advice please

justapuppy

Family can be so difficult to manage, and what he's told you about her being a nightmare may have been said in the heat of the moment... Even if she was a bad mother, if you have no reason to believe she'll harm your child it might be worth trying to let her see the baby sometimes. Mothers-in-law can be a nightmare, but your partner will really struggle to fit between the two of you, and it could be you who loses out. Have a read of this anyway http://thecoupleconnection.net/articles/7
Good luck!

RoxieW

My dad was absent from when my parents split age 8, leaving me with a truly awful, abusive mum. One day he promised to take me to the zoo - went off to 'get his wallet' - and never returned. We got back in touch 3 years ago when I had a 3 and a 1 years old. He dotes on me now - in his own way, although from my point of view I can take him or leave him tbh - just too much time has passed and I've been too let down to ever trust him fully. However, he absolutely lives for my two boys and is extremely grateful for the chance to be a granddad. I couldnt deprive him, or them of that relationship due to spite on my part. Unless of course he lets them down or hurts them in some way and then I wouldnt hesitate. But so far we havent run into any problems and our visits every couple of months are what have kept an old man going through alot of recent health problems including the loss of a leg.
My mum on the other hand I wouldnt let near my kids with a bargepole - but there's a different between being an absent, poor parent and being a neglectful and abusive one.

sheryl26

i have thought about this from every point of view, i gave birth to a little boy 2 weeks ago and so far my OH mother has been nowhere near, after a long discussion we have both decided that it's better if J doesn't see her at all..........
My OH dad and wife are brilliant they've been to see J every 2 days since he was born even taken him for a few hours to allow me and my OH to catch up on sleep

Pollycat

Congratulations, Sheryl. :j

Just do whatever feels right for you and your family.