The Compers Inn - Part 14

jenniwren12

I agree with stressed easter. That behaviour is not acceptable from a teacher.

toniq

easter65 wrote: »

Haven't been in the inn for a while but really need to tell someone this as I'm on my own at home and not sure what to do.....

DD just text me from school she has run away from the Teacher because she called my DD who is 13 a Slapper and a Tart for wearing make-up. Apparently she walked in class room and thought she was putting it on but only went to school in a light foundation ( due to the fact she is concious of her spots ) which lots of girls do. I phoned her and told her to go to a sixth former or the office and get advice. I'm not about to fly off the handle just in case but said the teacher is keeping her back for an hour tonight after school...which she is not allowed to do if I have not had 24 hours notice...:mad::mad::mad:

Call the school speak to head of year now easter, they can not keep her back,ask the head of year to deal with this immedialtey before u call the education authority xxxx

ThinkingOfLinking

easter65 wrote: »

Haven't been in the inn for a while but really need to tell someone this as I'm on my own at home and not sure what to do.....

DD just text me from school she has run away from the Teacher because she called my DD who is 13 a Slapper and a Tart for wearing make-up. Apparently she walked in class room and thought she was putting it on but only went to school in a light foundation ( due to the fact she is concious of her spots ) which lots of girls do. I phoned her and told her to go to a sixth former or the office and get advice. I'm not about to fly off the handle just in case but said the teacher is keeping her back for an hour tonight after school...which she is not allowed to do if I have not had 24 hours notice...:mad::mad::mad:

Firstly, ring the school to find out what is happening.

Go to school and collect your daughter on time, and if they try and keep her behind, remind them they are obliged to give you notice.

YOu know your daughter; you can tell if she is telling the truth (I am sure she is, by the way!!) so talk to her and then dispute what the teacher(s) say and explain, like, "I know she's not perfect but I also know my daughter and I know she's not lying." Then mention how well behaved/well performing etc she is and how surely they should be focussing on the real trouble makers rather than intimidating her and interfereing with her education???

When I was being picked on by teachers, it made me less inclined to work well in their lessons any more.

stressedofdevon

Just posted quickly as wanted you to know you were not alone, Easter. I am not clear from your post, but do you know the whereabouts of your daughter at this moment? If not, please act quickly.

If she is safe, then the school should know and investigate immediately if the teacher has indulged in public name calling - your DD is at a vulnerable age and to treat her that way is very destructive. I accept they may have rules regarding makeup, but there is a right and wrong way to handle it. My school was very strict but my DD is also 13 and I am surprised what some of her classmates get away with, and some days I wish the school were firmer instead of me being the baddy and saying get that eyeliner or nail varnish off!!

Lastly, they cannot just keep her after school without authorisation from you, surely? If my DD were late home I would be very upset, and an hour I would be calling the police.

You must get in touch with them asap. Please let me know how it goes, and I hope DD is ok and not too traumatised. Spots are a terrible self esteem destroyer and she has been very badly handled there.

Thinking of you.

easter65

Thanks all.....I haven't phoned john cause he will go mad. I have to be honest as a mom and say...DD can be a little sod at times. I phoned her and said are you telling the truth and she said the teacher called it all 3 of us girls. She has text me just and said she has seen the head and he is sorting it out now.....Will give them time and then if i hear nothing will ring. Thanks for advice girls.

mad_gemma

that is wrong on every level to your DD, Easter! I'm shocked a teacher can say such a thing!

and :eek: £4000! Unbelievable! I'm sure the agency are legally obliged to report things to landlords on your behalf? I bet the LL wouldn't be happy to find out his property has been damaged by the others! Does your contract not have his contact details on? surely CAB could offer some help to get hold of him? I know you don't want them to pick on you again, but you shouldn't have to lose your deposit because of them

sparky61

easter, I would definitely ring the school and complain. And surely, wearing a concealer isn't an offence that's punishable by detention and if it helps your dd feel more confident, it can only be a good thing.

That teacher is a disgrace, hope everything turns out ok xxx

easter65

Sorry stress...Yeh she is fine. They cant get out of school its completely fenced and security all way round....more like prison....She just text me she went to P.E

cathyj

easter65 wrote: »

Haven't been in the inn for a while but really need to tell someone this as I'm on my own at home and not sure what to do.....

DD just text me from school she has run away from the Teacher because she called my DD who is 13 a Slapper and a Tart for wearing make-up. Apparently she walked in class room and thought she was putting it on but only went to school in a light foundation ( due to the fact she is concious of her spots ) which lots of girls do. I phoned her and told her to go to a sixth former or the office and get advice. I'm not about to fly off the handle just in case but said the teacher is keeping her back for an hour tonight after school...which she is not allowed to do if I have not had 24 hours notice...:mad::mad::mad:

easter contact the school immediately and ask to speak to the year head,
make sure your childs whereabouts is known, if she is not in class they must find her immediately,
under the school agreeement they are responsible for your child during school time.
Insist that they see you today as that language is not acceptable senior school or not.

stressedofdevon

Easter, it can do no harm for school to know you are aware, and if I were the head I would want to know if a staff member had handled kids badly, and usually there is no smoke without fire even though at this age they can be a little 'dramatic', to put it mildly!

Not to be confrontational, you are clearly keeping an open mind, but for DD to be so upset something has gone wrong and you need to ask them to investigate, and quickly too before they have all suffer memory loss IYKWIM.

Glad she is safe, if a little ruffled. Good luck, and nice to see you