Depression Support Thread

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope all is well,I am fine today,been out to get myself a new dslite game and came out with two as it was buy one get one free at Game and got two animal games which I enjoy and love.I had a play whilst I was cooking lunch,tonight I am having soup and a crusty roll,Right better go and get prescription and packet from post office which they couldnt deliver to me because I was out.

love and light,

Katie xxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Been out and got my package it was from Lush who do the cosmetic stuff.Really lovely too.Got a Honey I washed the Kids soap sent out as that was owed to me and finally got it today.Got my prescription as well.Tea is crusty Roll and tomato soup.Just something nice and light as I had had a nice lunch,then have a nice bath and relax and watch tv tonight.

love and light,

Katie xxx

flis21

Hi Katie,

Yes I remember you, and Tiff and Miro (or was it mira?) who loved Britany Spears! It has been a long time, I suppose when your depression isn't really affecting your life, apart from taking a tablet in the mornings, you kind of forget about it!

Well, it has been quiet on here this afternoon. I am off to bath my little boy and put him to bed. Hopefully he will go to sleep well and I can get and hour to myself to relax before bed. Hubby is working tonight, so I have control of the telly!!

F xx

rosepink1984

Sssss, please don't leave the thread, I've really enjoyed 'meeting' you. I know it's hard to cope when someone upsets us, but please don't take it personally. Lots of your posts haven't been deleted and have been very helpful. You've had a tough time lately, and we are all so pleased that you are going to get start a new job soon, and I'm sure things will improve. I know for myself, I get very sensitive when things have been hard, and before I started my new job in December I was very nervous for a few days before which made it harder to cope with knock backs. I had to make a decision to ignore the bad stuff and try to focus on the good things that happened each day, and try to make each day a new day, not carrying bad feelings over to the next day. Not easy to do I know, but with practice it is possible! Thinking of you :A
Fliss, I felt really moved when I read your post. Sounds like the last few weeks have been really hard for you. It is difficult to come off meds in the middle of winter, how about trying again in the summer if you feel up to it, and your GP agrees? Don't worry if you have to stay on them indefinately, you wouldn't worry if it was a heart tablet or blood pressure tablet would you? :grouphug:
Hi Katie, sounds like you have had a fairly good day, it's nice to hear all your news each day
I've been on a course today. Have to go again tomorrow. It was ok, quite interesting but loads of info to take in. I got on quite well with the other people there, but it was harder the longer the day went on to cope with being out of my own environment with a bunch of strangers, and I got a huge stress headache. Came home and got straight into bed for a nap! Am up again now, but dreading tomorrow. I'm absolutely worn out, hope I can get some energy by the morning, or I will be no good at all - especially as tmrw is going to be all practical! Today was just theory (manual handling and lifting), tmrw will be hoisting - what fun!
I'm trying to keep lighthearted about it, but inside I'm churning. An early night is called for I think! Night all, hope you sleep well and wake up feeling able to face the day ahead.

beachbeth

Hope you are ok this morning, Sssssss. Please don't let the post deleting get to you. Ive had posts deleted too and don't know why. Its very cowardly of people to sneakily report posts so that the mods delete them, but we can rise above this and carry on discussing on this thread. Don't let these people get to you.:grouphug:

I feel down this morning after my stressful interview at Jobcentre Plus yesterday. I wish these people could realise how much worse they are making me. Ive had so many people telling me (and letters too) to apply for Jobseekers while I wait for my Incapacity Benefit appeal to go ahead only to find that Im not eligible. I fear that the slightest bad word said to me today could have me in tears. Never mind, chin up I say. Don't let life (or depression) beat you.

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope all is well.SSSSSSS please dont leave the thread we would miss you,I read all your posts and they are fine to me,you havent said a word wrong at all so dont worry.

I am fine today,going to see my specialist today to discuss how I am doing etc

Have a lovely day everyone


love and light,

Katie xxx

janie63

Morning! Got sick note yesterday which signs me off for two weeks- am going to docs today for blood tests and blood pressure- should be Ok as I've been at home and feel quite chilled..........but stomach is starting to churn as I think about going out............

Hope everyone is well and Sssss please post and let us know u r ok?

J x

Tiff_2

Hi guys!
Room for a Tiffster anyone?

Hey there, my Tifflings!

I will happily follow protocol and send a warm to our newest clan members marleyboy (marley), janie63 (janie), mezer3000 (mezer), cantthinkofone (ctoo) and fatou256 (fatou)! Please kick and scream if I've overlooked anyone, folks. I hope you've all been made to feel at home, guys and please feel free to post your little hearts out. They're lovely people on this thread, ... and don't worry - most of them are on ASBOs already, so they have to behave themselves. Just joking guys.

It's funny, I'm not usually lost for words as you know but I'm feeling a bit that way now. It's probably because I have so much to say, too much confusion to explain it and not enough time to do it in - business as usual then for Tiffy.

