My Debt-Free Plan...HOOS and the Case of the Incredible Exploding Oven!! :-o

LydiaJ

Hi HOOS

Just dropped by to see how you're doing - I remembered when you first came on and had your plan to pay off so much each month and do a little dance after each milestone. It stuck in my memory somehow, so I thought I'd see if you'd managed to stick to the plan ... but I see you're way ahead of it already! Yay! Big congratulations, and keep going. Here's hoping your DFD will be sooner than you think. Are you still planning to call your rescue cat Snufters?

Lydia.

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Thanks Lydia! Yes I'm pleased with how it's all going with the oven drama my payment will be lower next month, but I'll still be overpaying so it's all going in the right direction!

Got my 2nd £75 from Phones4U in the weekend post so will pop that in the bank tomorrow every little helps!

And yes, I'm definitely settled on the name Snufters! The thought of having the house between just me and a cat is all that keeps me going sometimes, through the piles of dirty dishes, neverending list of cleaning and unnecessarily slammed doors! I'll get there one day soon though!

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Well, I've spent three hours cleaning the house tonight! Still not quite finished, bathroom still needs a scrub but have given kitchen, living room, stairs and hallway a proper clean (I mean moving the fridge/freezer out and cleaning behind them and everything!)

Just fed up of my house stinking. The lads do take the p*ss and do no cleaning whatsoever. Despite it being in their TAs and me putting a rota up. I came back yesterday after being away for the weekend and the house was a mess. Clothes taken off clothes dryers and the dryers just left out in the living room. Kitchen not cleaned after use. Recycling bin in kitchen full, so rather than walk the 10 or so metres from the kitchen to the recycling bin outside, they just stack their empty beer bottles and pizza boxes on the floor next to it, bathroom unspeakable (and I only cleaned it a few days ago) and the house just smelled of boy. They must just not notice the smell. Or the mess.

My house looks lovely now, but my arm hurts and I know the place will be a sh*thole again in a matter of days. GOD I hate housesharing. I hate dealing with other peoples dirt and mess and bodily hair stuck to the surfaces of the bathroom.

I can't even be arsed speaking to them about it because I know they'll agree to do it, like they always do, and then just not bother.They've both walked past me working my !!! off cleaning up tonight and gone straight to their rooms. They must have no conscience whatsoever!!! And they know I'm off work with arm problems as well!!! GRRRRRRR.

I don't think it's worth kicking people out over this, because in my experience every lodger gives you the "Oh I hate living in a dirty house, I have OCD, I'm an obsessive cleaner" speil and then don't do a tap once they're settled in. I think the problem of being a live-in landlady is that they know you wont leave your house filthy so it'll get cleaned whether they bother doing their share or not.

Just pleeeeeease let me win the lottery or get a decent payout from work so I can kick the surrogate teenage sons out and stop living in filth as soon as possible!!!!!

Oh and just for info, neither housemate got me a card for my birthday. One at least wished me happy birthday. The other (you guessed it, that guy again) didn't say a word, despite it being on my facebook profile AND him seeing me eating birthday cake and opening pressies. Last time either of them get a xmas or birthday card from me. Don't know why I bother! I got them a pack of bottled beer each for xmas (trying to be nice, wasn't expecting anything in return), generally-reasonable lodger thanked me, annoying lodger took them, drunk them and never said a word to me about them. Ungrateful b*****d!

chevalier

:mad: :mad: :mad: I AM SO ANNOYED FOR YOUR ON YOUR BEHALF. I have read your thread from beginning to end. You have real problems and you HAVE been reasonable.

So I would suggest you do the following. You have already give a ss ho le lodger a written warning about his not cleaning and 'borrowing' things. He hasn't improved, so give him his written notice to leave. Put in it that despite cleaning being in the Tenancy Agreement he has not complied with said agreement, and that he has what ever the notice period is.

Then give it to him AND STICK TO IT. You don't need this prat *being polite* in your life.

And when generally reasonable lodger asks why richard head is being given notice, tell him that he didn't stick to the Tenancy Agreement and that as he signed the same one you suggest he rereads is thoroughly.

Sorry but you ARE ILL you do not need this added stress in your life. I am sure that if you put your mind to it you could get more work in to replace his rent for a month or two.

I am also sure that if you explained to your parents and bf about needing to repaint the room before it can be relet, that they would either chip in with the labout (which you can't do), or with the paint. Or ask on www.freecycle.org for some paint.

Just please please don't put up with this to sser for another 6 MONTHS.

Sorry if this is a bit rantish, but he would have been out on his a r se after the written warning which HE IGNORED, if I had been his landlady. He obviously has NO RESPECT either for you or your house and is seriously taking the you know what

GET RID NOW.
chev

ExNicotineQueen

HOOS, sending you a virtual hug. You really should get rid of the bad lodger, kick him out on his backside and into the real world. If he moves into another house share, hopefully then he will realise that he needs to pull his weight otherwise he will end up in a continuous cycle of being kicked out. Or if he can afford it, to rent his own place, no doubt it would be a pigsty, however that would be his problem.

But right now, especially as you are the owner of the property, I agree with the others, he needs to go ASAP. You sound lovely, I’m sure you will have lots of prospective tenants queuing up to take his room. Your lodger has no respect for you as a person or your property. Trust me, if I owned a property and was renting it out, there is no way I would want to live with other people who have no respect for me or my property. You have the power to change this situation. Sometimes peace of mind and sanity is more important than money. And like I said, I doubt your spare room would be vacant for long.

