the daydream fund challenge thread

Lotus-eater

lostinrates wrote: »

Anyone got any spare kids?

You can borrow my two anytime you like

In fact, if you want them this weekend that would be a bonus, as I have a big job on and no one to look after them :eek:

I trust strange ladies I meet on the net. Well with the kids anyway

lostinrates

Lotus-eater wrote: »

You can borrow my two anytime you like

In fact, if you want them this weekend that would be a bonus, as I have a big job on and no one to look after them :eek:

I trust strange ladies I meet on the net. Well with the kids anyway

LOL, how big are they? can they move rubble? sweep yards? :D

We dipped our toes further in the fostering thing after moving and then paused again...they suggested I volunteer for girl guides for a year and TBH, although I'd do all sorts of things for child I was caring for to support its interests I just don't feel too convinced about this. I'd like children in our lives, but life goes on, and life IS pretty good.

Lotus-eater

lostinrates wrote: »

LOL, how big are they? can they move rubble? sweep yards? :D

We dipped our toes further in the fostering thing after moving and then paused again...they suggested I volunteer for girl guides for a year and TBH, although I'd do all sorts of things for child I was caring for to support its interests I just don't feel too convinced about this. I'd like children in our lives, but life goes on, and life IS pretty good.

My little one would love to help, but at 15 months he'd make more mess than you started with he manages to wreck my house virtually every day.

I wouldn't mention to the fostering people about wanting kids who are able to sweep yards and move piles of rubble, they tend to have funny ideas about things like that.
And definitely don't mention anything about chimneys needing sweeping.

I don't see why you should have to do guides tbh, I know when we were unsure if we could have kids I looked into adopting and the hoops they seem to want you to jump through and the way they scrutinise every bit of your life, put me off I'm afraid.

lostinrates

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I don't see why you should have to do guides tbh, I know when we were unsure if we could have kids I looked into adopting and the hoops they seem to want you to jump through and the way they scrutinise every bit of your life, put me off I'm afraid.

Its not the effort or the hoops. I think its kind of fair and right you should have to prove yourself safe for children and open to learning but its the ''that's different we don't like that''. I posted in the families board about it all before but we were told on our first approach we were ''too middle class'' and would give children unattainable ambitions what with me being a stay at home an dh being what he is. Which I've never really forgiven ''them'' for because it seems shocking the system is limiting the goals of the children in care: the only way we got anywhere is by setting ourselves no limits.

Lotus-eater

lostinrates wrote: »

Its not the effort or the hoops. I think its kind of fair and right you should have to prove yourself safe for children and open to learning but its the ''that's different we don't like that''. I posted in the families board about it all before but we were told on our first approach we were ''too middle class'' and would give children unattainable ambitions what with me being a stay at home an dh being what he is. Which I've never really forgiven ''them'' for because it seems shocking the system is limiting the goals of the children in care: the only way we got anywhere is by setting ourselves no limits.

I find that totally unbelievable and crazy.

That's just wrong in so many ways. (for them to think like that)

lostinrates

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I find that totally unbelievable and crazy.

That's just wrong in so many ways. (for them to think like that)

I agree. I further found it odd,frankly, that the suggestion to counter this, and the lack of experience of being parents was to help at girl guides. Girl guides is a fantastic organisation I'm sure, and I don't want to dismiss the work their volunteers do at all and I'm sure some of it is incredibly hard and enlightening, but well....never mind. Perhaps we're just not cut out for fostering and they are right!

15months? That's old enough to be useful....like: collecting apples into a bucket...:)

Lotus-eater

lostinrates wrote: »

15months? That's old enough to be useful....like: collecting apples into a bucket...:)

I've tried the child labour thing before with things like that, he prefers taking things out

lostinrates

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I've tried the child labour thing before with things like that, he prefers taking things out

Aha, laying the potatoes in a dug trench.:D

Mallotum_X

We have a dream of more land, would love to own some woodland but we shall see. Currently trying to get the mortgage clear so that we can be free from that debt and have more choices. Currently have a reasonable sized garden thats been turned into something of an exotic hideaway http://alternativeeden.blogspot.com/

alfie_1

lostinrates wrote: »

Its not the effort or the hoops. I think its kind of fair and right you should have to prove yourself safe for children and open to learning but its the ''that's different we don't like that''. I posted in the families board about it all before but we were told on our first approach we were ''too middle class'' and would give children unattainable ambitions what with me being a stay at home an dh being what he is. Which I've never really forgiven ''them'' for because it seems shocking the system is limiting the goals of the children in care: the only way we got anywhere is by setting ourselves no limits.

i actually went on a fostering course and was well on the way until they started to come out with certain "rules and regs" which left me speechless. i must admit i was amused by SOME of the other "contestants" applying in that they were to say the least rigid!! one couple expected any child to follow thier RULES to the letter, even nearly bursting a blood vessel when asked "how would you react if the child called you PETE instead of PETER ?" thier reply ...."they would only do it once! that is disrespectfull!!" i actually burst out laughing! [lead balloon!] i said i think these kids have enough problems , which got them in to being fostered in the 1st place, than to realise that such a "slip" could be of such importance...... i just thought they were adding to the way these kids were feeling [ie.. lost,deserted, neglected, unloved etc] there are rules and there is reading the signs and altering OUR behaviour to meet them half way...but NOPE, seems that cant be allowed??? written by some beurocrat in stone. i sadly bailed out and pitied the child that couple were employed to help! i believe those kids would love nothing better than getting mucky, fresh air, laughs and a good nights sleep!
sorry
im off MY soap box now....