My parents are losing out £100 per week benefit because of me!!!

gemini24

And here I am relaxing on a Friday evening after working 60 hours since Monday and going in to work tomorrow, reading posts from someone complaining their family is being penalised by the benefits system because they don't pay anything towards their own living costs. So pleased to see my tax and national insurance money is being so well spent and appreciated by the receivers of my contributions.

I_know_my_ABC_and_my_CMYK

dmg24 wrote: »

Rule No 1 Benefits Board: If you don't like the accurate advice given, seek professional advice.

Thank you please.

Problem is most posts on benefits are judgemental, not giving advice.

webtalk

it is a well known fact that parents will make a lot of sacrifices for their children and make out that is exactly what they want and that they're not doing without/struggling/worrying as result.

It is also well known that they'll make even greater sacrifices if the child isn't well has a history of illness.

It is also a well known fact that many elderly parents will say/do anything and put up with a tremendous amount of !!!!! to keep their children on side and in the hope that they'll help/visit/etc. - often pretending that is what they want.

At some point someone has to ask the question: is there financial/emotional abuse going on?

It is a hard question for anyone - let alone the people involved.

And, lastly, it is also a well known fact that a lot of parents use money and various other devices (health, disability, inability to 'cope') as a means of manipulating and controlling their children.

So the real question is: who is the abuser and who is the victim - if either exist?

And, more importantly, is this a genuine win-win situation - which it may well be. It is impossible for us to know without speaking to the parents and watching interactions.

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I_know_my_ABC_and_my_CMYK wrote: »

Problem is most posts on benefits are judgemental, not giving advice.

I beg to differ,on this board 99% of the people who give advice do so without making judgements at all,the advice given FREELY on here is done so politely and possitively,just now and again we get people who dont like the advice and get abit miffed,but thats their problem not ours

woozywendy

Many years ago:eek: when i was 16 i broke my leg badly in an accident and i was getting sickness benefit and invalidity allowance i think it was called. It was a lot of money to me at the time and i received this for over 2 years. i gave my mum and dad half of what I was getting which they tried to refuse but I would not let them. With what i had left was more than enough and I still treated them out of that because they would take me wherever I wanted to go. when i started work I payed them £25 a week but my dad always gave me a £5 back because of how I had split my benefit money up.

alwaysonthego_2

I have taken a break from posting in the benefits board because of posters like the op and some rude posters. I don't see why us experts/advisers should give up our free time to help people, with the lack of morals and manners, to up their income.

p.s to the op many people on this board giving out advice are experts and work in the benefits field.

healy

alwaysonthego wrote: »

I have taken a break from posting in the benefits board because of posters like the op and some rude posters. I don't see why us experts/advisers should give up our free time to help people, with the lack of morals and manners, to up their income.

p.s to the op many people on this board giving out advice are experts and work in the benefits field.

I thought I hadnt seen you about much.

Try not to let the knobheads put you off too much as you do give good advice.

joyce341

This is one that I did,nt know about and South Beds council phoned me up to tell me I was entitled to it,which only go,s to show how careing they are,I am on pension credit,live in houseing association house,was on houseing and council tax benefit,my daughter and son in law came to live with me and they had a reasonable wage,so canceled the benefit for the house,the council then phoned me up and said i was still entitled to houseing and council tax benefit and to reapply,I did this and was awarded council tax and houseing benefit,had no council tax to pay and half of my rent paid,it go,s on the amount the person who lives with you earn,as they were over the highest wage,I got the minimum allowance,would be higher if they were on less wages.I wonder how many people like me did not know about this.
Joyce

pippin49

Best option would be to become their *live in carer*