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  • So_Sad_Angel
    So_Sad_Angel Posts: 7,363 Forumite
    ZTD wrote: »
    Wouldn't worry about that - I upset newbies and old-timers in that "equal opportunities" way... :confused:

    hehe....me too & I think I`m quite a nice sort of poster!!!....still manage unintentionally to upset the odd one or two along the way!!! :confused:
  • Merlinexcalibur
    Merlinexcalibur Posts: 1,699 Forumite
    It will take a time to get over it. Meeting people yesterday it was obvious my mind wasn't on things, shook all day mostly, just wanted it to go away. Only been in proper shock before and that was years ago. But I know it has happened now. Because now I am frightened it could happen again. It was just the 'why' of it all. Just trying to understand why that happened more than anything. But I know it does happen. Kept myself to myself where I presently live, because I was advised to do that upon moving in by someone lived in the area for decades. And I know the reason they did, too. So I have. Only meant to stay here temporarily but I have to now for quite a while. I really want to break down, sob my heart out with grief, you name it but I don't want to. I've taken on too many other problems that aren't mine but through helping have become mine.

    I think sometimes I get misunderstood because of my directness. If I got paid £1 for everytime someone was with me and so on. I don't skirt round things because you don't get to the heart of a situation if you do, just go round in circles. I never used to be direct, plain speaking but just something has happened. I'm not making much sense, still rattled.
    Any help, opinions, views I may hold those are my own. Respect them as you would expect the same in return. Offered freely, is gleaned from a lifetime of experiences, knowledge gaining. Passed on to benefit others. I may be direct, ask you questions but those are to help you. Up to you if you choose to take it. I won't judge you either way.
  • Numpty_Monkey
    Numpty_Monkey Posts: 14,196 Forumite
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    Merlin you have done nothing on here as far as I know,
    that crap yesterday is enough to scare the bricks out of anyone

    I can understand the taking on others problems, i did and probably will do:D
    but I've learnt or still learning to put mine first:rolleyes:

    Maybe sometimes your emotinal helpful side comes out to fast :confused:

    a tip if you see an emotional post ,type your reply , go make a brew , type it again in word or whatever, , go for a pee, and then read all of them again, edit which post youn then think is right
    PROUD TO BE DEALING WITH MY DEBT NERD #869
    Numpty,Not sure why but I'm crying :o . Of all the peeps on this board you're the kindest & most supportive of all & I'm :mad: & :( for you all at the same time . Wish I was there to give you a big :grouphug: & emergency hobnobs
    xx
    DFD 5/1/16
  • Merlinexcalibur
    Merlinexcalibur Posts: 1,699 Forumite
    I can't stop shaking. Another set back TBH. Don't want to swear but if I could right now I would on the forum just thinking over it again has got me really shaking away. Just so much has gone on, gone. Every piece of me gone. But I still will not ever give in. And I don't fully understand what keeps me going.

    Don't drink but I reckon I could swallow (don't know the terminology etc) a pint of whiskey right now just to stop shaking. :D
    Any help, opinions, views I may hold those are my own. Respect them as you would expect the same in return. Offered freely, is gleaned from a lifetime of experiences, knowledge gaining. Passed on to benefit others. I may be direct, ask you questions but those are to help you. Up to you if you choose to take it. I won't judge you either way.
  • So_Sad_Angel
    So_Sad_Angel Posts: 7,363 Forumite
    I congratulate you on helping others & if that is in a direct manner then so be it....some people will prefer & others won`t....I prefer direct answers to my questions personally...not that I ever ask any on here!

    Please don`t lose sight of YOU....you have had a shock & your confidence will be very low. I remember many years ago I was is a car accident & the car was written off. I could`nt drive for ages & was convinced that every car was going to hit me!!! Takes time & unlikely to happen again but you need to keep telling yourself that !! not easy. Treat yourself to a long soak or a cheap takeaway, glass of whatever....just something that makes you feel a little better.

    Anyhow...you got me waffling as well....wish I could give straight answers!!

    Angiexx
  • Merlinexcalibur
    Merlinexcalibur Posts: 1,699 Forumite
    Oh, well, looks like I am being reported now. Still, I am very used to being scapegoated for however long I've lived. Which is why I despise unfairness, injustice. And why I don't bother fighting my own corner but will for other people. Because I know I won't get anywhere with it but encouraging others to, gives them the strength to fight against it. I recognize that for what it is. I know things are going to end badly for me, and I know I cannot control that outcome. I've just given up. Why I have lost the will to change things. Complain about things. Because I've never expected much fairness, just how things have gone. If I try to change things they just become far worse. So I gave up. Went way beyond being tired of everything quite a while ago. I exist now more than being alive. Seems I got saddled with something which I am beginning to deny more than anything because of what it brought to me in the end. I know there are ways round, out of things but I cannot see right now what those are. Guess I just want to make sense of everything.

    I wish I could give straight answers, too, because believe me I've tried to make sense of things that have gone on. :D:confused:

    I'm waffling. :D
    Any help, opinions, views I may hold those are my own. Respect them as you would expect the same in return. Offered freely, is gleaned from a lifetime of experiences, knowledge gaining. Passed on to benefit others. I may be direct, ask you questions but those are to help you. Up to you if you choose to take it. I won't judge you either way.
  • ZTD
    ZTD Posts: 24,327 Forumite
    Merlinexcalibur wrote: »
    Oh, well, looks like I am being reported now.

    That's nothing to worry about either...
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."     OMD 'Julia's Song'
  • Merlinexcalibur
    Merlinexcalibur Posts: 1,699 Forumite
    Is to me because I often see what goes on, try to point that out and ... There you go.
    Maybe some of that energy should be turned on you, put yourself as the other person

    Always do. That's the trouble.;)
    Any help, opinions, views I may hold those are my own. Respect them as you would expect the same in return. Offered freely, is gleaned from a lifetime of experiences, knowledge gaining. Passed on to benefit others. I may be direct, ask you questions but those are to help you. Up to you if you choose to take it. I won't judge you either way.
  • So_Sad_Angel
    So_Sad_Angel Posts: 7,363 Forumite
    Hi Merlin,

    I don`t know how `being reported` works ...I hope all will be OK. You must start fighting your own corner....tough as it is it will give you back that `fire` which seems to be `dimmed` at the moment!!

    I think the reason that you help others is because it is not so personal to you & won`t `hurt` you as much as if it is your own personal situation.

    I do this myself (especially scared of making wrong decision) ....I have an awful lot financial knowledge & yet I can`t sort my own situation out!! but I can be objective when looking at others` situations. I find that by helping others I somehow `switch off` from my own.

    Right....need food...off to search cupboards & freezer....probably end up with vegetable spring rolls, custard dip & a flake ...washed down with out-of-date Appletiser....oh I so know how to live!!!:D :D

    Angiex
  • Merlinexcalibur
    Merlinexcalibur Posts: 1,699 Forumite
    And TBH, I also saw the word 'sockpuppet' used here on a thread last night. You just tend to notice things when you've used the internet for a while. Just like in any other walk of life. And have also encountered a few online who revel in doing it. That is what I try to understand, but fail miserably. Because I cannot comprehend how anyone could do it, would want to except for having a wasted imagination that should be chanelled into something constructive. Well, missed Robin Hood so put him on tape for now, next will be Primeval which starts in 20 minutes which I will watch and then Casualty.
    Any help, opinions, views I may hold those are my own. Respect them as you would expect the same in return. Offered freely, is gleaned from a lifetime of experiences, knowledge gaining. Passed on to benefit others. I may be direct, ask you questions but those are to help you. Up to you if you choose to take it. I won't judge you either way.
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