My Debt-Free Plan...HOOS and the Case of the Incredible Exploding Oven!! :-o

jamtart6

hello I've come for a nosey too

When will you be lodger-free? Maybe that should be put in the signature!!

Head-Out-Of-Sand

essexgal wrote: »

essexgal wanders over from Badgerlady's thread to have a nosy........

All I can say is you're far far more tolerant than I am - and NO WAY would he be having a party in MY house - as I can only imagine that his friends are probably as disrespectful as he is.:eek:

Seriously HOOS - I know you want to be debt-free as soon as possible but is it really worth putting up with this - I think I'd rather take a bit longer to pay my debts off and not have the hassle. Can only imagine he doesn't live at home 'cos his parents won't put up with it - so why should you....

Sorry, am now cross on your behalf - why should you have to put up with this moron.....

essexgal

Aw bless you getting angry on my behalf!! Thank you!

I'm very close to kicking him out really. I'm actually NOT patient at all, but circumstances dictate that I have to at least pretend to be a mentally balanced and rational person! But it's just going way beyond that now.

My BF is all for kicking him out (physically!)...he says that it's not that he's a bad person, he's perfectly pleasant to have a chat with (if a little irritating) but he just DOES NOT LISTEN, and you can't work with that. BF reckons that often ppl who are educated/have responsible jobs don't like being told what to do, or don't think that they are ever in the wrong, and this makes them difficult to "teach", whether that's training or getting them to learn what you do and do not find acceptable in your home.

That really seems to be the case with this guy. I honestly don't know what else I could do to stop him behaving the way he does, so my only options are slowly go mad, or kick him out.

My dad has offered to have a word with him for me, which is really sweet of him, but I feel like I really want to deal with this myself if I can - I'm very headstrong and don't see why he should feel like he can take the p*ss with me when he wouldn't with a bloke. I don't play that game!!

Head-Out-Of-Sand

jamtart6 wrote: »

hello I've come for a nosey too

When will you be lodger-free? Maybe that should be put in the signature!!

Ha ha, well quite soon by the way things are going!!!

But on the current plans, I should be able to afford the house by myself by the start of next year.

However, that doesn't mean I have to stay with the same lodger now, does it?! :laugh: :wave:

tasha-debt

Hey HOOS,

I agree, im sure you can find your self a nice lodger to move in, one that dosen't want to live like a pig. You should have no trouble finding someone as I always see adds from people looking for a room to rent (maybe once you have painted room etc you can charge the next person a little bit more rent lol).

You are doing amazing in clearing your debts, i think you will be clear way before September 2010.

Instead of calling your companys HR department write to them to say that you really need to be reffered to the oc health and if you are not you will be complaining you the HR Manager/General maanger. A friend of mine had RSI, she started goiong swimming, hurt to start with but now she is right as rain, no pain at all and that was only 3 months ago



Keep up the good work.

esthomizzy

yeah throw him out

people who have no respect for others can smile and nod while you are asking something reasonable but when he forces you to ask again more than once about the same thing that's giving you stress which you are better off without

and the clue is definitely in you having to hide all your staple items... once you are onto this stage it's time to give up

nb... last time I started hiding things from my lodger it was a short step until her general disrespect led to her stealing my keys and me needing to throw her out unceremoniously. I'm sure it wont get that bad but why take the aggravation.

PS it's not always that bad, after her I had a lovely person who I'm still really good friends with and I got on with the guy before her perfectly well as well

Head-Out-Of-Sand

Good points - I think the behaviour in general just shows a lack of respect for my property (and sanity!) and a total inability to comply with what are perfectly reasonable requests.

Well, the party is on Saturday, I'm locking all my stealable/breakable stuff in my bedroom and clearing out until Sunday, will be having a word before I go and will just have to hope for the best I suppose. Have given next door neighbours (who are lovely and who I do not want to fall out with over stupid lodgers!) my mobile number and told them to call me if they have any trouble at all, told them that he will be warned to be on best behaviour and that they are not to take any nonsense off him. They have a young daughter and are expecting so I don't want to give them any hassle.

