MSE Pregnancy Club VII

LouBlue

And labour/congrats vibes to MFD and EmmyLou. xx

redmel1621

MrsTine wrote: »

Sorry but I can't help myself: How awfully shallow is she!

Seriously! If it was THAT important to her then why did she get pregnant again - a 50/50 chance seems a huge risk if she wanted a girl that badly! At 20+ weeks I don't think termination is really an option even if she wanted that (and if she does I seriously hopes she never falls pregnant again! I'm prochoice and there are situations where I think terminations are the best way forward, however not getting the sex you wanted is NOT one of them!) and she'd never guarantee falling with a girl next time if she tried again.

I think her best bet is to seek some professional help and get her GP to refer her to a psycologist. Unless she deals with this now she will probably never bond with the baby and that would be a terrible home to grow up in I think...

I am completely with you on this Tine.
I can't really comment on this too much without being too harsh, towards such a shallow person. But if she is that desperate for a girl why insist she is only having two kiddies??? A friend of mine had 5 boys and got her girl on baby 6!!! She loves them all equally and it was only after boy 3 that she started thinking she might like a daughter.

As others have said, the only real way forward is to seek some counselling as I feel sorry and slightly afraid for the life of an unwanted child...

Mel x

tiamai_d

I'm on BBC1 allllll night.... David Tennent... tastier than Mr.Kipling, Mr.Harribbo and even that ice cream thats not Tom and Jerry....

Made salmon, new potaoes and green beans for dinner but DH has nipped out to take DS1 to SIL's kids club which is on from 7-9 and we forgot all about. DS1 been a couple times but recently asked to go. Just waiting on DH getting back, we are in a romantic mood :cool:

Got my free changing bag from boots and also, my personal phobia, maternity pads. So basically, I just need a car seat and can then say I am all ready for baby. At 16 weeks! There is more to get, but as it is, he/she will have clothes, some nappies, somewhere to sleep and bottles to drink from (if needed) and I can even sterilise them too with the little microwave steam steriliser I got with the breast pump.

tiamai_d

efrieze wrote: »

I have a friend who has a dilemma.She has a DS and has just found out that her beanie is another DS and she is devastated (truely). She was desperate for a daughter, only ever planned or wanted 2 children and now has gone into a depression abuot how she will never have the DD she always dreamed of. She found out yesterday and went to the doctor this morning as she was so depressed and has been signed off sick for a week (he insisted!!!). I don't know what I can say to her to make her feel better.She said that this is going to hang over her forever and isn't dealing with it very well. Any ideas if there are any support groups on this??? It might sound shallow to be so distressed about this, but to her it is a very BIG DEAL. And being told 'at least it's healthy' is not currently a consolation! Any advice I can give her???? Thanks

PS she is 20 + 4 (1 day after me!)

Sorry, but I think she does not need people telling her it's ok to feel depressed about having another boy, she needs a slap. She needs to be told that reproduction is a random process and the chances of having a boy is 50/50, if she was not willing to accept this she should have adopted a girl. Before she even got pregnant she should have thought long and hard about what if she had another boy and if she was unable to deal with it, she should never have had another. She needs to be told that she is being shallow and selfish, not to be told lies. Harsh I know, but I'm not one to be gentle when it comes down to telling people what they need to be told, not what they want to be told.

mookiandco

Hiya all

Had a MW appointment this morning. At 26wks i'm measuring 27cm, so all good on that front. I asked about the HIPG form but they didnt have any so nursery furniture is just going to have to wait a while. I saw the practice manager and told her to order more and put one aside for me.

After hubby's collision with bollard incident the other day, he rang me last night to say that the car key had snapped. I ask you - how do you manage to snap a thick metal car key. Anyways he left car at work as I collected him and he has been towed home tonight. £162.00 for a new key + £100 for new tyre and hub cab + £100 hire car whilst they do the key = money we cant afford to spend. Boo hoo!

Didnt stop me ordering pizza tonight though!

I asked MW about induction here and they let you go to due date + 12 with a sweep at 40wks and 41wks. I very strongly feel however that despite this being my first she is going to come early - its just a feeling and theres no real reason for it. I told my mum tonight and she said that she had me at 37wks and my brother was over a week early so it is a possibility.

Right back to Corrie!

dooleys

Hi Glamazon It's not just you feeling down.
I'm ok but DH has come home in a foul mood :rolleyes: Great.....So much for Comic Relief. He's sitting upstairs, i'm downstairs!!
I only commented on the fact he nearly hit my car
Must be his hormones
At least i'm getting snuggled up to by the dog :rolleyes:

SeptemberBaby_2

efrieze, I pity your friend. She doesn't know how lucky she is but depression is a very real illness and she needs help sooner rather than later. Please ask her to see her GP asap.

xx

Krystaltips

We had scouse for tea... Everyone's favourite in this house! Followed by a bit of shop bought sponge birthday cake (My fave kind!) Am completely stuffed now and ready for my bed... But need to tidy up before people come here in the morning pre-birthday party... Plus need to finish the stoopid porcupine cake...

SeptemberBaby_2

Glad all went well, Mooki and such a naughty DH you have there! :D.

xx

SeptemberBaby_2

Krystaltips wrote: »

We had scouse for tea... Everyone's favourite in this house! Followed by a bit of shop bought sponge birthday cake (My fave kind!) Am completely stuffed now and ready for my bed... But need to tidy up before people come here in the morning pre-birthday party... Plus need to finish the stoopid porcupine cake...

Good luck with the porcupine! I wouldn't even know where to start! . Hope Aimee had a lovely day.

xx