Pregnant - no money!

Flipped27

If you want my advice, I would get away from your bf as soon as possible! You should be grateful he is putting a roof over your head?! You're pregnant with HIS child?!

Jeez....

mumtobesazzle

bestpud wrote: »

Is this a wind up?

no this isnt a wind up.. Sorry if it came across that way

mumtobesazzle

I cant believe some of the comments on here, I came for geniune advice and I get slated because of my current situation. I have worked since i left school, and it was unfortunate that I was laid off my other job 8 months ago. And as for the comments on Jemery Kyle, I do not wish to wash my dirty linen in public, I do not agree with the people who go on that show to get paid to tell there life stories.
I am NOT someone who wants to milk the system from the tax payers money, but what else am I suppose to do until I find employment?
you shouldnt judge a person you dont know, and the comments that I "slipped on his willy" are completely out of order.
On a posistive note, thankyou to those who actually gave me some useful advice and arent on here to delibrately upset those who are genuine.
Thankyou very much

Loopy_Girl

If you read again you will see that I was sticking up for you and pointing out that it wasn't 'YOUR' fault for getting pregnant - it takes 2 to make a baby.

As a matter of fact I get sick of reading posts on here from people who wish to pass judgement when they don't know the full story.

You asked for benefit advice and a few snide comments were made - believe me, I wasn't joining in - quite the opposite in fact.

mariagti

You can also get the health in pregnancy grant £190 after your 24 week ante-natal appointment, ask your mid-wife about this as i think they give you the form for it.

Kavanne

mumtobesazzle wrote: »

I put it down to youth and immaturity.were both young(ish) im 22 and hes 28.. he says he doesnt have enough money to do so and that I should be grateful that he puts a roof over my head(which I am).. I can't help the fact I have a "mean" boyfriend! x

That is disgusting. I support my boyfriend almost entirely (i pay mortgage, utilities and most of food) and all he is doing is studying for a degree and has a very limited income. For sure if he was pregnant I would do the same thing lol.

Your boyfriend is outrageous, I feel. He CAN afford it he probably just can't be bothered to cut back. Which he is going to need to do with a baby on the way.

Flipped27

The system sees you as being in a couple and therefore, as you live with him, his income will be taken into consideration when it comes to any benefits that you apply for. This is just the way it works - if you want to claim on your own and he refuses to support you and your baby then you will need to move out and start afresh on your own.

I was a single Mum and met a new partner, when we decided to move intogether, my tax credits went down and we got a joint bank account - the only way we could do it - he didn't begrudge "feeding" me and his step-child so I feel for you that your boyfriend is treating you like this when you are pregnant with his child.

I don't think you "need" to tell any employer that you are pregnant until 15 weeks before the baby is due, so in theory you don't need to tell any emplyer that you are pregnant when you go for an interview.

I think you may only be entitled to MA as opposed to SMP as you won't have been working for your employer for long enough.

You might find this helpful http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Moneyandworkentitlements/WorkAndFamilies/Pregnancyandmaternityrights/DG_10026556.

I wish you lots of luck

Flipped

Marcheline

Francesanne wrote: »

Not telling any prospective employer that's she's pregnant sounds very mean and dishonest to me.

Not at all, I've done it myself when I was in a similar situation (pregnant having just graduated) and my employer was just brilliant when they found out. They don't lose out on any money as you're not entitled to statutory maternity pay. The OP has to look after herself and her child, not worry about what her employer might think.

Sazzle, I really do feel for you: don't listen to the negativity on here from some people. Just check out all the links we've given you and check here too to see if we've missed anything out http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/MoneyTaxAndBenefits/BenefitsTaxCreditsAndOtherSupport/Expectingorbringingupchildren/index.htm

Stay strong and if you need any more advice, don't be put off asking again on here!

bestpud

mumtobesazzle wrote: »

I cant believe some of the comments on here, I came for geniune advice and I get slated because of my current situation. I have worked since i left school, and it was unfortunate that I was laid off my other job 8 months ago. And as for the comments on Jemery Kyle, I do not wish to wash my dirty linen in public, I do not agree with the people who go on that show to get paid to tell there life stories.
I am NOT someone who wants to milk the system from the tax payers money, but what else am I suppose to do until I find employment?
you shouldnt judge a person you dont know, and the comments that I "slipped on his willy" are completely out of order.
On a posistive note, thankyou to those who actually gave me some useful advice and arent on here to delibrately upset those who are genuine.
Thankyou very much

I can only speak for myself here, but I am frustrated (angry even) on your behalf, and I asked if it was a wind up as I couldn't believe you were making excuses for your OH when he is bang out of order.

I'm not sure leaving him is the answer but I do think the two of you have some serious issues that you'd be wise to deal with before the baby arrives.

mumtobesazzle

Thankyou again for all the ones who left comments that have helped me.. I now know what I have to do, and what I need to sort out.