access to my partners son

gemz20

KeepYourChinUp wrote: »

I don't have much to add but I wouldn't stop the payments because all they will do is slap an attachment of earnings on your partner so it would be a futile exercise which would more than likely cause you more pain than her. She is also using the child as a weapon/cash machine not a toy.

I wish you good luck in getting it sorted.

thank my partner is starting training monday so we dont want this to affect his work and start having them contacting his new employer so your probably right to say not to stop payment

gemz20

he is only 5 and the problem is we need to get her to court were having a problem locating her address

frugallass

does your lawyer know you are involved with the CSA?

(and don't stop the payments, you'll just get harassed by the CSA)

helzbelz_57

hi, not sure if this helps but i know from personal experience. if your partner is named in the birth certificate as the father, he has a legal right to his son's address. not the mother's but the childs. although i presume it would be the same address? if he isnt on the birth certificate, he can apply to have parental responsibility and be put on the birth certificate. as he has been having regular contact and making financial contribution to the child's upbringing, he would be likely to get this granted. i hope this helps you

helzbelz_57

also, once the csa are involved, its very hard to justify no longer making payments, your partner could be subject to a fine or prosecution. i know it is very hard to see money that you work hard for going to her and she being so cruel, but at least your partner can honestly say he made every single payment and it was up to the mother to make sure it was spent on the boy. i myself receive csa for my son however i asked for it to be paidd directly to my sons account, im not sure if the non resident parent can request this, but it's worth a try. maybe someone else on here knows?? also, was this lady living with her mother before she moved? if so, your solicitor can direct mail to the last known address for her. i would also push solicitor to apply to courts to try and find her. do not let this go as your partner is entitled to see his son, and also your children are entitled to a relationship with their sibling. the court encourages these relationships and as long as the child is in no danger they will grant a contact order or if your partner wishes, joint custody. i wish you all the best withthis as i have been through similar and it can get very stressful. just remember who it is about. in the courts eyes, the child is what is important. not what the mother/father wants.

gemz20

helzbelz_57 wrote: »

hi, not sure if this helps but i know from personal experience. if your partner is named in the birth certificate as the father, he has a legal right to his son's address. not the mother's but the childs. although i presume it would be the same address?

Thanks i didnt know this was the case and yes he is on the birth certificate so will go into the solictors on monday and bring this up and see what he has to say about it

gemz20

frugallass wrote: »

does your lawyer know you are involved with the CSA?

(and don't stop the payments, you'll just get harassed by the CSA)

Yes he does no maintenance is paid through csa to be honest im losing faith in the solictor as i have been hearing about things that can be done from people on here that the solicitor has not even suggested which could help us

cte1111

If your partner has been out of work, and his income in going to be lower whilst he is in training, then his payments via the CSA should also have dropped. I suggest that he at least contacts them and lets them know of this change in his circumstances.

I think this is unrelated to no longer seeing his child, and well done for keeping on persevering with the contact, it can be very hard but it is best for the child in the long term to keep in contact with both parents.

I agree with what other people have said about looking the mother (and child's) details up on Google, yahoo and other search engines. Someone on another forum had been told that by the CSA that they couldn't find their ex-partner to chase them for child support. Within a few minutes another poster had found an address in the right area by a little judicious searching.