MSE Pregnancy Club VI

tiamai_d

emlou, tin of sweetcorn usually sorts me out :rolleyes: :rotfl:

Now we take bets on who has baby first, emlou or MFD :beer:

I'm on MFD. And did you tell mw about the bleeding?

weezl74

Jo_R wrote: »

Well nothing except the doctors that is... It seems as soon as you go over the hospitals 'late' date (which here is term + 12), they are all over you trying to get you induced. I should point out here that I am of the belief that there is no reason to interfere with baby just for the sake of it. And I appreciate a doctor's duty is to inform people; however you would not believe some of the absolute gems I have been told since Sunday...

"You CAN'T have a home birth once you get past 14 days" (Erm actually I can - and actually you can't tell me what to do or not do either, why do you think you can?)

"We're changing you from midwife-led care to consultant-led care and that's non-negotiable" (Fair enough if you're going to do that but don't put anywhere that I actually agreed to it!)

"We can't tell you what to do but..." :rolleyes:

"The research shows that the risk of stillbirth after 42 weeks is..." (This research then - are you actually going to tell me which research it is because every one of you has given me different statistics and none of you have actually told me which piece of research you are referring to...)

"We prefer to induce you after 42 weeks to avoid any risk to baby" (So if you're going to tell me the risks of refusing induction, why aren't you balancing it out and telling me the risks of induction then?)

It's quite ironic when I talk to the midwives and they explain that actually, although I'm 15 days over my due date, there isn't anything wrong with me or baby that merits a hospital birth.

As you can probably tell I've got a bit of a bee in my bonnet about this so I'm going to go off now and take some deep breaths...!

Hi Jo,

Sorry it all sounds so frustrating! :mad: that you are recieving such ill-thought through, knee-jerk risk-averse recommendations.

Really hope you are able to assert the birth you want.:T:T:T

Fascinated by your thoughts too at a personal level, being keen on a home birth myself, and unsure what to do if we go to 40+13. I know there is a template letter on homebirth.org to the head of midwifery care asserting that the woman has done her research and is still comfortable with a post-dates delivery at home. I can post the link if you'd like? Even if you don't want an HB now (sorry I've not read your posts so I'm not sure what you were hoping for!) you could use the letter to state a wish for a midwife-led birth?:D

Just a thought anyway! There are some stories on there of people being able to do things you aren't 'supposed to'!;)

Love Weezl x

cazscoob

MFD sex and a sweep got me going!!

well i have had a huge hair change i love it but it will take a while to get use too!! i have went from blonde hair below my shoulders to brown halfway up my neck!!! to say OH was shocked was an understatement but he said it really is lovely however abi told me she hates it! kids eh! think i need to wake this baby as my boobs feel like they are going to explode!!!:D

elle_gee

Hi all..

Labour vibes to MFD, emlou, Jo_R and Mel - in varying amounts!

Feelie and AM, good to hear your appointments went well

Who mentioned being mother of the bride? It dawned on me then that I might one day be some poor girl's dreaded mother in law! :eek: That said, my domestic skills are hardly anything to be intimidated by!

Gasman is here again, currently tinkering with the new boiler. I'm curled up on the sofa under a blanket as he's turned off the gas which includes the fire (obviously!) If we have any spare vibes going, please-let-Elle's-boiler-work vibes would be muchos appreciated! Brrrrr....

searching_me

please let Elle's boiler work vibes ... there you go luv :D:Dx

cazscoob

boiler vibes to you elle!!!:D

i really want chocolate but dont want to go to the shop its too cold?

elle_gee

Thanks searching.. It's still in progress - I can smell gas but the gasman isn't looking worried!

Question.. when is a good time to have a 4d scan? Apparently our hospital does them out of hours and OH is interested - it'll be his overtime paying for it! I'll pick up the info on Monday but just thought some one here might know in the meantime...

Glamazon

elle - get a hot water bottle that'll sort you out!

searching - it was steak thank god. Am I a bad mummy in training buying microwave new potatoes thou?!

More labour vibes on their way to MFD and emmalou - sounds like it could all be kicking off soon. My money's on MFD!!

cazscoob

elle i had my 4d done at 30 weeks with abi i think my pic is on facebook, i prefered it later as i thought i would see what she looked like better as she would have some fat on her and not look like a skinny fragile little thing!

searching_me

glam - i had mine and i didnt know they're only meant to be zapped ... i ovened em still turned out lovely ...
caz - i got some mini eggs if you wanna share? ...
and elle its always worried me how they're not worried about the smell of gas... maybe they're use to it but i always thought the smell of gas was a bad thing :rotfl: x