DFW *Daily chat* Wednesday 17th December - Time for Baileys?

schoolrunmum

Thanks Daffy-I do need some winter sun-unfortunately though with my recent skin cancer diagnosis I shouldn't really! Going to San Francisco end of Jan for my birthday,but it seems so long away. I want someone to pamper me!!!!!!Bring ME tea in bed, wash my car 'cos it's mucky, take the kids carol singing so I can soak in the bath n eat choccie etc,instead of having to cook/clean/shop/wrap/watch school performances etc.....I feel like a single parent with 1 extra big child a the mo!! Rant over-for now...!!!

daphne_descends

Jinks you are the voice of reason! Sammy has reminded me DS is still realllly young too and she is right. There is time yet. But I'm the sort of person who needs to know there is the possibility - I don't need my plans in stone, just a vague idea that XYZ might be on the agenda.

I will admit to being a bit of a control freak I also don't think just having one would be terrible, 6 months ago I was quite happy with that idea - but then they grow up so fast - Elliot's face looks so much less rounded and baby-ish, it surprises me. But then he does that baby cry and I realise it's not over yet...

Am I just scared of my baby growing up and not having one anymore? Maybe

Oh isn't it lunchtime yet? Sick of this office, hungry, and I need to buy some Christmas cards as everyone in the office has given me one, well we didn't do them in my old job so now I look like scrooge :rotfl:

daphne_descends

schoolrunmum wrote: »

Thanks Daffy-I do need some winter sun-unfortunately though with my recent skin cancer diagnosis I shouldn't really! Going to San Francisco end of Jan for my birthday,but it seems so long away. I want someone to pamper me!!!!!!Bring ME tea in bed, wash my car 'cos it's mucky, take the kids carol singing so I can soak in the bath n eat choccie etc,instead of having to cook/clean/shop/wrap/watch school performances etc.....I feel like a single parent with 1 extra big child a the mo!! Rant over-for now...!!!

I am sure your doc/consultant can give you proper advice tailored for you but my mum went on hols about 3 months after having her removal, just kept very covered up, hats kaftans and lots of shade, the usual advice just taken to the extreme. My stepdad got a wicked tan and she - despite being fairly olive skinned compared to pale me - looked like a milk bottle next to him - he had the cheek to be smug about it :eek: :rotfl:

Can you take an hour to yourself in the bathroom, Linda can give you some speedy pampering tips :j

jinky67

daphne_descends wrote: »

Jinks you are the voice of reason! Sammy has reminded me DS is still realllly young too and she is right. There is time yet. But I'm the sort of person who needs to know there is the possibility - I don't need my plans in stone, just a vague idea that XYZ might be on the agenda.

I will admit to being a bit of a control freak I also don't think just having one would be terrible, 6 months ago I was quite happy with that idea - but then they grow up so fast - Elliot's face looks so much less rounded and baby-ish, it surprises me. But then he does that baby cry and I realise it's not over yet...

Am I just scared of my baby growing up and not having one anymore? Maybe

Oh isn't it lunchtime yet? Sick of this office, hungry, and I need to buy some Christmas cards as everyone in the office has given me one, well we didn't do them in my old job so now I look like scrooge :rotfl:

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
NO-ONE has ever said that about me before:D
I think me and you may be somewhat alike....i too am accused of control freakery.....but only because no -one else wanted it.:rolleyes:
I like to know as well that it could happen........i think even if he said "ok one day but now is too soon" you would be far happier
have you told him this?
maybe he doesnt realise.....he is a man after all:D
they need things in black and white

And the whole my baby is growing up thing is normal.......tis how the human race survives.






i have now been far too sensible so am off to look for sexy men now:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

daphne_descends

jinky67 wrote: »

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
NO-ONE has ever said that about me before:D
I think me and you may be somewhat alike....i too am accused of control freakery.....but only because no -one else wanted it.:rolleyes:
I like to know as well that it could happen........i think even if he said "ok one day but now is too soon" you would be far happier
have you told him this?
maybe he doesnt realise.....he is a man after all:D
they need things in black and white

And the whole my baby is growing up thing is normal.......tis how the human race survives.






i have now been far too sensible so am off to look for sexy men now:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

I never used to need so much control but like you - if I don't do it no other !!!!!! will! For example Christmas. If I don't plan meticulously when we will see my parents and his parents then they will just descend upon the house when they please and we will get stressed and possibly maim one of more of them. So I plan a bloody 'schedule' and then it's done but boy do I look like a geek. And if I don't sit down and plan what meals we are going to eat each day we're going to wake up every day and go '!!!!!!! there's no food, what shall we eat' and DS will have ham sodding sandwiches every day. And if I don't organise our budget to the very penny there will be no savings and no house purchase.

It's not much fun but it's important and necessary and once I have the reins I like it.

My friend tells me that women like dominance in at least one area of life. For me it's the organising. For her it's the bedroom :eek:

Leading nicely on to your sexy men - I'll have to check the thread later, work filters out images on here :mad:

jinky67

It does get very wearing after a while......Trying to sort all that stuff out when no-one else cares and still spends money buying carp:rolleyes: think that was one of the reasons i gave up.

I actually dont really want to be in control either...but had to be.

Guess i better find some sexy men then so you are not disappointed:rotfl:

jinky67

redsquirrel80

jinky67 wrote: »

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
NO-ONE has ever said that about me before:D
I think me and you may be somewhat alike....i too am accused of control freakery.....but only because no -one else wanted it.:rolleyes:
I like to know as well that it could happen........i think even if he said "ok one day but now is too soon" you would be far happier
have you told him this?
maybe he doesnt realise.....he is a man after all:D
they need things in black and white

And the whole my baby is growing up thing is normal.......tis how the human race survives.






i have now been far too sensible so am off to look for sexy men now:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Very wise words Jinky - it's one of the things OH has always given me mixed messages about but he recently said that he would very definitely not have any more kids (he has 2 from previous relationship) - am sure I rambled on about this before but I don't think I'm ready to rule it out yet... just one little thing in the long list of reasons why I've realised we don't have a long term future.

DD - hope you can sit down and have a good conversation about it with him, it does sound like he is scared and worried about how you would cope.

Ooh.. bring on the sexy men, although I did get caught looking at that pic of Jake whatsit at work yesterday :rotfl:

jinky67

I guess thats where i am lucky now.
Me and new man have already talked about it and i know he doesnt want any more so i will not spend any more time thinking about it.

I think it is a major point in every relationship at some time or another,and many people never actually talk about it seriously.

redsquirrel80

Aww look at the baby tiger