9 Year Old Son Stealing - Dont Know What To Do?

Paparika

'I don't know'


I'm sure the boys all go through this, mine had a thing about saying that

stressedoutmum

Well he had his visit from the police today but forgot to tell me. I asked him if he had a good day when he came in and he said yes then I asked what he done today and eventually he remembered. The police asked him if he was worried or nervous and he said no because mum had told him that she was going to tell the police. After speaking to the police later apparently he appeared to take it all in, was very charming and apologetic and fully understood that its wrong. He also told the police ladies he wanted to be a policeman when he grows up and help people like they were doing! I then spoke to him very calmly and eventually he told me that he done it for attention. There are another 4 boys who are his 'friends' -1 always plays with him, 1 mostly but 2 of them are sometimes in bad moods or dont want him to play and when the other 2 ask to let him join in they still say no. He says if he sneaks things in and shows them then the other 2 'friends' will usually then let him play because they want to see what he has got. I explained that they were not really friends then and if they wanted to play with him then all well and good but if not then don't try to buy them or please them but play with someone else that day. I told him he was a very kind loving boy and he was getting himself in trouble for the other 2. I was going to give him a big cuddle then as he was quite tearful but decided against it because he can turn on the charm and waterworks and I didnt want to make a huge fuss of it so Ive told him if his behaviour improves for 2 weeks then he can have a friend round for tea, (one of the nicer ones). I called the school and mentioned it but they said he plays with all different children and has lots of friends at school and is sociable. That sometimes he is very bossy(which he is) which is why he falls out with his friends at times but they will keep an eye on it. The police ladies told him to write letters to his family apologising which is what he is doing now. Very carefully and neatly I might add with big pink lovehearts! Fingers crossed....

u01jet4

Aww thats lovely the idea of letters, you can keep it and show him it if he tries anything like it again! Glad you were able to speak to him about it and work out the reason for why he was behaving as he is, and it sounds like your idea of having the police talk to him has really helped to sort the situation out.

Well done ::T

ailuro2

Thanks for the update - hopefully it will be a new start for him now he has realised what he was doing and why.

Good Luck - have a good weekend!

bylromarha

jem jam- i used to nick creme eggs too. From Woolies-wasn't such a master criminal though as I offered them to my mum and sister and got found out.

Also used to nick boxes of pens from my teachers cupboard, throw them under the hut I was taught in and sneak back into school grounds after hours to retrieve them.

I turned out okay ( I hope). i think most kids do it at some phase-no-one ever discovered what I did and wasn't doing it for attention, was just doing it to see if I could.

Savvy_Sue

Ah well, if he wants to be a policeman he really does need to keep out of trouble! Last thing he needs is a criminal record, as I kept reminding DS3 in the days when that was his ambition!