The Compers Inn - Part 14

essexgal

(((( hugs to Chris and family ))))

so sorry to hear your news.


essexgal

jenniwren12

Chris
So very sorry to hear your news. Keep strong and know that he is always looking after you.
xxxxx
Your memorial page is lovely, what a truly wonderful man you had in your dad.

Take good care of each other.
xxx

toniq

Your in my thoughts and prayers xxx
look after yourself xxxx
Ur debi is a diamond xxx
Hugs me xxx

Nicky63

Much love to you and Debbi and all your family Chris, there's a piece of prose by a lady called Margaret Brownley that I think is so honest and true at these times, particularly this part "Please don't try to find the "right" words to say to me. There's nothing you can say to take away the hurt. What I need are hugs, not words." So I won't try to find the right words, I will just send you this ((((hug)))) and the prose xxxxxxx

Dear Friend,
Please be patient with me; I need to grieve in my own way and in my own time.

Please don't take away my grief or try to fix my pain. The best thing you can do is listen to me and let me cry on your shoulder. Don't be afraid to cry with me. Your tears will tell me how much you care.

Please forgive me if I seem insensitive to your problems. I feel depleted and drained, like an empty vessel, with nothing left to give.

Please let me express my feelings and talk about my memories. Feel free to share your own stories of my loved one with me. I need to hear them.

Please understand why I must turn a deaf ear to criticism or tired clich!s. I can't handle another person telling me that time heals all wounds.

Please don't try to find the "right" words to say to me. There's nothing you can say to take away the hurt. What I need are hugs, not words.

Please don't push me to do things I'm not ready to do, or feel hurt if I seem withdrawn. This is a necessary part of my recovery.

Please don't stop calling me. You might think you're respecting my privacy, but to me it feels like abandonment. Please don't expect me to be the same as I was before. I've been through a traumatic experience and I'm a different person.

Please accept me for who I am today. Pray with me and for me. Should I falter in my own faith, let me lean on yours. In return for your loving support I promise that, after I've worked through my grief, I will be a more loving, caring, sensitive, and compassionate friend-becauseI have learned from the best.

Love,
(Your name)
-Margaret Brownley

katiekittykat

cathyj wrote: »

Oh am sorry, is it not working at all?

Sometime the GP can be more sympathetic than consultants, my dad finds that.
x

i am going go and see my GP and see what she can do - as she has been amazing through the whole thing xxx

chris08

Thanks Everyone, I think the prose, is so right in every aspect, thank you, nickyXXXXX

katiekittykat

Lots of hugs to chris xxxxxx

cathy why was tina cancelled??? xxxx

chris08

Will pop back tomorrow, have been reading everyday,( no comps though brains not up to that) but feel like part of something reading about everybody s days. Thanks:A

Miss_Cinnabon

chris, im so sorry to hear your sad news, hugs xxxx

NoNameWoman

Chris, so sorry to hear your awful news ! Stay strong x