I wish I'd never agreed to the party but he made me feel guilty. I guess on the bright side, he may give me a good excuse to kick him out. The big fool.

On the brighter, non lodger-related side, it's payday tomorrow, and I've made it a whole month without going over budget, and paid a good chunk off the debts! Hurrah!!

essexgal

Head-Out-Of-Sand wrote: »

Well, the party is on Saturday

:eek: :eek: :eek:

I'd be asking for a 'damage bond' - can't you wangle a 'fuse box emergency' on late Saturday afternoon - i.e. no leccy, no music or lights = no party. Or fake the flu and mention that several people where you work have gone down with 'winter vomiting'.......

He'd have to cancel then.......:D

Failing that, ask him to pick up a large roll of black plastic sacks - when he asks why, tell him that if he doesn't use them to clear up after the party, he'll be using them to pack..........

essexgal

Head-Out-Of-Sand

essexgal wrote: »

:eek: :eek: :eek: Failing that, ask him to pick up a large roll of black plastic sacks - when he asks why, tell him that if he doesn't use them to clear up after the party, he'll be using them to pack..........

essexgal

Ha ha I like your style!

I actually am ill, but not with the norovirus (thank goodness, the whole house had that a few years ago and there were 4 of us staying at the time, with one bathroom - not so much fun!! _pale_)

Well I've put my nice wine glasses upstairs (my mum and dad got me beautiful ones the christmas I moved in here, and if anyone got so much as a fingerprint on them they would have to die - they live in their own box already, but not risking leaving them downstairs) and BF coming round in a bit to help me move the secret ice cave and anything else valuable or breakable to my room before fitting the lock. What fun.

My brother's girlfriend is coming to the party as Lodger2 is a friend of theirs(just to make things extra awkward when I evict him...), so hopefully she'll keep an eye on things but you never know.

Will report back on Sunday (If I still have a house in which to plug the laptop in! :rolleyes:)

essexgal

I was thinking, and because I am eeeevil here's a few things I thought of...(please note I'm not suggesting you try them .....well, I guess you could:D ) just to cheer you up.

1. Which sound system is he planning to use - if it's yours, put a broken fuse in the plug, hide all spare fuses....:D

2. Tonight seems like a good night to cook you and bf the messiest smelliest curry you can (prawn would be good) - make sure you use every possible pan, dish, plate, and glass in the house......and leave them on the side in the kitchen. Hide the washing up liquid, cleaning cloths, tea towels, kitchen roll and air freshener. If you can manage to cover the whole of your kitchen surfaces in dirty plates, even better. If lodger moans and tries to make you feel guilty remember the two weeks worth of washing up he left for you......did he feel guilty or did he act like a spoilt brat.:rolleyes: ... Breakfast for Saturday morning - I suggest kippers.......the fishy aroma should mingle nicely with the remains of the curry......

3. Run out of toilet rolls, clean towels and soap.

4. if the bulb in the toilet light fitting were to suddenly go ........shame....

5. casually mention that next door's brother/uncle/best friend/whatever will be visiting them on Saturday - and you think they said he works for the drug squad.....but it's not like he'd have to come over and complain about noise so shouldn't be a problem....;)

6. leave a message for him on the message board saying the STD clinic need to speak to him urgently :eek: (should scupper any chances of him scoring)

7. See if you can turn central heating (if you have it) off - and decide to 'air' the house by flinging every window you have open...should be nice and cold by the evening.

8. If he has a habit of leaving dirty clothes lying around, make sure they're lying around a bit more......let his mates see what he's really like.

Am interested in how it came about you agreed to this party in the first place...has he shown any signs of appreciation or gratitude - 'cos it's a pretty big ask....or does he just assume he can do as he likes...

essexgal

essexgal

Head-Out-Of-Sand wrote: »

My brother's girlfriend is coming to the party as Lodger2 is a friend of theirs(just to make things extra awkward when I evict him...),)

Problem solved.....


he can go and live with them.....:D

essexgal