Pregnant - no money!

Saver-Rob

I do feel sorry for you in a way. This is not a good position to be in.

On the other hand it is entirely your own fault for getting pregnant, especially outside of marriage. This partner is obviously a waste of space - why would you even want to talk to somebody like this, let alone go to bed with him?

I may know somebody who could help though...

Loopy_Girl

"Entirely HER own fault is it"?

Jeezo, she must have slipped and fell on his willie as she was climbing back into bed after getting up for a pee and never noticed:rolleyes:

Saver-Rob

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

"Entirely HER own fault is it"?

Jeezo, she must have slipped and fell on his willie as she was climbing back into bed after getting up for a pee and never noticed:rolleyes:

Seeing as its the girl who is ultimately facing bringing up a child on her own and is here posting her situation for all to see, her situation is entirely her own fault. The bloke will be a nightmare to get any money from. Surely girls are wising up to all this?

Or maybe you are a guest of Jeremy's claiming ".... but he luvved mee".

Misstee_2

You might be eligible for Maternity Allowance if you have worked / will have worked for 26 weeks in the 15 months before your due date, if you got another temp job after 1st May you could end up with enough weeks to get this.

If not you may be able to get incapacity benefit for the 6 weeks before you are due and for 2 weeks after the birth.

In your circumstance you should speak to Jobcentre Plus (0800 055 6688) who will be able to advise you on the best way forward.

It sounds like you need to sit down with your partner and have a discussion about your home situation and the impending changes to it and make a plan for how you will manage financially now and once the baby arrives, remember you will get child benefit and child tax credits (possibly also wtc) but need to think about cost of equipment for the baby, nappies / clothes, if you are going to go back to work / cost of childcare etc. How does your partner feel about the pregnancy?

ninky_2

mumtobesazzle wrote: »

.. I can't help the fact I have a "mean" boyfriend! x

errr...actually you can. i'm assuming you chose him and this was not an "arranged" situation?

you also chose to get pregnant. i have never had an accidental pregnancy yet have had lots of sex over the years....

you must start to take more responsiblity for your life and for that of your future child. good luck. i hope things work out well for you.

Loopy_Girl

Saver-Rob wrote: »

Seeing as its the girl who is ultimately facing bringing up a child on her own and is here posting her situation for all to see, her situation is entirely her own fault. The bloke will be a nightmare to get any money from. Surely girls are wising up to all this?

Or maybe you are a guest of Jeremy's claiming ".... but he luvved mee".

Accidents happen my friend, doesn't mean that females should all trot off to the abortion clinic.

It's happened now and there is no point berating a poster now. She's asking for help regarding her potential benefit entitlement - which is what this board is for I believe, not for judgment on what happened when she had sex 10 weeks ago.

Saver-Rob

I agree, though sometimes a bit of a reality check does a world of good (you never know, somebody else might see this and avoid the same mistake).

I dont wish her bad luck but I do worry as to peoples mindsets sometimes.

Francesanne

Marcheline wrote: »

Hiya, at 12 weeks gone you're probably not showing too much, so I think you've got a while to find a job (just take anything you can find) but just don't disclose your pregnancy to the employer until you've got the job.

Once your child is born, you will receive child benefit of £80 a month and are probably entitled to child tax credit and possibly working tax credit too. Prior to the birth in the later stages of pregnancy, you will receive the health in pregnancy grant of £190 http://www.dh.gov.uk/en/Publicationsandstatistics/Legislation/Actsandbills/HealthandSocialCareBill/DH_080449

I do not think you will be entitled to Income Support because your partner is earning, but you may be entitled to something else instead (although I do not know anything about IS or JSA so someone else should be along to help on that count in a bit)

Oh yeah just one more thing, in the later stages of pregnancy you may be eligible for Maternity Allowance, check here to see if you are http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/MoneyTaxAndBenefits/BenefitsTaxCreditsAndOtherSupport/Expectingorbringingupchildren/DG_10018869

Also, one more thing, which I hope does not come across as harsh: I take it you are pregnant with your partner's child? If so, why is he not prepared to support you food wise and buy your toiletries etc...this is the very least he should be doing in my opinion. The govt is right to expect people's partners to support them, as you are in a partnership with each other.

Not telling any prospective employer that's she's pregnant sounds very mean and dishonest to me.

Francesanne

mumtobesazzle wrote: »

I put it down to youth and immaturity.were both young(ish) im 22 and hes 28.. he says he doesnt have enough money to do so and that I should be grateful that he puts a roof over my head(which I am).. I can't help the fact I have a "mean" boyfriend! x

His he ready for Fatherhood? he's going to be in for quite a shock.

mariagti

mumtobesazzle wrote: »

I am currently 12 weeks pregnant, and living with my partner who earns around £210 a week.

I am due to finish my temporary job on 1st May 2009.

Before I started temporary employment on February 9th 2009,I had been out of work for about 8 months, and in my current situation I feel that I will not be able to find a pernament job due to my pregnancy..( I know employers are not suppose to discriminate against pregnant women, but they do!!)

Am I entitled to any benefits? I have read on the internet that because I live with my partner, he is suppose to support me and I will receive no benefits as I do not have enough National Insurance Contributions. However, although he pays his morgage and other household bills, he doesnt buy food, or personal items for myself (such as tolietries,etc.)

Is it really true that the government expects that all partners to support you, when some clearly dont? And would I have to go through my pregnancy, and bring up a child on no money? Any info would be greatly apprieciated.

Hi mumtobe,

Get yourself onto JSA, and apply for as many jobs as possible. You dont have to tell employers in the interview your pregnant. And at only 12 weeks your bump shouldnt be too noticeable.

Now your expecting your OH's baby, he really cant be so selfish in not buying you any food!