PS not all of us house-sharers are disgusting tramps like your lodger. If you do decide to kick him out, have you thought about limiting the choice to another female? I’m not saying all women are clean, some are even worse than men, however in general, women do tend to be tidier/cleaner and will pitch in and clean something if it needs doing. Unlike some men who like to live in filth and think that the fairies visit at night to clean up their mess. :rotfl:

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Awww thanks Chev and ENQ!!

Chev - unfortunately the only written warning I've given him was about the bathroom floor, which he's stopped doing now. Other stuff has only been verbal so far.

I'm going to put the rota in writing (well, email) to the lads this week, and reminding them in the email that the cleaning is non-negotiable and is a requirement of their tenancy agreement. That will be considered a written warning. If in a month's time it's not been stuck to (which it wont be) it's notice time. Can't accuse me of being unfair then.

You're right, even if it means I can't make any overpayments for a month or so, it would be worth it to not have to live with him any more. He's a total pain in the bum. And on a more gross, possibly TMI note, if I have to clean his "intimate" hairs out of the shower tray before I use it one more time I think I might actually lose my mind. Words cannot convey how much that upsets me!!! _pale_

My arm's really sore since doing the chores, had to take the dreaded script-strength painkillers which I hate doing (no likey drugs!) grrr.

Fear not, the hairy, lazy, mouth-breathy one will be gone soon!!! :T

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I love my housemates. Really I do. My FAVOURITE part of housesharing is hearing someone stumbling up the stairs at 5am on a Friday morning heaving, and wondering whether they're going to make it to the bathroom or just puke all over the cream carpet on my stairs...

Have of course made sure I'm reaaaally considerate this morning as I'm sure they must have a sore head...so I haven't slammed any doors, or sung in the shower (Bit of Girl's Aloud, in case you were wondering...) or put the TV on really loud in the room next to theirs. Because that would just be childish, wouldn't it?!

He he.

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Not been on too much over the weekend as my arm has been really sore off to physio today. It sucks because I have these prescription painkillers in the cupboard which are the only thing that works for the pain, but I don't take them because they just leave me really spaced out. I took one on Thursday before Spanish because the pain was so bad, but I felt drunk during the lesson which is not good. Grrr. I'm so fed up of this, it's taking so long to get better.

AH WELL mustn't dwell on depressing things. I'm off home to my parents' at the weekend for my birthday pressies woohoo! And will be able to play with the cat which is always de-stressing. Plus, my brother and his girlfriend got me vouchers for a local spa for my birthday, so I'm going to be having an afternoon of pamering soon! Bliss.

I've sent an email to the lads with the cleaning rota, saying that I need them to do their bit and that my arm is really painful. Also reminded them that it is in their tenancy agreement to do their bit on the rota. As far as I'm concerned, that's a written warning.

I'm getting fed up of tidying up after people too. Just stupid things like if annoying lodger takes the ironing board out of the cupboard, he NEVER puts it back in the cupboard, just leaves it propped against the cupboard door. ???????????!!!!!!!! WHY!? I just can't be ar s ed coaching people in their mid-twenties how to live in a house any more. I just want to punch him in the face every time I see him now. Not good.

Right better get off the computer as arm is complaining already!!!

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GRRRRRRRRRRRRR today is not my day!!

Been generally p****d off about work and arm etc etc, went out into yard to put my washing out and discovered that some scumbag sm a ckhead scally has been in my yard, ripped the door off the shed, then destroyed the isolation switch I had fitted a few weeks ago, presumably looking for keys to get into my house.

I'm so annoyed. I'm upset that someone has got onto my property, and with a clear intention to get into the house. Especially considering I have to nag people to keep the back door locked. I've reported it to the police, not expecting anything to happen but thinking that if I don't report it, it could be happening to loads of people and police aren't finding out about it.

I just HATE that these scummy robbing b******ds are just WAITING for an opportunity to break into MY HOME to steal MY THINGS that I have to work my a$$ off for. All so they can sell it for sm a ck. GRRRRRRRR.

At least they didn't get in, but it's freaked me out a bit knowing that they were that close.

Tomorrow will be a better day!

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I am a little drunk. Only a little though, a respectable amount! (i.e. I am being quiet and there is no risk whatsoever of me vomiting, especially not on the stairs.) Had a lovely evening at my friend's house

The dishes are still there. Grrrrrrrrrrr. 4 days. Grrrrrrrrr.

Despite me putting up a notice reiterating what we agreed at the house meeting, and pointing out that 24 hours is, in fact, 1 day. Still there.I am becoming obsessed about dishes.

Have also had to put up a note on the cupboard under the stairs explaining that should one remove any items from the cupboard, one should therefore be expected to return said item to its original home in order to avoid being a selfish lazy t*sser. Well, it's more polite than that, but that's what I meant.

Tomorrow, I am separating my stuff out from the communal cupboard. He may no longer use my stuff as he has no intention of washing it within reasonable time. I'm going to let nice lodger use it as he ALWAYS washes up but they're not going in the main cupboard any more. I've had enough. That way, if he uses his stuff and doesn't wash them, they're just going out in the yard. And the scallies can steal them. Then he'll have to eat out of cans like a tramp. Ha.

Tomorrow I am going to the bank to cash a cheque, and going to do a Mystery Shop, then hopefully put some stuff on ebay. All good. Then I will dance in the evening.