Support for people with Depression

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Jo_R_2

Struggling a bit at the mo, I don't thnk I feel depressed as such but very stressed.

Yesterday was a really bad day, was at home with 3 kids and felt like all I did was shout at DDs, especially DD2 who is going through her "NO!!!" phase. I know some about child psychology and I know her stage of development... yet I *still* get frustrated at her

I had postnatal depression with DD1, but ironically I am finding baby a real pleasure to look after... which makes me feel worse about finding DDs hard to handle at the mo.

I am quite aware though that I am finding things very hard and can quite see the depression looming if I don't do anything to help myself and the situation. So am going to call my health visitor this morning.

It's a shame because I keep promising DDs things to do and when it comes around, I usually end up having a bad day, we go to my parents and athough they like that, they're inevitably disappointed at missing out and I feel bad for not being able to manage and letting them down.

Have mentioned playgroup today, but not sure how the day will pan out so it's either that or my parents, not sure yet.

beachbeth

Jo_R wrote: »

It's a shame because I keep promising DDs things to do and when it comes around, I usually end up having a bad day, we go to my parents and athough they like that, they're inevitably disappointed at missing out and I feel bad for not being able to manage and letting them down.

I can remember being like this when my kids were younger. It got to the point where I didn't promise anything or say "on Tuesday we are going to the park/zoo" etc because this would put pressure on me to be feeling ok on that particular day. I used to just think to myself "If Im feeling ok on Tuesday then I'll take them" but I didn't tell my kids until the actual day itself.

Jo_R_2

Beth

I should know better LOL... I've said this to OH/parents/etc, not to mention certain things we might have planned just in case... But sometimes some things are so normal and everyday, like taking a walk down to playgroup, which isn't that far away, that I don't consider that having a bad day can spoil even that so I don't think about it.

I had a bit of a catnap earlier so not so tired, and my friend had just called asking if it's still okay for her to come round as she wants to come to playgroup, so I made myself say yes rather than hiding away.

I'm hoping I'll feel okay enough to have the girls here tonight as planned, then was thinking of maybe taking them to soft play tomorrow morning (big maybe - not done that for a while especially with a baby and if it's just me, as OH has some work to do tomorrow so not sure if he can come) then they're staying at my parents Saturday night. Hoping my plans actually go as planned although doesn't always happen like that!

Just about to get DD2 dressed as need to pop out for some nappies - been using eco-disposables which ran out at the last nappy change earlier, was going to start on the washables but can't face it just yet so going to get some more. I find just getting out, even for a little run in the car or a walk to the shops helps my mood and makes me feel like I've done something.

Morning to everyone xxxxx

Sazbo

Evening everyone :hello:

Quiet in here today - I hope everyone's doing ok. Well, I for one am glad it's the weekend. I know it was a short week because of Easter but it really didn't feel like it. Work was horrid this week - have had to make some really difficult decisions and tbh i'm still not sure I've done the right thing... but gilly badger has been brilliantly supportive (as always) and it makes me realise what's important in life to me and what isn't.

Jut unwinding now with a glass of wine and gardeners' world lol. Hope to get out in the garden tomorrow - forecast looks good - and tend to my little seedlings. I now have garlic seedlings as well as chillis, lettuce, herbs, tomatoes, beans, spinach and spring onions. As a first time gardener I just find it so rewarding. I read something this week that said one of the top ten things to counter depression is gardening and I know it's not for everyone but must say it really helps me:)

Anyway. That's all my news. Thinking of you all and hoping the weekend brings a ray of sunshine.

Much love,
Sazzy xxxxxxxxxxxx

gillette147

Sazbo wrote: »

Jut unwinding now with a glass of wine and gardeners' world lol. Hope to get out in the garden tomorrow - forecast looks good - and tend to my little seedlings.

I'm sure it's gonna rain. And if not, the mower is broken.
xxx

beachbeth

This is for Tiff:



You are an :A

As you know, Im appealing against the decision to stop my Incapacity Benefit. My tribunal date is 6th May and I can't get it out of my mind, Im so nervous about it.

A few weeks ago you suggested, amongst other things, to write to my MP. I would never have thought to do this if you hadn't suggested it. Well, this morning I had a letter from the Tribunals Service giving me a copy of a letter that my MP has sent them. He really backs my claim up and urges them to reinstate my benefit.

Of course, I don't know if they will reinstate my benefit and Im not counting my chickens but this letter he has sent can only help with my appeal.

Thank you so much, Tiff, for suggesting I write to my MP - I have been feeling really down lately and this letter of support that I received this morning has really cheered me up!

Virtual hugs to you! :kisses: :T

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope all is well,I am fine today.I am ok and had a nice sleep earlier as I felt tired so I did.Beth thats good news your MP is behind your tribunal in May.Good Luck for 6th May.Tiff is brilliant helping us in need.

love and light,

Katie xxx

shazrobo

struggling again, been a long day, sent kids to bed for early night at 8, feel so alone

shaz x

Sazbo

thinking of you shaz xx