Help daughter being bullied in school

LittleJane_2

i suggest your daughter keeps a diary of what happens, this will help her emotionally and will back up her story at school.
also write to the governors of the school, also put all your concerns in writing to the school.
Make sure your daughter joins lots of clubs so her confidents is improved, remember keep her busy and positive. My children have both had conflict at school and it is important that this doesn't effect them long term.
children and adults do say horrible thing but most are unlikely to act on them. Your daughter should also stop contacting them online and make sure she doesn't give out her mobile number.

poe.tuesday

one thing you must be careful of and that is loosing it at the school, you must keep calm - I was kicked out and banned from my child's school when they failed to act when my daughter had been hit - it did no-one any favours as the school went against me - but the end result was best for us as we took our children out of the school and they are so much happier in their new school

if it was my daughter going through what yours is I know what I would be doing - get the proof and present it to the school, the police and the parents - any of them fail to stop these girls then I would take matters into my own hands - rightly or wrongly - these girls need to be stopped and I would do if other fail - play them at their own game

Bettyboop

That's terrible. As previously mentioned your daughter cannot rely on her buddies to protect her? For one if they fell out or as you say they are away then she will be easily targeted. I dread this situation but if you haven't done so already make an appointment to see the Headteacher, disclose the names, make sure all the teachers are aware of the "thug bunch" - I have no nice names for bullies and at the same ask him what they are going to do about it? Because if anything does happen to her it will be detrimental and while you are not with her during the day the teachers need to try and keep a look out for her....

Hope it gets sorted and those brats get sorted out NOW before it's too late.

lynzpower

If you dont think the school is following the anti bullying stance they should be ,why not seek advice from the LEA or Ofsted? Ofted definately used to have an antiu bullying helpline, where parents can advise Ofsted of failiures to protect victims.

RachelW1987

Hi Im sorry to hear your daughter is in this situation

I was bullied when I was younger for about a month by a boy (who I think might of fancied me you know what boys are like at that age) and it didn't stop until I stood up for myself

Also I suggest you tell her to try and just laugh and walk away. The more they notice that she isn't bothered by them the less they will do it. It takes a while but it will work. Also I wouldn't keep her off school as they know she is scared to come in which makes them stronger and feel like what they are doing is working

Hope your daughter sorts it out, which im sure she will and it will only make her stronger and when she's older she wont take any cr!p off of anyone

ailuro2

I agree - self defence type martial arts classes do wonders for self confidence, and help you learn to read people's intentions - some are less harmful than you might think, whereas being ready for someone hitting you and being able to avoid it and restrain the other person does wonders having the inner strength required for standing up to bullies.

I do Kupso - a mixed martial art, as does my 10 yo DD, hopefully we'll never need it, but it's nice to feel a bit stronger if we ever need to stand up to anyone.

uolypool

my 11 year old is also being bullied at school,by a group of girls who upto recently she had been really friendly with.The one who is the ring leader is getting the others to do the dirty work whilst she sits back and watches.My daughter started to fake illnesses and injuries so she didnt have to go out at break and lunch time.Unknown to me the bullying has been going on for nearly a year and she had bottled it up all this time.School are being pretty good about itand have put measures and stuff in place but still she suffers only tonight she went swimming with another of her friends and these girls turned up they must have over heard them arranging it at school. Well one of the bullies shouted out to my daughter that they dont let slappers in the pool so she had better leave.My daughter was beside herself ,i know that come monday morning i will struggle getting her into school.I t really don't know what to do for the best either.

spenderblender

Thankyou all so very much. It helps to have a different view. I have now got some info on martial arts classes and daughter is quite happy to go and I will also go into school on Monday with her armed with a letter outlining my concerns and to also see the head.

Dazi

Hi am really sorry your daughter is being bullied.

When my daughter was being bullied I spoke to someone from Kidscape, they were very helpful. http://www.kidscape.org.uk/

We too had the problem of police saying it was a school matter and school saying it was happening out of school so not their problem.

Kidscape suggested I took DD to Drs. Our GP was horrified that neither would do anything, he wrote out a sick certificate saying she could not attend school due to bullying. He also wrote a letter for me to enclose with the one I sent to the LEA,

We then had the education welfare officer involved, but sadly DD felt she could not return to the school and moved to one in the next town.

This was about 10 years ago and we didn't have to deal with added pressure of the online stuff, agree with the other posters, if you see anything online, save it.

Hope you manage to get this resolved, I know what an effect this can have on the whole family.

broonbear

my child was bullied a few years ago , the school were hopless just not interested so i reported them to the education authorites still hopless so in desperation i went round to the bullies parents house and told the father what was happening he denied that his child would do anything like that, i just told him if it happens again its him i'm coming for. never had any bother ever again. i;m not proud of myself for having to resort to threating behaviour but it's heartbreaking watching your kids crying because there scared.