Guests paying for your honeymoon

samv

Hi,

I just wondered if anyone had let there guests pay for there honeymoon and how did you go about it?

Because we already live in a flat and have all the pots, pans, cutlery etc we dont really need a guest list.

Thanks :j

ema_o

My friends have paid for the honeymoon on their credit card (0% one!). They are asking guests for money rather than presents (I know this is quite controversial but for her it makes sense as they have all the stuff like you). Anything they get will go towards paying it off, they will pay the rest themselves.
Some other friends also asked for money but booked the honeymoon straight after the wedding to leave a few days later. The trouble with that was they didn't have much to choose from and couldn't do what they were hoping to.
Another option (depending what sort of a honeymoon you want) would be to book the flights and ask for money for spending while you were there (you could even ask for currency for where you are going).

louisebbctlc

Hi
we r just askin 4 money as we r goin 2 take our 2 children on hoilday after the wedding xx

kentishdoris

We've done exactly this and a number of people have said what a good idea it is and that they're very happy to contribute.

The wording we used was: As you will know we are still squeezed in to our one bedroom flat and have all we need to fill it therefore a traditional gift list is a little impractical! As an alternative we have set up a list with some ideas for our honeymoon to...

Having already booked the holiday we broke down our itinerary in to things guest could pay for eg a night in a hotel, a boat trip, a meal out, tickets to a show etc

nichart20

We are also doing this going to put a note in saying if they are wanting to get a present we would prefere either for money or vouchers for first choice and go a little later, we have lived together for 5 years and we have everything we need nothing at all for the house, some people dont like the idea but if someone asked me for money or vouchers for their wedding I would much prefere to give vouchers or money than get something thats not needed and will end up in the loft or on ebay

salduck

talk to a travel agent they will be able to set up a holiday fund for you so guests ccan pay in to it direct and you can then get a list of how much and who gave what!!

cte1111

Think that although this is a really practical idea, it may well prove controversial with some guests, particularly older ones. It was a very difficult topic for my sister and her fiance when they were engaged, he wanted to ask for money, my Mum was not happy at this idea, as people wanted to give actual gifts.

Personally I think a gift list is a good idea, I bet if you had a good browse round John Lewis (for example) then you would find that there were other household items that you could do with, or at least would be happy to receive, if it made your favourite auntie happy to give it to you. Not having any kind of guest list can make it awkward for guests. I would do both, e.g. tell friends / close family that what you would really like is contributions towards your honeymoon, but also have a list for people who would prefer to give this way.

kiraroo

there are companies you can use who kinda do the leg work for you with this

there's this one http://www.myhoneymoon.co.uk/ but you have to give them £50

there's this one http://www.buy-our-honeymoon.com/ but it'll cost you £55

i'm going to do this and put a note in with the invities basically saying we'd like money towards the honeymoon which we will have booked by then. i dont think it's rude, not in this day and age when people tend to live together before they get married

moneytracker

We went to a family members wedding a short while ago. They did not give out a gift list and after we thought about it for a few weeks we decided to give them money as they already had 4 kids and had been living together for over 10 years and we thought that money would be more useful to them.

I think most people who went also did this and we would not have been offened had they have asked for the money. I much prefer the idea of spending more money (not very mse I know) and getting people something that they will find useful rather than buying something just for the sake of it.

If getting money is what you want (it is what I have told people when they have asked what we would like) then I don't see why people should have a problem. If they do then just tell them to get you nothing as you would just rather they came and enjoyed the day and getting gifts (although nice) is not really what the day is all about.

Alleycat

kiraroo wrote: »

there are companies you can use who kinda do the leg work for you with this

there's this one http://www.myhoneymoon.co.uk/ but you have to give them £50

there's this one http://www.buy-our-honeymoon.com/ but it'll cost you £55

i'm going to do this and put a note in with the invities basically saying we'd like money towards the honeymoon which we will have booked by then. i dont think it's rude, not in this day and age when people tend to live together before they get married

Whilst we will be asking those who wish to buy us a present to donate to our honeymoon, I think it would be a bit rude to put the note in with the invites.

A relative did this to us last year and I felt it was a bit forward. I assume you will be sending out info sheets once your guests have RSVP'ed and so you could include the information regarding your request on this.

Miles16v

kiraroo wrote: »

there are companies you can use who kinda do the leg work for you with this

there's this one http://www.myhoneymoon.co.uk/ but you have to give them £50

there's this one http://www.buy-our-honeymoon.com/ but it'll cost you £55

i'm going to do this and put a note in with the invities basically saying we'd like money towards the honeymoon which we will have booked by then. i dont think it's rude, not in this day and age when people tend to live together before they get married

In these times I'd worry that the company would go bust between the gifts and getting the holiday.

Without looking into it I'd also suggest that you're going to be paying well over the odds from one of the companies above, compared to what you'd pay if you were able to independently shop around.

If my guests are going to be kind enough to donate part of my honeymoon, I do not want that money to go towards me being forced into paying a £50 fee and then buying an over priced holiday.