child maintance + ex husband

rchddap1

Just spotted this...

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk_politics/4625228.stm

Seems in some cases the CSA might bring in debt collectors. Might not be a bad thing in your case.

filigree_2

Rjohnmatt wrote:

I sympathise with your situation but have you not thought about working yourself to get some additional money for the kids.

Why do you assume she doesn't work? Not all single mums are on the dole.

If the OP is not working and claims Income Support then all the CSA money is deducted from her IS payments, it doesn't make much difference if the father pays £200 or £500 because she won't get it. However, if she does work then the CSA payments can make a big difference to the children's welfare, especially if she is on a low income.

If anyone needs to be made to work harder it's the feckless father.

One danger I foresee is that if he gets sufficiently p**d off he will chuck in this job as well, out of spite.

black-saturn

Well said - from a lone parent on the dole.

traciemk

sorry forgot to mentian... YES i do work you name it ive done it (ie cleaning dirty toilets, picking rubbish up after concerts, paper rounds, betterware, avon, as well as holding down my job at my son school(part time as a dinner lady/washing dishes so i aint afraid of hard work)
it just get me so argry trying to make ends meets(ie bills, shopping, school uniforms) but what really make me so upset is when my children bring a letter home from school about a school day trip i have to explain i cant afford it or when the school contact me saying my children have come to school in trainers NOT shoes then i have to explain myself saying i cant afford another pair of shoes if the children have kick them out to quick....sorry getting upset now thinking of it

black-saturn

Dont think about it then. No amount of thinking about it is going to make anything better. Also dont be ashamed to shop in charity shops as you can get some good bargains in there, especially children's shoes.

melancholly

:grouphug: to traciemk
hope it all gets resolved as soon as possible!

(and that is a grouphug icon - not anything more dodgy!!)

tonij

Hi , can someone or somebody kno how to help me?
My ex left 2 yrs ago in may it took ages for the divorce and over a yr ago he went to live in scotland and chose to leave . it all got nasty his g/f got involved and nasty emails and txts were sent . no contact has been made no maintanance untill csa got on to him and lost his job gained a new job . we have 2 children 6 and 9 he did not buy christmas or birthday cards nothing i said not to bother but he could of overide what isaid and made a effort. He now wants either access for over 700 miles away or custody or PR . hes not attempted to see kids in over a year hes been accused of child abuse and on record. when he did have kids he left them with other women.

ive told my solicitor hes now getting his own solicitor but scottish laws to our english law over kids is different and here will this all lead and will court cases be in england or scotland ? is there anyone going through the same ?

Bangerchick

Stick with the CSA chick as has already been said, even if it works out less at least he'll have to pay it regularly! And if he does give you anything in the mean time make sure you have a record of it. Another one speaking from experience

Lil306

traciemk wrote: »

thanks for all the good advice.
ive been in touch with c.s.a regarding this they have said they will send letter to him asking for his wages details.
ive since had aonther email form kevin(ex husband) saying this=hi tracy,
after our meeting i thought we had made things quite clear.
we were going to cancel the csa and £200 cash per month.

this seeems to be turning into a money thing again,thought we had moved on



why wont he just go though c.s.a or is he worried they will look at his wages and take 20% of for the 2children and it will be more then £200 a month does he really think im so silly to cancel c.s.a and lose 3 years worth of arrears what make it worse he aint spoke with kids for 2 years and mange to forget there birthdays and christmas(not even a card) what do i do

I definately think you should stick with the CSA, wise choice imo.

The above bit stuck out to me like a sore thumb, I underlined the trigger words for me after I read that line.

Cash = no receipt, no way of you verifying he actually paid you if you try and dispute it

bof_3

tonij wrote: »

Hi , can someone or somebody kno how to help me?
My ex left 2 yrs ago in may it took ages for the divorce and over a yr ago he went to live in scotland and chose to leave . it all got nasty his g/f got involved and nasty emails and txts were sent . no contact has been made no maintanance untill csa got on to him and lost his job gained a new job . we have 2 children 6 and 9 he did not buy christmas or birthday cards nothing i said not to bother but he could of overide what isaid and made a effort. He now wants either access for over 700 miles away or custody or PR . hes not attempted to see kids in over a year hes been accused of child abuse and on record. when he did have kids he left them with other women.

ive told my solicitor hes now getting his own solicitor but scottish laws to our english law over kids is different and here will this all lead and will court cases be in england or scotland ? is there anyone going through the same ?

You really need to start your own thread