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  • Is that a confession that you watched those films:rotfl:

    I may be old enough to be LM's mum (just), but I'm not THAT old ...
  • Tiff_2
    Tiff_2 Posts: 3,046 Forumite
    Hi guys!hello.gif

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    'Times are hard and friends are few.' as Paul O'Grady often quotes, so I have no choice but to turn to Grinch-like methods...
    I want a pound of catnip delivered to the cat basket by 6pm - or else Santa gets it!:eek: :D
    Thinking of you all.sLo_hug2.gif
    Much Love,
    Tiff xxx
    "If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought." ~ by Peace Pilgrim.
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    'You just got Tiffed!' ;)
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  • I'm not doing that well atm. My Mum walked out on my Dad AGAIN! for some man she's met. She did this a few years ago, with another man. It has been really upsetting for all of us. She's been causing problems since she left by sending nasty text messages. She told me that I have no life and that she can't understand why I'm not like everyone else. Also she told me in a text message that my Dad has cancer :( She's become such a horrible woman. I don't even like referring to her as my Mum anymore because it doesn't feel like she is, she doesn't care about us anymore. I know I know I'm an adult (24), but you don't stop needing your parents do you? I feel like I'm in a state of mourning. As strange as it sounds my only real comfort is SH.
    SH is not an answer:A . You are punishing yourself for something that not really under your control. I know I often bark on about taking responsibility for your actions in life but I feel that a massive proportion of depression is down to environment. by that I mean abuse as a child or bullying at work etc etc. This includes living in an unhappy environment. yes i know you love or need parents on one level but you must not let other people damage you. Your parents are adults too and if you are suffering as a result of their actions it may be you cant do much about it at the moment but when you can change your environment Im sure your depression will change. Just look at the posts from Shaz or LM since they found new loves. Sometimes when you can not change your environment there are coping mechanisms that can maybe not cure things but make them more bearable. This does not include SH because you are damaging the wrong person. Instead of SH try and focus your thoughts on how others escape these situations and make their lives better. I know you dont live up to mothers expectations but just remember you are not your mothers ego. it is your life and you have a choice, either carry on as you are or strive to make it something great.
    Who I am is not important. What I do is.
  • BizzyBek
    BizzyBek Posts: 265 Forumite
    beachbeth wrote: »
    Never mind, going out shopping in a minute and for lunch with my sister-in-law. She's lovely and is always cheery! She should be on prescription for people with depression!

    Money saving idea - rent her out :rotfl:
  • :wave: Hello all, I haven't posted for a while but have been reading all the posts. LM I'm so pleased to hear how happy you are. You and Sam look like a cute couple. I can tell just from reading your posts that your self-confidence is growing:)

    Steph Hope you manage to sort things out with your bf.

    Tulip Our ray of sunshine :) How are things with you? Are you looking forward to Christmas?

    Sssssss That karate teacher behaved inappropriately and I'm glad to hear that you're going to make a complaint.

    I'm not doing that well atm. My Mum walked out on my Dad AGAIN! for some man she's met. She did this a few years ago, with another man. It has been really upsetting for all of us. She's been causing problems since she left by sending nasty text messages. She told me that I have no life and that she can't understand why I'm not like everyone else. Also she told me in a text message that my Dad has cancer :( She's become such a horrible woman. I don't even like referring to her as my Mum anymore because it doesn't feel like she is, she doesn't care about us anymore. I know I know I'm an adult (24), but you don't stop needing your parents do you? I feel like I'm in a state of mourning. As strange as it sounds my only real comfort is SH.


    Sending huge hugs RBK xx
    If you board the wrong train, it is no use running along the corridor in the other direction.
    Dietrich Bonhoeffer
  • LadyMorticia
    LadyMorticia Posts: 19,899 Forumite
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    Hello RBK.

    I'm not any good at advice at the moment but I can do hugs. ((((hugs))))

    xx
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  • shazrobo
    shazrobo Posts: 3,313 Forumite
    day1 of the school hols, and already i'm struggling, daniel has been stealing things from home again, and then lying, and getting threatening and abusive towards me. and this is after i treated them to a film at the cinema, sometimes wonder why i bother :confused:


    (((big hugs))) rbk, your mum isnt being very nice to you and that must be hard, but please don't SH

    steph, good news you and your fella are back together in time for xmas

    i won't be spending xmas day with ian, as he will be going to see his family, but he will be spending new years eve with me, and i am looking forward to that very much.

    feel like everybody is out celebrating except me, stuck in with two teens, fed up today

    hugs all
    shaz xxx
    enjoy life, we only get one chance at it:)
  • beachbeth
    beachbeth Posts: 3,862 Forumite
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    She's been causing problems since she left by sending nasty text messages. She told me that I have no life and that she can't understand why I'm not like everyone else.

    I think with people like this you get to the point where you realise that no matter what you do it won't be enough and you'll never be good enough. What you have to realise though is that it is their problem and not yours. It isn't that you have a lot of shortcomings its that they think you have. My own mum can be like this and I no longer take it to heart. I am the way I am and she either likes it or lumps it. We can't be what others want us to be.

    Hugs for you. ((()))
  • LadyMorticia
    LadyMorticia Posts: 19,899 Forumite
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    I'm not celebrating Christmas, Shaz.

    It's the worst time of year for me and I prefer to spend it alone as I cannot expect anyone else to deal with the tears and stuff. Plus, I don't have any family to spend it with.

    xx
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  • I'm not celebrating Christmas, Shaz.

    It's the worst time of year for me and I prefer to spend it alone as I cannot expect anyone else to deal with the tears and stuff. Plus, I don't have any family to spend it with.

    xx
    You got us:D
    You should have got together with cybermum in barcelona. Ryan air do cheap flights from stanstead.
    Who I am is not important. What I do is.
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