mil making me feel really guilty

Pollycat

Regardless of how you feel about your SIL or whether you don't feel well enough to go, I think less than a day notice for a get-together over the (for many people) extremely busy Chsrtmas/New Year period is just not on.

We are not a large family but we always put our heads together well in advance to decide which days we are getting together.

But, I understand that you OH wants to see his family.
But, I think HE should also understand why you don't want to go and allow you to make your excuses.

Hope it works out OK.

windswept

Early pregnancy can give you terrible backache - there's no way you can possibly sit in a car for an hour each way;) .

elastigirl

Well i don't feel much better i think it is the virus i had to go into hospital for still hanging around so am going to go to bed for a bit then have a hot shower and get ready to go out. I tried to get mil to change it to new years day when we all have more time but she said no so at least it will only be a few hours.