Support for people with Depression

shazrobo

hi lm, you are not a failure hun, you've had so much to cope with, and you've done so well, be proud of yourself, as sam, and all of us are

hugs

shaz xxx

beachbeth

Sorry to hear you have been having a bad time, LM. There can be nothing worse than when your parents let you down, especially when you are little and need them. I hope you get your letter today. Fingers crossed. I know what you mean about feeling like you've been forgotten. Hang in there. Hugs for you. ((()))

Horasio

I hope someone replies to me, I don't necessarily want solutions but an acknowledgement does help. This could be why this thread is less visited than before if people feel ignored.

This time of year brings me down. When the weather gets gloomy and darker days, I am more sensitive.

I am worried about us making a living. We are trying to network but people seem so reserved, not nasty but dull, and my OH isn't confident either. I feel surrounded by negativity and this time of year seems to sap my positivity, so I am absorbing other peoples negativity. This is bringing me down. I am craving positive uplifting people. The Brits can be so boring compared to the Americans. I really feel like seeking out Americans or running away there.

Sazbo

CC hun it is my honest belief that over the years I and most others have been here for you as best we can, so I am saddened that you - and any others - feel that you get ignored here. Please forgive me if I have not given you the support that you need and for that I apologise. We all have problems I guess and we try our best but I fully accept that this might fall short of what is needed. I am really sorry. Maybe it is me that should run away to America...

Horasio

LadyMorticia wrote: »

I'm sorry. =/
I'm just having an off period. I've been having an off period for the last month or two.
I just feel like such a failure. I'm supposed to be happy. I have an awesome fianc!. That should make me the happiest girl in the world, right?

Why do you feel like a failure? Compared to a year or two ago, I have seen you move forward in a huge way. Your photography and meeting your fiance being two great things in your life. He looks a good 'un and I can tell a lot from photographs. I too have been doing more photography, so you have inspired me.

I'm still waiting on an appointment from the mental health team to find out who my care co-ordinator is going to be. With every day that goes by and no letter lands on the doormat, I just feel forgotten about, even though I know that they are super busy and it's not personal.

I hate feeling forgotten too. Have you rung to find out the progress?

I've been having a lot of health problems lately. My hands and my pelvis have been really painful and I'm achy and exhausted all the time. The doctors aren't listening to me. I've been sent for physio but there wasn't really a proper examination done when I saw the doctor. Although, to be fair, there is only so much you can do in a 10 minute slot.
Physio could take weeks to go through.

Have you been told why they are painful.

To top it off, I found out today that my dad is now married. I presume so anyway. I stumbled onto his Windows Live thing and a woman there called him hubby and I went to her page and he called her wifey. They are in their 50s. Not the kind of things adults joke about like that as teenagers etc would, I don't think.

I'm not sure why it's had such an effect on me. My dad and I don't really get on that well. When we talk, it's civil but I wouldn't say I consider him that much of a father and I have my reasons for that.

So, I potentially have a stepmother. This also means I may have stepbrothers and sisters. As if one mother wasn't bad enough, I might have another one? Now, don't get me wrong, she might be the nicest woman in the world but with my dad's track record, I doubt it and the chances of me meeting her are very slim because my dad is the sort of person who would rather chase women than look after his own children. Sad but true.

I'm not a bitter person. Not at all but I've seen my dad's relationships with women from a young age. I've always been second best. I guess that's never going to change.

Of course, it would just be one of those random terms of endearment and my dad is infact not married but I highly doubt it.

x

I understand how you feel about acquiring a 'new' family but he is entitled to have a life too.

As a child, it must have hurt feeling second best to his women but you are now an adult with you own fiance.

I don't know how close you are to your father but you could meet her/her family and see what you think of them. If they are as bad as you think, then walk away. You don't need to be close to them because they are 'family'. I wish I had a better family but not all families are the 'Waltons'.

I also understand the feeling of guilt you get when you have nice people/things in your life and you still feel awful.

