Wife has concealed savngs

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NPowerUser wrote: »

Why the change of heart from moral outrage to now saying you cannot afford to stop your claim? Surely the decent thing to do as an absolute minimum is to stop your HB claim?

Agree absolutely. I understand the OP not wanting to report his wife,(although ideally I think she should 'fess up) but yes, as a bare minimum he should stop the claim.

The couple have £30,000 to pay the rent with.

socrates

One question I have from all of this - what do YOUR sons have to do with an inheritance from your new wifes mother.

There is such a thing as birthright. Your sons will get their inheritance/birthright from their grandparents.

This point has nothing to do with the rights and wrongs of concealment from the authorities.

cw18

The OP has stated this is NOT an inheritance from his wife's mother -- if it were it would be a very recent income and wouldn't be causing problems with fraud over a number of years.

socrates

Ok not an inheritance. So did the money come from her mother?

mouseymousey99

I don't know Socrates (does it matter). I suspect David won’t post more anyway.

socrates

DavidW wrote: »

My wife's account has been active for some years and contains an inheritance she got before we met. She is not the woman I thought she is - all she can say is the money has nothing to do with anything now as she got it before our marriage. She's not stupid and she knew the rules when we applied for HB - we did the forms together.

It clearly says here there was an inheritance

Maisie11

Your wife is claiming benefits that she is not entitled. That is stealing. She doesnt see the need to tell anyone about her substantial savings.

This is our money she is stealing, at the very least stop claiming the benefit and then have a long hard think about what sort of relationship you are in.

Sorry to sound so harsh but I am fed up to the back teeth with people who are claiming benefits they are not entitled to.

SuziQ

Having been on the recieving end of endless lies from my (soon to be ex!) husband I really feel for you on this. Don't let her threats put you off doing the right thing-the fact you go to them to report the overpayment of benefit will go a long way to convince them of your honesty in this matter.

Felicity

The OP does seem to have done an about turn.

I am sure if this continues they will get caught anyway, the money will be claimed back and a criminal record (prison???) will follow so there is no need to worry really.

Its just a shame that the parents of young children have put themselves in this situation (even if the OP was not aware initially he is now so I include him in that). How awful for the children that they will have to experience what is sure to follow.

I know of somebody who is spending a few months in prison for fraud and his children are having to live without their father plus face their friends and neighbours who are all aware of the situation (it was in the local press).

rosered1963

Hi David,
I shouldn't think you will post again, but in case you do:
I did post you some advice at the beginning. I used to be a benefits auditor for the DHSS, later DWP and have worked for the LGA so I think I know enough to advise you a little: I don't think you have come up with the right solution - the fact is that when the HB claim was made, your wife had these funds - it doesn't matter where, or in what circumstances the money was held. If she moves that money, the chances are you will be caught eventually. I know you didn't want people commenting on your marriage, so forgive me, but the dishonesty and your marriage are bound together in this situation. What else is she hiding? You need to take advice independently of her to cover yourself, David, for your future and that of your children, and for your mental health. It won't work to paper over the cracks and move on.
Best wishes.