Support for people with Depression

littlerat

Hi, new to this thread, hadn't seen it before now :shocked:

Is it too rude to ask for some support when none of you even know me yet? You just all seem lovely :grouphug:

I have an ESA medical tomorrow, in rather a panic, haven't managed to do any of the things I was going to do today (including wash my hair, I feel for it, depending on my mood I vary between washing it daily and leaving it a week..ish..) I've not even got to panicking about potential decisions yet, just worrying over whether I'll be able to answer questions - my name has been known to evade me during stressful times, my date of birth is a complete mystery to me and anything beyond that is incomprehensible :rotfl: Dad will be with me thankfully but even that isn't much of a comfort right now.


Sounds like this weekend isn't a good one for lots of people, hope everyone feels brighter tomorrow!

Indie_Kid

I hope your medical goes ok, littlerat.

Feel free to join us!

beachbeth

Good luck for your esa, littlerat. Check out this website:

http://www.benefitsandwork.co.uk/

Has lots of good advice for these medicals.

jenniewb

littlerat wrote: »

Hi, new to this thread, hadn't seen it before now :shocked:

Is it too rude to ask for some support when none of you even know me yet? You just all seem lovely :grouphug:

I have an ESA medical tomorrow, in rather a panic, haven't managed to do any of the things I was going to do today (including wash my hair, I feel for it, depending on my mood I vary between washing it daily and leaving it a week..ish..) I've not even got to panicking about potential decisions yet, just worrying over whether I'll be able to answer questions - my name has been known to evade me during stressful times, my date of birth is a complete mystery to me and anything beyond that is incomprehensible :rotfl: Dad will be with me thankfully but even that isn't much of a comfort right now.


Sounds like this weekend isn't a good one for lots of people, hope everyone feels brighter tomorrow!

I think everyone on here seems lovely to me too- I just jumped right in when I 'joined' the thread last year when my moods took a really sudden ....swing, I think there are quite a few regulars and also many others who either lurk or come back every now and then (like me) to see whats up. I hope you find the thread useful and no doubt you will get some great support from here.

Hope your interview goes well- it seems trendy right now to write stuff on the palm of your hand
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2010/feb/10/sarah-palin-hand-crib-notes-white-house
maybe you could write all your personal details there (but just remember to wear gloves if your on public transport :rotfl:) know what you mean about nerves though, deep breathing and lavender....just wish it worked for me!!

I didn't have a bad weekend actually- I did manage to lose a root canalled tooth, but its dead at the nerve so cannot feel anything and tbh I was/am more scared about what it means in terms of food and toothless smiles. Apparently its infected (said emergency dentist) as the area around it feels bruised and slightly itchy so am on penicillin and cannot drink:eek: (actually maybe it wasn't such a great weekend!;)) so am off to the dentist tomorrow. You wanna know what pulled it out of my mouth? eating an apple! How unfair is that!! But normally my weekends are dire as my mood is low on a friday as a matter of cause, this time it was so taken up by the dentist, I felt shattered and exhausted the entire time (subconcious side effect of depression if you try to ignore it I think) but did not feel as bad as I have done in previous weeks.

Hope everyone else is getting on OK, they say its spring come early at the moment on the news, can anyone enlighten me as to why it has been labeld as "spring" when its still occassionally snowing?

jenniewb

losingpatience wrote: »

I've had a really rough weekend, I just didn't want to get out of bed which is the first time I've ever felt like that. Felt really down, just wanted to hide away from the world. I think what may have triggered it is my sister got engaged to her boyfriend. Don't get me wrong I am happy for them, but I just feel as though my lifes going nowhere at the moment. I've been with my bf for 5 years now and would love to be engaged but it just hasn't happened. Over the last year or so I've seen all my friends, and now my younger sister, get engaged and start making plans for their future. I just always thought I would be the one to get engaged first I guess ( meaning out of me and my sister ). They're a lovely couple, and she seems really happy with him so I'm happy for her, I just couldn't help but feel a little sad as I have been ready to get engaged/married for a couple of years now and her getting engaged was a bit of a shock.

I felt the same as you do when my little sister announced she was pregnant- she was so caught up in the names, dates, clothes....it was like another world, I was so jelous really, not just feeling so "out of it" (of real life), it was like looking at another world where depression really doesn't seem to exist or if it does, doesn't seem to have such a massive hold on all their lifes. I was gutted too as I am older then her, I was used to doing things first, making the headway and here was my little sister having a baby and sort of marking oiut my failure- thats what it felt like- does it feel like this for you?

I did manage to get my head around it, mainly by seeing that everyone leads different lives, that its not about who does what first but how well you experience it and that also, my time is not up, I do still have a chance. I hope you can see that too with your partner. Have you dropped any hints to him? or do you think you are ready at the moment? Time will come I am sure, but think I know a little of what your feeling. Hope your not feeling too low at the moment.

jenniewb

sh1305 wrote: »

I had an argument with a friend earlier; whilst we're ok now, I feel awful. His comments on Tuesday haven't helped my mood much.

Hope your OK, think things tend to 'bite' more when your already feeling low. Things take longer to heal too. Its not fair really is it?! Hope your OK.

Indie_Kid

jenniewb wrote: »

Hope your OK, think things tend to 'bite' more when your already feeling low. Things take longer to heal too. Its not fair really is it?! Hope your OK.

Thanks. I did email him last night and did tell him that he has upset me.

sandy71

Welcome to the newbies. You will get a LOT of support here. Hugs to those who are suffering.

Thank you all for supporting me on friday. Hubby was out on sat for most of the day and night on sat and I decided to do the s word again. I was surrounded be the tools I needed and all that stopped me was knowing the kids were upstairs and the kind posts on here. I would insert a hug smiley now but it is just too pervy.

It is still in my head to do it but i am trying to forget about it. I will throw myself in to the flylady in the hope it will distract me. Am off to the hospital soon aswell to check my arm.

Indie_Kid

I hope your arm is ok Sandy.

My friend emailed me and said "I know what I said to you on Tuesday but that is how it sometimes feels."

sandy71

Iv'e had enough. I get constantly ignored don't know what i am supposed to have done but im sick of been treated like this

no point