chances of him getting residence order...

pink_princess

Your post confuses me,first you say you ve been seperated for over 20 months, now come on as a 3rd party saying you only left the home 6 months ago?

Rikki

You need to get legal advice as your children are all young (under five) and there is good cause for them to all be together.
It could be seen as you choosing which child you wanted to keep following the split and the children's father wants the children reunited and to grow up together.

It may sound harsh playing the devils advocate but I think you need to look at it from the other side.

Please get proper legal advice.

DEBT_23

pink_princess wrote: »

Your post confuses me,first you say you ve been seperated for over 20 months, now come on as a 3rd party saying you only left the home 6 months ago?

we split nearly 2yrs ago , i carried on living down south until the baby was 6mths old, it was then that i moved up north to move in with my gf. i have been living up here for 7 mths now. sorry to confuse you.
i do have contact tho not regular atm with the other two, my 1yr old is too young to understand about siblings to her this is all she knows,
he is doing it to be spiteful tho i cnt prove it

pink_princess

DEBT_23 wrote: »

he wants it thru court he claims he has been told of his sol that he will get the baby, the children all lived with their mother until the youngest was 8 months, for 6 months they have been seperated, we are going for a cantact order so he can no longer call the shots with seeing the other 2, by the time it goes to court the children would have lived apart for at least 12months .

it aint that he has refused contact with the little one, its that he doesnt bother with her, he doesnt ask about her, he dont arrangeto visit her, he didnt send a card for her 1st b'day or xmas , we can prove he aint been up here to visit her. i ring my ex everyday to speak to my 2 children and i also go to visit them. i have proof of this, a contact order will also prove this once my sol has dealt with it this week.

when it goes to crt my daughter will be at least 17mth old, surely they will ask him why he hasnt botherd until now !? and why he wants full custody when he hasnt even spent 2 hrs with her in her life !!!!????

Did some-one else write this for you ,it really is confusing to readers.

But on your original point,courts don t like to split up siblings .It could be viewed that its best for them to be together.
Would you and your partner not consider trying to have the 3 children together,even driving that far every weekend say .
Edit im just playing devils advocate.Trying to think what the family court may think/ask.

hamstercheeks_2

pink_princess wrote: »

Your post confuses me,first you say you ve been seperated for over 20 months, now come on as a 3rd party saying you only left the home 6 months ago?

i'm confused too

DEBT_23

hi sorry yes my gf has been adding and responding to this thread, hence the 3rd party. the 4 and 2 yr olds are kept together because that is what they are used to and know, as for my baby who is now 1 she has been a only child for 7 months and only knows this.
yes if its paramount for all 3 to be together then im happy for them all to be up here with me, tho i kno the other 2 are happy down south will all they know, they would see me alot more if he allowed it.
as for my 1yr old, a social worker i have been talking too says siblings are split up all the time its the real world. tho going off the 1yr old being on her own with her mum ( me) is all she knows. he is taking me to crt for my 1yr old when she has only ever known me, even my family dont bother with her
" children are only good from 18mths plus" my familys words they never bother with my 1yr old because shes a baby who jst cries and sleeps ( they havnt visited her since she was 6mth old) she is a lovely beautiful and very well cared for happy child who wants for nothing, she is soo happy ans settled here if only they would bother to drive up here to see her...

DEBT_23

Rikki wrote: »

You need to get legal advice as your children are all young (under five) and there is good cause for them to all be together.
It could be seen as you choosing which child you wanted to keep following the split and the children's father wants the children reunited and to grow up together.

It may sound harsh playing the devils advocate but I think you need to look at it from the other side.

Please get proper legal advice.

the child he is fighting for is 1yr old, i havnt lived with him for nearly 2 years, i have been a single parent for nearly 2 yrs since the split raising all 3 children, as for the 1yr old he has never been in her life ,only me and my gf and obviously her family and friends
and my youngest have never lived under the same roof, he has never wantd contact for the past year. i aint choosing which child i want, its jst that he has been a dad to the other 2 and they know him, he is a total stranger to her thru his choice.

hamstercheeks_2

DEBT_23 wrote: »

the child he is fighting for is 1yr old, i havnt lived with him for nearly 2 years, i have been a single parent for nearly 2 yrs since the split raising all 3 children, as for the 1yr old he has never been in her life ,only me and my gf and obviously her family and friends
and my youngest have never lived under the same roof, he has never wantd contact for the past year. i aint choosing which child i want, its jst that he has been a dad to the other 2 and they know him, he is a total stranger to her thru his choice.

u sound a wee bit mixed up n i'mnot sure what u want?

pink_princess

I would be mad at my family for that also.All children need extended family in their life (i note she has your partners ,thats good.).
I don t know what will happen when the case comes to court.I can t think what would be for the best(mind i don t have the full details).The court has a difficult job.
I do wish you luck op,I would seek as much advice as possible,We did when we went to court for a residency order,and that was consentual.

loftus

I am assuming the youngest is his child. It appears the youngest is 13-14 months old but you say you split 2 years ago. Very confusing.