wave:

Sorry I haven't posted for a while, been lurking and thinkin about you all.

Well within a week of seeing the consultant re my throat and tonsils I was given a cancellation and had my op week ago Friday. I'm now one tonsil short and still have a very sore throat. Only just really started to eat properly, well if you can call egg rolls proper, oh and lots of ice cream. Have been sleeping a lot for the last week and resting as advised but gradually getting strength back. I'm signed off for this week as well.

As for my wrist, now sporting a lovely blue plaster! It feels more comfortable and not as restricted. Saw my xray, I shattered a bone in wrist and the registrar had never seen anything like it before :eek:. Will be in plaster until 24th June...seems so far away! England could be out of World Cup by then!!

I'm sorry some of you have had bad times lately. Big hugs to you all :grouphug:It's so good to see all the support being given.

Miro - I still have my baby/cat!, the tumour hasn't grown and she is is as happy as anything. We were thinking of making "that" decision this week but as I had my op and at home then I'm about to keep an eye on her and enjoy time with her.

Enjoy the rest of holiday Monday and take care of yourselves

xxxx

LuckyBiscuit

I just wanted to send everyone big big hug's who are feeling down at the moment, im currently in re-mission and off my meds but know all to easy it is to spiral out of control again.....

I just wanted to say Your all Fab!!!!!!:T

Love and Hug's

T:smileyhea

Vaila

what a releif to find that there are threads like this out there and discussion of such problems is not confined to behind a psychologists door, wish everyone the best

Raksha

I have made a decision - I have a 'Performance Review Meeting' today (my first day back at work after being off for 2 weeks) and yes, I have asked for clarification and it is not a 'return to work' meeting

I am going to ask if my employer of 18 months is prepared to support me through this illness and to actually make changes not just offer to make them. If not, then we will need to talk about a severance package.

flis21

Hi all,

I was feeling a bit better, but went down again today. Haven't been out anywhere, my 2 year old is driving me up the wall. I feel knackered and all I want to do is go to bed. I spose I've only been on higher dose of meds for 5 days so can't expect miracles yet! Got health visitor coming round for a chat on Thurs to see if they can offer me any support. Am just so fed up, hubby is on late shifts, so I won't have any adult company (or help!) until he gets up about 9am tomorrow morning. I feel so ungrateful as I do love my boys, but it's such hard work looking after them particularly when you're feeling this low.

Raksha - good luck with your meeting, I hope they are supportive for you, hugs xx

Raksha

Meeting went fairly well, my boss knows my OH fairly well and was happy to have him sitting in on the meeting. I was only really able to read from the notes I had already prepared. Next review will be in 2 months (so at least I still have a job) lots of mention of 'asking for support' but it's not always easy to recognise when you need support etc... Think he's finally beginning to recognise that the way the firm has grown in the last year is now meaning that just working smarter may not be enough and my hours will need to be increased - we shall see......

Most importantly (for me) he recognised at the end of the meeting that what I needed most was a hug

Indie_Kid

Not been around much - sorry guys.

Bit of an update from me:
Well, I thought that everything was going well between my friend & I. (he was actually talking to me last week) Now it's not - I said something that he took completely the wrong way and is now being really !!!!!! towards me. (despite me explaining it to him)

He is now refusing to talk to me. I said earlier that I seem to have (yet again) urges to run away and his reponse to this was "run away where?" - I thought that was rather, I don't know - a strange comment to make?

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope all is well with everyone,*hugs* to you all if you need one if you are all not feeling too strong just lately with certain situations.

I am fine in myself and keeping myself happy and busy and motivated.

I won a book called Wasted by Nicola Morgan from Scottish Books Trust on Twitter.

Have a lovely evening!

Night! Everyone,

chat tomorrow

love and light,

Katie xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!
And welcome to Purrsday. How's everyone doing?
Moi? Too hot, too tired, DS has been getting up around 2pm and I think SpringWatch has set up in my back garden! Yes, I think that about covers it.

Sincere hugs to all those who are struggling or poorly right now - or to those who are getting a hard time from other people.

This is something that has been niggling away at me recently - just how much should we allow ourselves to be bullied? It's easier for us to give in for a quiet life or to change who we are, iykwim, but when we do this we are reinforcing the other person's opinion of us and letting them know that they have this 'power' over us. And all of this only goes to qualify the low opinions we tend to have about ourselves. Anyhoo, I came across this a while ago and it certainly made me think.

The Buddha And The Abuse Story (responding to other people's negative behaviour; angry customers, disruptive kids, bad-tempered bosses, etc)
A tale is told about the Buddha, Gautama (563-483BC), the Indian prince and spiritual leader whose teachings founded Buddhism. This short story illustrates that every one of us has the choice whether or not to take personal offence from another person's behaviour.
It is said that on an occasion when the Buddha was teaching a group of people, he found himself on the receiving end of a fierce outburst of abuse from a bystander, who was for some reason very angry.
The Buddha listened patiently while the stranger vented his rage, and then the Buddha said to the group and to the stranger, "If someone gives a gift to another person, who then chooses to decline it, tell me, who would then own the gift? The giver or the person who refuses to accept the gift?"
"The giver," said the group after a little thought.
"Any fool can see that," added the angry stranger.
"Then it follows, does it not," said the Buddha, "Whenever a person tries to abuse us, or to unload their anger on us, we can each choose to decline or to accept the abuse; whether to make it ours or not. By our personal response to the abuse from another, we can choose who owns and keeps the bad feelings."
Again, it's one of those things that are easier said than done but the folks on here have proved time and time again how resilient and strong they can be when things get tough. Be who you want to be - it's your life and it's too short to let others dictate who you should be and how you live it. Don't be bullied over anything. Trust your own judgement - it's gotten you this far, hasn't it?
Be kind to yourself guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi miro!

How are you, hun?

miro wrote:

Good to see you back Tiff! - Mr Buble let you have some time out from your passion then

Umm yes, about that. It all started off so well...



It was as though it was meant to be. I was sure that he was The One - I was devoted to each other!
Yes - I was in L-U-R-V-E!



And after a long and happy 24 hours together, I knew it was time for the next step and that evening, I invited him over to my place.


I don't know where it all went wrong! After just 1 hour, he fled - said he couldn't take any more...I think I may have broke him!



He's never been the same since. He can still be found sitting silently on the same park bench to this day...



And so the search continues...
Much Love,
Tiff xxx