Weekly Flylady Thread 16th February 2009

sexymouse

Sorry, I know it's off topic, but thought you'd all like to know that pigsback have decided not to do Boots vouchers any more. I emailed them yesterday asking when they would be back in stock, and got this reply:

Hi,

Thank you for your email. We regularly review our rewards catalogue, add and remove items and we do this in order to keep the catalogue fresh for members. Unfortunately we will not be stocking Boots vouchers on the Rewards page for the time being.

Sorry for any disappointment caused.

Kind Regards,

Shirley

mOZzy_2

Triker wrote: »

Mozzy, when children are shouted at they cannot hear what is being said, they only hear loud noise. Shouting makes it hard for them to understand what is being asked of them, they cannot distinguish the words nor the message being conveyed.

A simple trick, stand in another room and quietly say 'biscuits' a few times, believe me they'll hear you.;)

We have all shouted at our children, I know I did and still do (especially eldest DD at mo) but I learned that if I can try to stop my default setting being 'shouty parent' then, over time, communication is greatly increased which in turn means less stressful situations.

Maybe your OH is stressed and thats why he shouts at the children, perhaps you can talk to him and point out that it upsets you and the children when he shouts.

Ask him to try the 'biscuits' trick, or try it on him to prove a little point that you don't need to shout .:D

exactly another one of my points! i do point out to him they do listen to me and i do try and talk calmly and reasonable ( i don't shout often - promised!)
and i've told him 100 times i hate it - because they can't defend themselves and then i have to jump in and then he gets the hump with me
i also tried to explain they don't not listen on purpose but everything distracts them and they only take in the last few words of a sentence anyways - and he always gives them lengthy explanations why not what not to do not - even i get confused after that :rotfl:

aaaargh, i could go on all day

SarahShattered

Thanks Frodders. You are an :A They're great... I'll be whizzing down boots card in hand to get all of those!! :j :j :beer: :j :j

Triker

Mozzy, I forgot to say that I found a white board (£1.99 from tescos), and me physically writing a list out, and then busily getting on with it and crossing things off as I went along managed to get my families curiosity going.

Then, I asked them really nicely, you know tons of positive praise,

would you be a sweetie and do this little job for me so I can cross it off,
I'd really appreciate it,
thank you so much for helping,
darling, is it possible that you do that whilst I do this,


that kind of stuff galvanised my family into going for it.

Then they would write their own little bits and pieces down on the board and cross them out as we went along.

For us, this visual reminder really helps us to get motivated and get those jobs crossed off on our list.

Maybe this may help you hun?

TAG

Monday - Kitchen and Dining room
Level Two
Clear out the fridge and make note of what needs using sharpish
Sweep and mop floors
Extras

1. HHI
2. Wash windows
3. Clean any light fittings/shades
4. Binbag dance!

Twinkly Tuesday - Master bedroom & Landing
Level One
Strip bed and wash sheets/duvet cover
Clear the floor of gibble
Level Two
[STRIKE]Clear the landing of detritus[/STRIKE]
Vacuum these floors
Wash the windows (and any curatins/nets the need doing)
Level Three
37 fling boogie!!
[STRIKE]Empty upstairs bins[/STRIKE]
Make sure all the smoke alarms are working and if you have high sleepers you should have alarms in those rooms too.. make appointments with the fire safety people if you don't and they fit really good ones free of charge!!
Extras

1. List 5 things on ebay!
2. Make sure all the school coats/bags etc are washed ready for school on Monday
3. dust away all the webs upstairs!
4. [STRIKE]Sort out your airing cupboard![/STRIKE]

My normal dailies -
Sweep and mop kitchen floor.
S&S downstairs toilet.

[strike]Tidy living room & put any stuff upstairs.[/strike]
Wipe over PC desk & keep free from clutter.

[STRIKE]Tidy bedrooms & make beds.[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Sort out dirty washing.[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Do 2 loads of washing.[/STRIKE]

Tidy & S&S bathroom.
Wash bathroom floor.

Hoover living room/ hallway/stairs/kitchen & d/s toilet.
Hoover bedrooms/landing & bathroom.

Keep ironing together (x15)
[STRIKE]Sort clean washing & put clothes away.[/STRIKE]

Walk the dog

gsysezz

Mozzy you have my sympathy as my OH is like that to DS. I'm really fighting the urge to do a major declutter in one fell sweep and hoof him out. it's hard as you just want to protect your kids.

