MSE Pregnancy Club V

tarajayne

Crap day, meeting s?!?, called midwife as I was in a terrible state. Took her 5 mins to get here and it was her day off. Fantastic lady gave me a huge hug. Off sick permenantly now, job over. Can't stop crying.

MrsTinks

Awwww Tara I'm sorry to hear it didn't go well but great that you have a lovely supportive MW who obviously deeply cares about her job and her "ladies" even on her day off
If you want to share with us what happened then feel free... depending on what happened then you may have a claim for unfair dismissal or constructive dismissal...

MrsTinks

As for us... I defrosted Mince for chili tonight yet it's now nearly 8 and DH hasn't started cooking it yet... I'm guessing at this rate I might be ordering Pizza... bah! So much for money saving but have loads to do tonight as we fly out tomorrow morning at 7 am so leaving at about 4am!!! And I am NOT doing the cooking because Dh said he'd do it and I'm NOT doing it!

candygirl

jinky67 wrote: »

It has always made me wonder why they rely on it so much.

As an indicator yes...... not not the be all and end all.

Exactly, so all the hystrionics this morning were uncalled for:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Princess81

phew finally caught up :T and a shiney new thread too

I havent posted for a while as i have been quite busy

We are in the process of decorating our bedroom at last :T so in the spare room at the mo stuff everywhere but as soon as its done we can get on with the nursery and i can start buying things oh and i really need to make a list of what i need

Managed to borrow the angel sounds doppler from a friend only used it a couple of times so i'm quite glad i havent bought one

Hubby finally felt baby kicking :T

Still havent found any mat trousers:mad: getting rather annoyed went shopping last weeked and went into every clothes shop in town and nothing, cried in the changing rooms in the last shop (:rolleyes: damn hormones) came home with a pair of braces in the end to hold my jeans up as we were going out for dinner and didnt think it would look good me wearing tracksuit bottoms

tarajayne

Signed a bit of paper stating that I wouldn't discuss anthing with anybody, not gonna give them any other reason to stitch me up. Hard when your head is whirring with stuff. I feel so bad about the child I work with but I can't work with people who use a so-called friend as a scapegoat. Decided that I'm going pamper myself and take care of me and my baby from here on in. Stuff the lot of them.

LouBlue

jinky67 wrote: »

told you not to worry:D :T :T :T

I have just seen your sig. :rotfl:

Yes that is right....I am a complete angel............:A:rolleyes::D

Nicki

tarajayne wrote: »

Signed a bit of paper stating that I wouldn't discuss anthing with anybody, not gonna give them any other reason to stitch me up. Hard when your head is whirring with stuff. I feel so bad about the child I work with but I can't work with people who use a so-called friend as a scapegoat. Decided that I'm going pamper myself and take care of me and my baby from here on in. Stuff the lot of them.

Hi tarajayne

I'm sorry you have had such bad news. I think I can guess some of the story from what you posted on the last thread, but obviously not all of it.

I just wanted to let you know that whatever piece of paper you signed does not prevent you from discussing what has happened with either a legal adviser (if you think that you may have a claim for constructive dismissal) or with a medical professional (including a counsellor) if you need help dealing with the stress. If what has happened might make it difficult for you to work in the field you are currently in in the future, then I would strongly recommend that you do take some legal advice (and not just because I was a lawyer pre-kids!) I'd tend to agree with you that posting the details on a public forum might be going too far!

I had something similar happen when I was pregnant with my second child, when the company I was with tried to get rid of me. The only real reason was because I was pregnant for the second time in quick succession (I'd only gone back for 3 months between my two maternity leaves, but I had been employed at the time for more than 5 years, and the second pregnancy wasn't planned). I did challenge it using a lawyer, and they did back down immediately, and claimed there had been a huge misunderstanding. It was stressful at the time but I am glad in retrospective that I did it rather than let myself be walked over.

Are you a LSA? My DD has SEN and the LSAs at her school are fantastic!

tarajayne

My son has an LSA as well. It's the main reason I did it. I'm so attatched to the child I work with.

Nicki

tarajayne wrote: »

My son has an LSA as well. It's the main reason I did it. I'm so attatched to the child I work with.

That just goes to show you are a far far better person than I!

I can do the patient, painstaking stuff with my own child because I love her but it would drive me bonkers to do it day in, day out for someone else's child . Which is one of the reasons why I have such respect for the LSAs who are massively undervalued by society imho.