Fifteen years ago, we were living in a lovely house and had loads of money but I didn't feel happy. There was an atmosphere about the place that felt wrong, despite everything being right on paper.

I ended up taking ADs and had counselling. I was able to enjoy the place then I got a bad case of SAD one October and felt awful till I took a different set of ADs the following October. They got me through winter and went off them again in the springtime.

I wonder if you have PMS and/or SAD? I was watching a programme about PMDD which is a severe form of PMS. I had PMDD and it mimics depression except you get good and bad weeks cyclically. Depression is there all the time with the same intensity.

SAD is bought on by lowering daylight amounts between September and April and it being colder.

So I had cyclical depression caused by PMDD and SAD, so twice a year I would dramatically change with the seasons.

poppycracker

morning

CCstar and LM, *big big hugs* I'm sorry that you are both feeling ignored. It's hard in the autumn, everythings dying off and its getting colder, and the lights going like you said CC. I have to go to work in a couple of minutes but I just wanted to say that although I don't have any new ideas for you to try, I do have a couple of hugs going spare .

PC

Horasio

Sazbo wrote: »

CC hun it is my honest belief that over the years I and most others have been here for you as best we can, so I am saddened that you - and any others - feel that you get ignored here. Please forgive me if I have not given you the support that you need and for that I apologise. We all have problems I guess and we try our best but I fully accept that this might fall short of what is needed. I am really sorry. Maybe it is me that should run away to America...

You are one of the most positive posters here and I feel I have upset you saying what I said and a bit scalded/told off by your first sentence:o. It isn't aimed at you, it is a general feeling I get sometimes. There are one or two other posters I feel do acknowledge me as well.

This feeling of being told off is a raw issue for me as it is the negative feeling I get from the middle aged (50 something) boring English women or super officious young (20 something) people at events. So many people get so bossy and petty which really really psses me off. Even in Scotland, I felt people were less petty and in the States even less so. The emphasis is on enjoying the event, not having jumped up sergeant majors treat you like trash. People are so much more laid back in the summer, then come September, everyone goes into petty/officious mode:(

Of course, the black dog of depression, does highlight any sensitive issues - feeling empty, feeling aimless, feeling it is all pointless, feeling told off and feeling ignored.

Horasio

poppycracker wrote: »

morning

CCstar and LM, *big big hugs* I'm sorry that you are both feeling ignored. It's hard in the autumn, everythings dying off and its getting colder, and the lights going like you said CC. I have to go to work in a couple of minutes but I just wanted to say that although I don't have any new ideas for you to try, I do have a couple of hugs going spare .

PC

Thank you for the hugs, they are appreciated.

It is the cold that gets to me the most. I have had a half cold since the end of August and it really makes things much more difficult.

Amber_Sunshine

Ah babes, sometimes we all need to stop posting for a while. But you're not running away from Cybermummy, will PM you my MSN.

LadyMorticia wrote: »

Heya guys.

I'm going to bow out of this thread now.

I wish you the best of luck in everything.

x

geminilady

CCStar wrote: »

I hope someone replies to me, I don't necessarily want solutions but an acknowledgement does help. This could be why this thread is less visited than before if people feel ignored.

This time of year brings me down. When the weather gets gloomy and darker days, I am more sensitive.

I am worried about us making a living. We are trying to network but people seem so reserved, not nasty but dull, and my OH isn't confident either. I feel surrounded by negativity and this time of year seems to sap my positivity, so I am absorbing other peoples negativity. This is bringing me down. I am craving positive uplifting people. The Brits can be so boring compared to the Americans. I really feel like seeking out Americans or running away there.

:hello:Hi Cstar This time of the year brings a lot of people down,i am sure you will have noticed how this thread gets a lot busier in winter.I do not think anyone ignores people on purpose they sometimes do not reply for lots of reasons,maybe they just do not know what to say or they feel they do not have an answer to a problem.Maybe you could search for an american forum if you find them more uplifting? i don't find them so myself all the "have a nice day" seems a bit false to me but then everyone is differant