Triker - I love the whiteboard idea and may just give that a try. Not that DS can read lol

GreenandThrifty

Twinkly Tuesday - Master bedroom & Landing
Level One
[STRIKE]Strip bed and wash sheets/duvet cover[/STRIKE] in wash
[STRIKE]Clear the floor of gibble[/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]Clear the landing of detritus[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Vacuum these floors[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Wash the windows (and any curatins/nets the need doing)[/STRIKE] still clean from last week - scrubbed windowsills instead
Level Three
37 fling boogie!!
Empty upstairs bins
[STRIKE]Make sure all the smoke alarms are working and if you have high sleepers you should have alarms in those rooms too.. make appointments with the fire safety people if you don't and they fit really good ones free of charge!![/STRIKE] mine are mains ones never run out

Extras
we're painting DD room today so may sort airing cupboard if I can get to it
Sort out addresses for wedding invites and post
Pop to butchers for cheese and eggs.
Clear surfaces in bedroom

Triker

mOZzy wrote: »

exactly another one of my points! i do point out to him they do listen to me and i do try and talk calmly and reasonable ( i don't shout often - promised!)
and i've told him 100 times i hate it - because they can't defend themselves and then i have to jump in and then he gets the hump with me
i also tried to explain they don't not listen on purpose but everything distracts them and they only take in the last few words of a sentence anyways - and he always gives them lengthy explanations why not what not to do not - even i get confused after that :rotfl:

aaaargh, i could go on all day

I can't remember the term for it, you know, saying the same thing so that people get confused because a message is said over and over.....that's bugging me now I'll have to look it up. Sounds like you have a task on your hands hun, it's difficult doing it all and getting motivated when you probably feel undermined or on guard duty all the time.

Can you explain that children have minds like goldfish, 2 seconds to say your piece and then leave them to happily swim around until you remind them again, and again, what it is you needed them to do or not do.:D

I was going to recommend a book, but again can't recall the title at mo:o, if anything else you could have clouted your OH with it if he still refuses to listen to you.:rotfl:xx

kazwookie

Valli

This flylady is at work, but on a break, but I have hoovered round in the office as there were bits on the carpet, done the shredding, and cleaned over the photocopier.

Off to do my normal job now and check a database over, I hate databases.

And also had contact via gene reuntied with yet another distant cousin, (her grandfather is my great grand mother's brother) so I think between us we can fill in gap for each other, Also I need to arrange to go and visit 2 very old aunts to chat to them about other bits of the older generations. (neither of them like the telephone, let alone use the internet!)

leiela

Triker wrote: »

Mozzy, I forgot to say that I found a white board (£1.99 from tescos), and me physically writing a list out, and then busily getting on with it and crossing things off as I went along managed to get my families curiosity going.

Then, I asked them really nicely, you know tons of positive praise,

would you be a sweetie and do this little job for me so I can cross it off,
I'd really appreciate it,
thank you so much for helping,
darling, is it possible that you do that whilst I do this,


that kind of stuff galvanised my family into going for it.

Then they would write their own little bits and pieces down on the board and cross them out as we went along.

For us, this visual reminder really helps us to get motivated and get those jobs crossed off on our list.

Maybe this may help you hun?

Ooooh do you think a list of jobs like that would work with husbands too??? Seriously my husband thinks the fairy's tidy the house.. it's not funny and its not fair i work longer hours than he does yet i do the cleaning and cooking the only thing he does is the dishes.

Tbh to be fair i don't think that he means for me to be lumbered with everything, i just don't think it ever enter's his head that these things need doing, if i specifically ask him to do something he usually will but then he get's shirty because "im not his mum" .. i guess he feels like a kid being told to tidy his room sometimes.

Im just sick of either doing most of the work or having to have a fight/nag everytime i want him to do anything, for example i put his washing on the bed last friday for him to put away. Every day they ended up in a pile on the floor where he dumped them to get into bed.

Each morning i pick them up AGAIN put them back on his bed and tell him they needed to go away. (leaving them on the floor doens't work they just stay there forever!!!)

Finally this morning when i was trying to compleate my list i ended up ranting to him about them and the fact that i'd gone to the effort to wash and fold them and he'd dumped them in a crumped heap on the floor, so i couldn't hoover the rug. Away i told him as it was his fault i couldn't hoover he could do it... GRRRR... :mad: thing is i know by the time he got to work he'll have forgotten, and by the time i get home from work tonight baring in mind he gets home 4 hours earlier than i do ... NOTHING will have been done other than him playing computer games on his stupid computer and the clothes will STILL be on the floor and i STILL won't be able to hoover.... grrrr..
Ok rant off ... haha i felt good to get that out. :T