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Speckled_Egg wrote: »

I was beginning to think it was just me being hypersensitive. At least I know other people feel the same!

We didn't get cards from a few people so I did wonder if any had gone astray, however, the Best Man did say to my husband, "Oh yeah, I need to give you some cash for the present." Well, he didn't. It's not really the gift that I'm bothered about though!

The really funny thing is, we bought the Best Man a magazine subscription as a thank you for being BM. It took quite a while to arrive and he chased me to find out where it was. I didn't hear anything so I emailed him to check it had arrived. I don't think I would have even got a thank you if I hadn't!

Going forward, I thought I would write them a nice thank you letter for coming to the wedding, forget it, move on and forego giving any future cards and presents. What do you think?

I think your probably right. It will be interesting to see if they notice and comment. If they do just say we realised that you don't do cards and presents and so thought we had better stop.

To be honest you will probably be glad to have less to remember and afford in years to come. Hope it doesn't affect the frendshop though.

Shelley3774

I agree with you Speckled Egg it is bad manners not to send a card. I don't believe all the excuses for not sending a card there is no excuse. I know its personal opinion but I would be mortified to attend a wedding without even a card - how cheeky !!!

dormouse_2

I no how you feel speckled egg.........I didnt get a card or pressy from a certain person at our wedding, i wasnt bothered at the time but now this person is getting married and has phoned us to say they want money for there wedding presents and get this, can they have it before the wedding......:eek:

Shelley3774

dormouse wrote: »

I no how you feel speckled egg.........I didnt get a card or pressy from a certain person at our wedding, i wasnt bothered at the time but now this person is getting married and has phoned us to say they want money for there wedding presents and get this, can they have it before the wedding......:eek:

Humphhh:mad: what a cheek !!!

blonde36er

Personally I'd hate to think that I had only had a card or gift from someone because they thought it was good manners or that etiquette demanded it. If they'd bought it because they wanted to and it was something I'd really appreciate and enjoy then that's all well and good, and would be graciously received, but for me having people take a day out of their normal lives to celebrate my marriage will be more than enough for me!

(And yes, I thoroughly enjoy giving cards and presents!)

Sarahjovi

Speckled_Egg wrote: »

The really funny thing is, we bought the Best Man a magazine subscription as a thank you for being BM. It took quite a while to arrive and he chased me to find out where it was. I didn't hear anything so I emailed him to check it had arrived. I don't think I would have even got a thank you if I hadn't!

Going forward, I thought I would write them a nice thank you letter for coming to the wedding, forget it, move on and forego giving any future cards and presents. What do you think?

Why don't you add,

"We hope you enjoy the magazine subscription, as much we will enjoy the kind and thoughtful gift you gave us!":rotfl: :rolleyes:

Seriously though, some people need a little jolt to remind them that life is a two way street and they shouldn't just take friends for granted.

Sarah:D

Speckled_Egg

Hee hee! It is tempting but I have managed to restrain myself!

We didn't get cards or presents from a few guests. I'm not too worried about those. Some of our friends have young families and don't have a lot of money. I quite understand if they can't run to the expense of a present and I appreciated the fact that they came. On the other hand, I know that the BM and his wife can afford a card!

I think the moral of this story is never cease to be amazed by people you thought you knew!

Kynthia

Speckled Egg I don't think it's just the lack of card and present that's bothering you. I think it's the final example of a friend that's too much take and not enough give.

If they were a good friend who always made an effort and appreciated your friendship you wouldn't have minded so much. The fact that you weren't worried about other guests who did the same thing shows that.

Sometimes we need to reasses friendships and see if they still are working for us as things change.