Family Planning?

incher

willyg78 wrote: »

Once they are there though, you learn to cope mentally and financially!

Mmm, there are quite a lot of days when I don't agree with that one bit Only joking!

I doubt that a recession would have put me off having kids, as I was 37 when the first came along, so I wouldn't have wanted to wait much longer. Waning fertility would have been more pertinent than lack of money.

Somehow you manage financially - someone mentioned the amount of money couples might spend going out before having kids, and when I think of how much me and dh used to spend doing just that, it makes my eyes water Oh to have so much cash just to spend on yourself!

incher

Oh, and I spent part of my childhood in Holland, Wookster - it was pretty cool but I wouldn't want to go back there now. It's very small and crowded, compared to Scotland. In fact, about the same population squeezed into a lot less space!

Wookster

amcluesent wrote: »

Just FYI, the population growth of Muslims in Britain is 10 times that of the rest of the population. Not much evidence of family planning there - anyone else having kiddies should consider if they want them to live under Shariah Law.

You don't seriously believe that this will happen do you?

incher

twirlypinky wrote: »

I'm sure it isn't, but i have to say, I do wonder at times why I'm struggling so hard on my own when other people simply don't bother.

Simple self-respect! So you can always hold your head up and say you did your best for yourself.

twirlypinky

incher wrote: »

Simple self-respect! So you can always hold your head up and say you did your best for yourself.

A good point well made actually. Self respect is about all I've got left at the moment. Although that skirt-tucked-into-pants error i made the other week may well have put paid to that.

incher

twirlypinky wrote: »

Although that skirt-tucked-into-pants error i made the other week may well have put paid to that.

Ah well, in that case, stop paying the mortgage immediately; you're ruined anyway.

housesitter

amcluesent wrote: »

anyone else having kiddies should consider if they want them to live under Shariah Law.

It's a very knee jerk thing to say.
I'm not sure if you are aware of all aspects of Shariah Law, neither am I, however I do see an awful lots of benefits of it or shall I say a more Muslim style culture, from my time spent in the Mid East.

I'm a follower of FSM.

StevieJ

Wookster wrote: »

hmmmm

I grew up in a small town in Zimbabwe and I had a fantastic childhood - great outdoor life, no influence of drugs/ alcohol, played lots of sport and had lots of time.

My gripes with London are that as a commuter you will spend on average 2 hours a day commuting. That's time you can't spend with the kids. Also its seriously expensive and unless you're earning an absolute fortune it means making tough choices. London also makes one hard and I'm not sure thats a good thing for kids, at least if you grow up somewhere else and become hard you might have some awareness of it. As a parent, I'd be worried silly about the huge range of influences they would come under in London.

My preference would be somewhere on the continent though, with Holland being top of the list.


Also did you see Jamie's school dinners? Need I say more? haha

The Whinging Zimbabwean

space_rider

leftieM wrote: »

They were probably just having a moan. At the end of the day, who's going to work if it's not worth their while financially?

I had 3 under 5 and I ended up with £11 per week after I paid childcare costs. It did make sense financially as I had what was a well paid job for what I did. Had I not gone back to work then I would be paid less for the same type of job now and would not have kept my final salary pension. Also when I had another child who was ill several years later, they were very good at keeping my job open and letting me work 8 hours a week until my daughter was of school age.

space_rider

incher wrote: »

Mmm, there are quite a lot of days when I don't agree with that one bit Only joking!

I doubt that a recession would have put me off having kids, as I was 37 when the first came along, so I wouldn't have wanted to wait much longer. Waning fertility would have been more pertinent than lack of money.

Somehow you manage financially - someone mentioned the amount of money couples might spend going out before having kids, and when I think of how much me and dh used to spend doing just that, it makes my eyes water Oh to have so much cash just to spend on yourself!

Got to agree with you there. I had wardrobes full of clothes and we hardly ate in.