Support for people with Depression

Tiff_2

Hi guys!
I hope everyone is as well as they can be this morning.
So much to do - I cross-posted at the same time as sazzy yesterday so will have to beg her forgiveness. Not ignoring you sazzy hun!

Today's daftness...




Safe journeys guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx
HAPPY HALLOWEEN !

Tiff_2

Hi shaz!
Hey there sweetheart - nice to see you. Sorry your break didn't go as well as planned.

It seems a couple of us may be having a rough day today. So let's cut to the chase, shall we hunnie? People not doing their jobs can wait for another post - today's is about you and your family.

shaz wrote:

evening all, had few days away at weekend, got back yesterday, the break was spoiled by joshua's temper tantrums, each and every day, have asked CAAMS for another assessment on him, as it s wearing us all down, lucky Ian has gone to the pub with his mates tonight, as he needs a break from it all. police have served me with a summons to appear as a witness against my son daniel in court tommorrrow.
still no support from the kids social worker, another socail worker from intensive support team, has tried contacting her on my behalf with no success, so next tiem he visits he is going to help me fill in a complaints form.
dreading court am scared cos i have trouble speaking up in front of groups of people.

miro, sorry to hear things still arnt going too well for you at the moment.
have you talked to your gp about the aggression?, it could be a sign of stress or depression.
hugs
shaz xxx

If you weren't nervous shaz, then I'd be very worried. Anyone should be nervous going to court, hunnie. Try not to worry too much - they will understand how difficult this is for you and will do their best to put you at ease there. If there's anything you don't understand, don't be afraid to ask them about it.

It's bound to be very emotional angel and you might find that you manage the court session fairly well but then fall apart afterwards. Again this is understandable. A couple of tips - sorry for stating the obvious...

- take a couple of headache tablets before you go. You're likely to get a headache from any stress or upset and taking them before you go might help ease it before it grabs hold. I always do this and it stops me from getting even worse pounding headaches.

- bottle of water - a necessity! It's something to hold and that kind of 'grounds' you when you're anxious. It's a good distraction technique and saves you from fiddling with things and/or trembling so much. Stress and upset may suddenly leave you with a very dry mouth so at least you know you'll be prepared and have something to take care of that.

- carry enough tissues to act as a flood barrier - another essential. Hopefully you won't need them, but again you'll be prepared just in case.

- fill the kettle and set out cups with tea/coffee/sugar in them, ready for when you get home. I know it's a little thing but it helps me get that all important calming cuppa just that bit quicker.

- when you arrive, don't be shy in asking for somewhere quiet to sit while you wait if that's what you'd prefer.

- you can usually find a Witness Support Services worker at court to ne there for you and to support you just by being there. This is a branch of Victim Support and is open to prosecution and defence witnesses. They cannot discuss any part of the case nor speak in court but they can help with the more practical things. Here's a couple of links hunnie...

http://www.victimsupport.org/help%20for%20witnesses
http://www.victimsupport.org/contact%20us/yorkshire%20and%20humber%20region

I know you're very stressed shaz but hang in there - you're doing the right thing. I think you've known inside that this time would come eventually and this could get daniel more help. You may be classified as giving evidence against daniel but actually sweetheart, you're giving evidence for him. I know I've touched on this before but you have to do what's right for daniel and joshua and yourself. It's all about keeping everyone safe and protected - and that includes daniel.

I know you won't agree, but I think you're a very strong and courageous person. I'm very proud of you, as we all are I'm sure. The wonderful way you look after your two boys under such extreme circumstances is admirable.
Today's hearing will pass, as will the morning, the afternoon, the evening and the day. You will get through this, shaz. So today angel, be strong when you can be and when you can't, we're all here for you regardless. Let us know how you get on - good luck angel.
Keeping you in my thoughts hunnie.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

dawnylou

Big hugs for all that need them....




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Sazbo

Dawny hun! :j:j Lovely to 'see' you How have you been? It would be great to hear your news, I've often wondered how you were getting on.

Hope all is well.

Much love,
Sazzy xxxxx

Sazbo

Thinking of you today Shaz.

Take care xxxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Morning! I woke up feeling really well today and the low mood I had yesterday has lifted.I was so not well at all and I had to sleep alot to get well.I am at Mums today for lunch.

Thinking of you today Shaz.hope all goes ok.

Have a lovely day everyone!

love and light,

Katie xxx

~*Plushroom*~

Good luck Shaz honey, been thinking of you whilst I've been offline. Hugs to you and anyone else that needs them.

shazrobo

thanks everyone for good wishes. just got back, been a very long and stressful morning. daniel has received a 3 month referal order. will post more when i feel up to it

big hugs
shaz xxx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

:hello: everyone, just thought I'd drop by to say hi

Sazbo

Hey RBK :hello: Nice to see you:) How's things with you?

Saz xxxxx