Why are people so harsh to lone parents on here??

welshmoneylover

yelowee wrote: »

I must say that I've seen a few negative remarks made toward lone parents on here, as a male lone parent I just ignore them!

Some see me as a scrounger as I claim benefits and study with the open university while caring for my son full time, yes I could work part time in the one stop or something else in the time that I use to study but that would be likely to render me unable to pursue a better career in the future as I didn't have the opportunity to continue studying after school is there really any difference between me studying now and back then? I'm working towards a degree in environmental science and have so far achieved a distinction in all my courses so surely I'm working towards a better future which will benefit both myself and the tax man?

Hi
Just thought I'd add that I'm a lone parent, I also study with the Open University to further my career prospects, I also care for my children and I go out to work <

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dirty word to use on this forum:rotfl: .

I want my children to grow up believing in a work ethic. That if you want nice things in life, you have to work for them and not ponce off the state

Sue

fizzel81

as mush as i agree with what some of the op has wrote this thread is not going to help matters

i have been a lone parent since feb 2007 when my marrage broke up, up untill just before i got pregnant with my 1st i worked and only stopped after i moved to germany (and then i worked in the naffi untill just before i became pregnant)

sadly its those who have never worked and simply had children as they can live of the state that tar the rest of us with the same brush

bestpud

fizzel81 wrote: »

sadly its those who have never worked and simply had children as they can live of the state and have an attitude about it, to boot that tar the rest of us with the same brush

Quite agree threads like this are less than helpful too.

CABADVISER

davenkirst wrote: »

Before people start to reply on this thread please note that I am NOT a benefir scrounger. am not applying for it AND working. I am simply in a temporary binde and AM thankful for all the help that is being offered.. So please no personal attacks on me.. I just would like to know why LONE/SNGLE parents get so much grief???

Its called bullying.....the same people who probably would trample you to death to be the first to claim benefit if they were able to.....pay them no attention and claim everything you are rightly entitled to.... alot of the bad publicity comes especially from the newspaper media....when you look at the real figures the amount spent on supporting single mothers is pittance compare to 'white collar' fraud, (tax evasion and such like).... the pennies that you get for the hard work you have to do will save the government a whole lot more than if your children would be taken into the care system, the money you get will no doubt also get taxed when you spend it in the economy. So dont let them grind you down, just smile and tell them to keep the cheques coming!

bestpud

CABADVISER wrote: »

Its called bullying.....the same people who probably would trample you to death to be the first to claim benefit if they were able to.....pay them no attention and claim everything you are rightly entitled to.... alot of the bad publicity comes especially from the newspaper media....when you look at the real figures the amount spent on supporting single mothers is pittance compare to 'white collar' fraud, (tax evasion and such like).... the pennies that you get for the hard work you have to do will save the government a whole lot more than if your children would be taken into the care system, the money you get will no doubt also get taxed when you spend it in the economy. So dont let them grind you down, just smile and tell them to keep the cheques coming!

Ah, thank you CABADVISER for your perfect illustration of the 'bad attitude' we are all talking about!

I know someone would oblige sooner or later!

*Chattie*

davenkirst wrote: »

What is the beef with Lone/Single parents?
Its not like we CHOSE to be in this situation. I was in a LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP FOR YEARS NOT MONTHS and have TWO beautiful CHILDREN and it is UNFORUTNATE CIRCUMSTANCES that i am no longer with the father...

I am one half of a couple but he works up north and I am down here.. so I am a lone parent..

Please???

Well I'm confused now, its probably all these different colours which certainly don't help, but are you saying you have two children with two different fathers and now a boyfriend with whom you are a couple but because he lives away from home you are a lone parent?

laurenjs88

I find it hilarious really.

People come on the forums and have ago at lone parents,having no clue of the circumstances. My Nan in her 70's has recently become a lone parent to 4 children. Would you care make her an easy target?

I am single parent. I could of aborted my Daughter it was early enough. I knew I would go onto benefits the father decided from the outset he wasnt going to involved.

I made the choice to go onto benefits and have my daughter,knowing that once she was 1 I would go back into work and spend the rest of my working life paying back into the system.

I am studying with OU but I am going back to work part-time also.

YOUR taxes dont pay for me to raise my Daughter... The taxes I have already put into the system & the taxes I will spend the next 30 years putting into that system is the money I am living currently off.

YOUR taxes pay for the first 18 years of YOUR free, dentistry, NHS treatment, perscriptions, education, glasses etc.. YOUR taxes go towards YOUR continuous free NHS care, YOUR JSA when YOU lose YOUR Job, YOUR state pention when YOU retire, and the other "free" services YOU take advantage of.

So YOU can stick YOUR taxes up YOUR own, However if you're still convinced their going to me i'll quite happily do it for you.

alwaysonthego_2

davenkirst wrote: »

I am one half of a couple but he works up north and I am down here..

I am confused, are you part of a couple or are you a single parent?

I do not begrudge single parents getting all that they are entitled to, but if a person claims to be single but has a partner that 'lives' elsewhere, how can they claim to be single?

If you are cliaming any benefits as a single parent, You should go to the cab for advice to whether you are really classed as a single parent. Ask them to look at the CPAG tax credits and benefits advice manual which explains in detail.

Kazzajr

*Chattie* wrote: »

Well I'm confused now, its probably all these different colours which certainly don't help, but are you saying you have two children with two different fathers and now a boyfriend with whom you are a couple but because he lives away from home you are a lone parent?

I assume that the op is still in a relationship with her youngest child's father as they are only months old.
I thought if you were in a relationship with your child's father then you are not a single parent.

jennie09

CABADVISER wrote: »

Its called bullying.....the same people who probably would trample you to death to be the first to claim benefit if they were able to.....pay them no attention and claim everything you are rightly entitled to.... alot of the bad publicity comes especially from the newspaper media....when you look at the real figures the amount spent on supporting single mothers is pittance compare to 'white collar' fraud, (tax evasion and such like).... the pennies that you get for the hard work you have to do will save the government a whole lot more than if your children would be taken into the care system, the money you get will no doubt also get taxed when you spend it in the economy. So dont let them grind you down, just smile and tell them to keep the cheques coming!

Couldnt have said it better my self :rolleyes: