Should I tell him?

My_World

hi i need a bit of advice about my ex. basically we were together for a few months about 3 years ago. i knew he had been into drugs before we got together but he told me has wasn't doing it anymore after a few months he became really distant and i thought he was cheating so i read through his text messages and found out he was doing drugs again. he chucked me as he said he couldn't trust me. we've stayed in contact ever since and i still see him about once a month or so and we always end up sleeping with each other. for the last six months or so we've been texting each other every weekend and all my old feelings are back big time.
however last year i slept with his half brother. i don't know why i did it and i regret it so much. i want back with him but i have totally messed up big time we had a chat last night and i asked if he would ever take me back and he said he needs to think about things. should i tell him about his brother? i don't want to lose him but i hate keeping this from him.

whitewing

Yes, you should tell him.

hot.chick

to me it sounds like ur more into him than he is into you????

If you do get together and he finds out later - and he probably will..... U'll defo lose him.

I'd tell him and if he can't get back with you because of it then it isn't meant to be.

Some times being casual with someone you were once close to is tricky for a woman to do, not suprising your feelings have returned - we're programmed to fall in love with the person we're sleeping with, men are wired differently!

Good luck x

Damzel_In_Distress

Let me see if ive got this right....

You asked him,if he would take youback...after he was the one who was lieing to you about abusing drugs whilst in a relationship?

Am i missing something here-or should he not of been the one doing the begging/apologising ? I dont mean to sound rude-but it sounds like this man is just using you-he was the one in the wrong and yet you are the one doing the chasing. No wonder he treats you like that-i bet youve got "mug" tattooed on you somewhere.

Sorry if that sounds harsh-but i belive in speaking the truth. Do yourself a favour and ditch him.

My_World

his half brother had a girlfriend and the time and is still with her. i don't want her to find out as it will break her heart but if i tell him then she probably will.

pinkcandyflossprincess

id personally suggest leaving both brothers alone and finding someone new

pink_princess

Is this a joke?
Why would you want back with a drug user,who s family member you ve also slept with?
Please think about what your future would be,I bet its not a good picture.What happens when you wish to settle down and find out you have hep c etc.Children can t be brought into this type of life either.
Do you not think you are worth more than that,and your chasing him._pale_

globalds

Your not going to listen ,so it does not really matter.

But you want to start respecting yourself.

whitewing

You do need to tell him, but only if you do get together, and then early on.

But really it would be better not to get together while HBro and his gf are together. Feel sorry for gf. She'd be better off without him or you in her life.

Doozergirl

He is using you! You're his booty call

If he cared about you and was sleeping with you, why wouldn't he take you back? After that long why haven't you already got back together? I'm sure you don't want to hear it but you need to move on from this. The situation you've had for the last few months evidently suits him just fine. He's got his cake and he's eating it.

Find someone that will love you.

And no, I wouldn't tell him. You stand to wreck this half-brother's relationship over what was a simple mistake. Leave it in the past where it belongs. It's not as if you even cheated on this guy as you weren't even going out with him.

My_World

thanks for all your replies everyone. i know i should ditch him altogether but i can't. i just can't seem to get him out my head, i wish i could but i can't. i really want to tell him but don't know if thats just to make myself feel better about this whole mess.