Single and in Debt Part II

PinkTwirl

TDQO wrote: »

Hmmm I'm not sure that the problem is actually being single in itself. It's more a confidence thing... if you feel good about yourself it's 100% easier to get a partner. The tough bit is projecting that image around yourself, that image of being sexy, smart and confident. That in itself will bring encounters and possibly more.

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No, I'm afraid I don't agree with that either. I don't think a lack of confidence can be blamed. I talk to the guys I find attractive, I don't really have a problem with it. I don't have a partner. I mean I talk to them in a way I would talk to everyone, not running after them asking for a date. I've been told that I have the right level of confidence.

The problem is being single, some of us are at an age where we want to settle down, have kids, are tired of doing this guessing work and want to get on with it. The point is we don't just want ANY partner, I'm sure none of us would have a problem getting any old junkie off the street, we want someone that ticks the most important boxes.

Shoe_Gal

PinkTwirl wrote: »

I must say, I don't think we are missing the point. I have lived with a guy and I like the compromise that it needs, I just wished he had loved me and I wasn't on my own. It's preferable to living on one's own for ever and never experiencing anything new. As a single person, I don't have it "all". I don't have kids. I'm 32 and I've had enough of buying clothes.

Well I am 42, don't have kids - and am F Fabulous!!!! Thanks to Lula for the quote - I am trying to believe this because I don't like the alternative :rolleyes:. Surely the alternative is putting life 'on hold' until somebody comes along to rescue me? Not sure that it is a viable alternative - after all, how long am I supposed to wait?

PinkTwirl

Shoe_Gal wrote: »

Well I am 42, don't have kids - and am F Fabulous!!!! Thanks to Lula for the quote - I am trying to believe this because I don't like the alternative :rolleyes:. Surely the alternative is putting life 'on hold' until somebody comes along to rescue me? Not sure that it is a viable alternative - after all, how long am I supposed to wait?

That's fair enough, you are fabulous, we all are, putting life on hold is certainly not an option, I do agree with you, I do what I can being single, I buy clothes, quite frankly, too many , I go to the gym, I go out when those attached people can spare me a scrap of their time. I just personally don't feel like I have everything, or that I'm lacking confidence. I just don't feel that we must all being doing something wrong, like we are broken or something. We are all fine, like you say, Fabulous!

Shoe_Gal

PinkTwirl wrote: »

That's fair enough, you are fabulous, we all are, putting life on hold is certainly not an option, I do agree with you, I do what I can being single, I buy clothes, quite frankly, too many , I go to the gym, I go out when those attached people can spare me a scrap of their time. I just personally don't feel like I have everything, or that I'm lacking confidence. I just don't feel that we must all being doing something wrong, like we are broken or something. We are all fine, like you say, Fabulous!

No, I don't feel I hav everything but Sarah said something the other day about 'working with what you've got' and I think that is very true. Just trying not to waste time wishing for things I haven't got and thinking everybody else is better off.

Note, I said trying - and not always succeeding !!! Some days life seems to be full of 'smug marrieds' :rolleyes:

PinkTwirl

Shoe_Gal wrote: »

No, I don't feel I hav everything but Sarah said something the other day about 'working with what you've got' and I think that is very true. Just trying not to waste time wishing for things I haven't got and thinking everybody else is better off.

Note, I said trying - and not always succeeding !!! Some days life seems to be full of 'smug marrieds' :rolleyes:

That's fair enough, I do agree with what you are saying, we can't sit around waiting for things to happen, we've got to get on with it.

Smug married's, I hate 'em!

Shoe_Gal

PinkTwirl wrote: »

That's fair enough, I do agree with what you are saying, we can't sit around waiting for things to happen, we've got to get on with it.

Smug married's, I hate 'em!

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Off to attack my list now, with catch up later

FeeFee

:hello: Hello all you F Fabulous peeps!!
Big dodgy hugs to all - :grouphug: especially those struggling a bit at the mo... Have been very quiet of late as I have been busy with work and spending my evenings on the phone with a... wait for it.... 'boy'..... shock horror!! Early days yet - we've had 2 dates but he seems genuine and is really good company. There is hope for us all... only been single for approx. 4 years...
Its true what they say.. when you least expect it.. I do have my concerns about getting into anything esp. too quickly etc.. fingers burned and all that... (don't know why I'm so worried about that it may well all come to nothing..)
MSE wise I have had good moments and bad... off to an MSE-tastic FREE airshow down in Southend today with my fellow long time single friends (any boys on the scene have to fit in around the friends which have seen me through some really tough times) which should be fun (just as well cos I am skint till payday on Wednesday)
Happy Bank Holidays to all you luvvliesxxxxxxxx

Buffythedebtslayer

Morning it is still morning just right?

I have implenmented the Goddess plan, everything is buffed and moisturised and painted I am wearing fairly decent clothes (new skirt that is the last of the clothes budget till I sell some stuff on Ebay)

I don't like being single, I had a plan A and a plan B and B was looking very much like it was the only way. I don't like that.

I am going to look as good as I can I am going to get fitter and I am going to get out of debt.

Its boring and I am working on the get a man plan Sarah.

but first I have to tidy up.

I will be back later

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Eupho

moo2moo wrote: »

I think you singlies are missing the point here. Whilst having an available OH to take to the many events on the social calendar is great it doesn't nescessarily mean that they actually want to go. In fact the amount of effort it takes to get them places at times means its infinately preferable to go on your own.

Singlies never get the "and what time do you call this" ear bending when arriving home sober at 9pm having stayed out 30 minutes beyond the anticipated 8:30pm ending of a work related meeting. Sometimes its like I'm 12 again .

Singlies don't have to share a bed with a snoring farting thing who after several beers becomes incapable of using toilet paper properly - uggh is the understatement of the year.

Singlies get to wear whatever underwear they want without comment. It is not assumed that you will wear a g-string every single day of your life. No sane woman wants to go horse riding in a g-string!

Singlies can wear whatever they like without comment and do not have to endure the recurring anti-pajama conversations.

The only person to criticise a singlies outfit is the singlie themself. OHs have a knack of saying "you're not wearing that are you" when clearly you are or you wouldn't have put it on in the first place.

There are no cries of "are you ready yet" three nano seconds after you enter the bathroom.

On those days when all you fancy is beans on toast the OH will be adament thats its roast dinner night.

As for TV well whilst I would like to watch Bridget Jones Diary or Desperate Housewives I invariably end up watching Trawlers, Rigs and Rescue (I kid you not it really exists and it is as dull as it sounds).

OOOh and most important of all the ironing pile of your average singlie is 50% of the size of us marrieds. See you singlies have it all!

hahaha! :rotfl::T

TDQO

Grrr I feel like poo, my ex has a habit of popping up and talking to me on MSN just when I'm completely unprepared for it!

Good work on the fabulous front ladies, keep it up!