Guests paying for your honeymoon

Alleycat

Sammy_Girl wrote: »

You could try putting a "money poem" in with your invites or info sheets. Something like:


We know it’s not tradition
It’s not the way it’s done
But instead of a Wedding List
We’d love a bit of sun
We’ve lived together quite a while
And all the bills are paid
We’ve got our plates, our pots and pans,
Our plans have all been made,
We would appreciate your help though,
To send us on our way
A contribution to our honeymoon
In a land quite far away
But, most importantly, we request,
You come to our Wedding as our guest
To share with us our special day
And have some fun along the way

Cringe! Sorry, I know a lot of people hate money poems and would much prefer to be asked straight.

Leopardlady

Well my husband and i had a gift list as my older family expected one! and then we booked our honeymoon with trailfinders and they set up a bit for people to pay towards. Our guests were extremely generous and we were completely overwhelmed by their gifts and love.

You are right that attending your wedding should be enough, but do not forget that many people want to contribute to your married life, so giving them the option is great.

We were ready to pay for our honeymoon, and paid for some of it, but our friends paid towards it to, as their choice. I know a number of our guests did not get us a present or pay towards the honeymoon, but we both made it very clear that the most important thing was that they came and shared our day with us.

Everyone will do it differently, but do not take offence from people giving their opinions, wedding lists and gifts are a very contentious issue. Good luck with your planning.

IWantToBeFree_2

If someone asked me for money towards their honeymoon I would refuse to give it. Whilst I am not against people asking for money as a gift, I just hate the idea of paying for someones honeymoon. If they can't afford to go then they should do what loads of people have to do, and simply save up until they can afford it.

A honeymoon is NOT part of the wedding.

Kylie

I am a little old fashioned, it seems.

I have no intention of raising the gift list issue with my guests.

I always thought the Mother of the Bride and Mother of the Groom (different countries) should have this information to share with guests should they request it directly from them.

We also have everything we need, however I will be making a gift list for those traditionalists, but also using www.buy-our-honeymoon.com as I know we have guests that this will appeal to. They can chose dinners out, dive courses etc etc. Not my thing personally (I ALWAYS buy a gift) - but I know for a fact that a lot of our guests will like this.

But as mentioned - this information will only be supplied by the mothers when requested!



No offence to anyone - all my friends ask for money - with the invites!

sir_monster

We are having the same debate, i.e. is it rude to ask for cold hard cash?? As people have already said when you have been living together for a while you have got or would buy anything you require. In addition we thought about gift vouchers but with the current climate with shops going bust there is no guarantee you would be able to spend them.

I think we will put in the invites that we don't expect any form of token from anyone but if people do want to help us celebrate our marriage then due to use living together for a while and in the current climate then cash in sterling or for our honeymoon would be gratefully received. I don't see the point of us wasting our time and their time with a wedding list with things we don't really want, but if people want stuff then go for it at the end of the day it is a personal thing. Again I will say that I won't be expecting piles of cash and people do give us this then it is a bonus.

BTW I love the poem idea.

IWantToBeFree_2

I just think the whole business of sending poems, gift lists etc with invites is really crass and it just makes it look like you are expecting gifts.

Personally, i would just leave them out and then if people enquire, then tell them.

sugared_honey

We would prefer spending money for our honeymoon as we too have been living together for a while, instead of asking people in invitations though, we just didn't mention it. Most of our guests have already approched us or our parents asking if we'd prefer gifts or cash, so we'll see what happens. I don't think I'd feel comfortable asking people outright before they've even rsvp'd.

Mark_Hewitt

We've gotten a load of 'wedding presents' now we've moved in together, Despite the wedding being over a year away.

I'm sure we'll get more at the actual event, but personally I couldn't care. I'm inviting people because I want them to be there, and that's it!

kelda_shelton

We're just engaged so just starting to think of things like this. I would feel far to cheeky to do the money thing but has anyone using the trail finders/ thomas cook voucher situation queried about whether if they went bust, the contributions would be covered under ABTA?

I'd guess that would only be if you had booked something - not if you were just collecting the money to make a decision later.

Noctu

For those who don't like the idea of giving money towards a honeymoon... In the case of those who have lived together and already have everything - what sort of thing would you prefer to buy instead?

If I was forced to make a wedding list it would just be full of tat and gadgets that we don't need nor want... surely this is worse?