Pain in the Backside Neighbours, help

cheekymonkey20

I know that this isnt really debt free, but im a frequenter of this board so could do with some advise.

I live in a small culdesac, and the children from down the road like to play outside with a football.

A neighbour recently has verbally shouted at the kids and their parents for playing football in the road and accidently hitting someones car (which wasnt a problem with the car owner).

They have now put up signs where the children play saying no ball games allowed. The children are now scared to play incase they get in trouble, but a police man that lives up our road has advised them to ignore it.

This neighbour is extremly tiresome and is constantly flying abuse at neighbours and their children.

They also insist on not parking on the pavement, the culdesac is not a very large road and larger vehicles struggle to get up the road, everyone realises this except them, but they still insist on parking on the road and telling people off for parking on the pavement.

We have had some criminal damage done to our cars and property and these neighbours have gone round gossiping saying that we are scum and deserve what we got.

They have also shouted at our neighbours directly opposite (ajacent to the nosey parkers) and told them off for relatives parking infront of their house (on the road i may add) and also have phoned up the housing association about their ajacent neighbours when they tried to have a sky dish put up, saying that they wernt allowing them to do it. They have even nit picked about their cat going onto their garage roof.

They are really annoying all the neighbours now and we are just about to the end of our teather. Is there anything that we can do?

Merlinexcalibur

Have spoken to your council's environmental health officer or, maybe, have a word with your community support officer.

cheekymonkey20

no i havent

Merlinexcalibur

Well, then, that's what they are there for. So may be worth your while talking to them. As you say you have 'nuisance neighbours'. Except, of course, the other obvious problem. Gossip from neighbours. But, and I know it's hard because I had this myself (but I had the benefit of living in a rural area but you get the wrong element moving in next door and things escalate) but unless you stand up for what you know is right then ... Well, you don't need me to tell you this.

Alternatively, you and your other neighbours could lodge a petition or get together to form a group to sort these problems out. There was a lady in the Midlands (I think) who started one up and was very successful, removed the problem element from their estate in the end. She also took this on a roadshow around the country to encourage others to do the same. Also featured on ITV or BBC a while ago as a report on this action people are forced to take to get heard but also join together as one voice to say 'enough is enough'. Community spirit if you like as it was once called. Just some ideas for you.

doodledo_2

Definately worth speaking to your community support officers if you have one as nuisance neighbours is classed as Anti Social Behaviour. There isn't a huge amount they can do but if you speak to them they may go and broach the subject with the annoying neighbours.

cheekymonkey20

think we might do, all the adults (including 2 police men) and the kids are arranging a tournament tommorow night in the street nice community footie match just to tick them off.

Merlinexcalibur

The other thing here is: fear is the key. People are all show, all bluster when they have that on their side. When it comes to the crunch and officials get involved ... things could change. Takes them down a peg or two, because someone stood up to them.

cheekymonkey20

They are just nosey beggers, goody too shoes church goers who stick their ore in wherever possible.
Really annoying the rest of the neighbours.

Merlinexcalibur

think we might do, all the adults (including 2 police men) and the kids are arranging a tournament tommorow night in the street nice community footie match just to tick them off.

On that score, I do know one of the approaches community support people do make - cos it beggars belief when you see kids kicking a ball at someone's window, no one comes to stop them no parents and so on - is to confiscate any footballs and give the perps a foam ball so it causes no damage.

The only other alternative is proactive. A show of strength with all of you, as one person. That you will not tolerate this anymore.

Merlinexcalibur

They are just nosey beggers, goody too shoes church goers who stick their ore in wherever possible.

Oh, yes. Know, met some of those. That is why I had to move from a house I rented for over 2 years. Tolerated it, then had enough. Stupidly wished I should never have done it. Led to all kinds of troubles now shall we say. I let them get the better of me but it was mostly the shock eg it opened my eyes to people a lot more. Do gooders they ain't shall we say. Just amazed me what they were doing more than anything as 'respectable' people.

cheekymonkey20

The think that they are all high and mighty, and the rest of us are scum
We need to have fun in this economic climate, if that means playing outside for the kids then so be it, its free.
Another thing is that would you rather that your kids play outin a culdesac or a main road.