I don't think Mum passing away has hit home yet tbh, and it really is a few hours at a time atm. I know it's a case of doing it just like this and allowing myself however long it takes to grieve and going a step at a time - I'm just not very good at following my own advice.
I'm afraid to say that it was a very difficult day for the Tiffster, not just because of Mum and the occasion, but also due to other events. These very cruel events, (I don't know why I was so shocked - it could only happen to me!), made an already difficult time feel impossible for me, and honestly, if it weren't for your wonderful messages I don't know how I'd have gotten through it to now. Maybe more about that in the next chapter of ''The Tiff Chronicles ~ Part 10.'' It's kind of sad in one way, but I was so grateful for your posts and PMs and you actually did make me feel loved and cared about. That's a beautiful thing to give to someone and I can't thank you all enough.

It's been a hard weekend too because yesterday I was told my eldest cousin had a massive stroke on Saturday and died suddenly whilst visiting his sister. Charles was already being treated for cancer. So bless you too, Charles hunnie.
And today finds the Tiffster feeling poorly - maybe a touch of cat 'flu coming on?! I'm not in any hurry to go and see the vet though.

So a very sincere thank you all for your beautiful words and support over the loss of my Mum and for remembering me on the day of her funeral last Tuesday. I am sorry that I haven't replied to messages etc. yet, but I hope you kind souls will understand why, and I promise I'll do my best to rejoin the 'real' world as soon as possible.Don't say you haven't been warned!

For someone who doesn't know what to say, I'm doing rather well, aren't I? Well, I do know what I'm going to say next.

I wanted to post about this on the same day it happened, but I was turned into a very soggy Tiffy mess by what happened. I was completely choked with emotion. There was a knock on my door the day before Mum's funeral. I had my muzzle on so I opened the door to find a postman, (no black and white cat to be seen though!), and he smiled at me and said '' 'Ere you are.'' and handed me a narrow box nearly two feet long before trotting back to his van. It wasn't ticking, , so I opened it and look what I found inside.....

I burst into tears and was absolutely Tiffless at the wonderful sentiments when I read that card. Now I believe from reading the thread that cb2, (bad girl!), had initiated this beautiful gesture and I want to say thank you so very much angel - it was more than I deserve and a fantastic surprise. None of you can know how much this is helping me through this crisis - you'll have to wait for Part 10, as I said - right now . Their scents were really lovely and they reminded me of how much my Mum loved flowers - I was always taking her some to cheer her up.

Now I'm not going soft in my old age guys, but here's a special treat to you, from me... !
No, it's one blue smartie between you all - not each! Think I'm made of smarties or sumfink?! I'll love you and leave you soon, guys - a serious catnap is much required. I will read back over the thread to cat-ch up and return to post again soon. Many thanks again everyone.
Be as kind to yourselves as you have been to me.

Much Love,

Tiff xxx

whitevanwoman

beachbeth wrote: »

Hope you are ok this morning, Sssssss. Please don't let the post deleting get to you. Ive had posts deleted too and don't know why. Its very cowardly of people to sneakily report posts so that the mods delete them, but we can rise above this and carry on discussing on this thread. Don't let these people get to you.:grouphug:

I feel down this morning after my stressful interview at Jobcentre Plus yesterday. I wish these people could realise how much worse they are making me. Ive had so many people telling me (and letters too) to apply for Jobseekers while I wait for my Incapacity Benefit appeal to go ahead only to find that Im not eligible. I fear that the slightest bad word said to me today could have me in tears. Never mind, chin up I say. Don't let life (or depression) beat you.

Hi beachbeth
My advice would be to go to your GP and tell them what's been going on and ask them to record on your medical records that the stress and anxiety about all this is making you worse. Next time the JC insists on an appointment, request a home visit on the grounds that attending the JC makes your condition worse and you are unable to attend due to the after-effects of the stress and anxiety. Be firm with them and make them realise that you have a genuine disabling illness - would they expect someone with cancer to turn up or someone with a broken leg. The problem with having a mental illness is that the nature of the illness means that we allow ourselves to be browbeaten into doing what other people want because we are too scared, anxious or simply unable to stand up for ourselves and make people realise how ill we actually are. We just struggle on trying to do the right thing by everyone else and actually its the wrong thing for ourselves.

Look after yourself - and do think about looking into getting some support, either from Mind or another organisation, or ask your GP to refer you to the Mental Health team as you need extra support to cope with all this c**p the benefits system is throwing at you at the moment. I think CAB could be really helpful too, and could help you make sense of the benefits system and how to appeal etc against decisions.

Be brave and hang on in there. You've had to cope with alot in the last week and that is going to be having a big effect on your mood. It does get better - I know (after 15 years of episodic depression) that it does get better and even though it might come back, you get better at dealing with it.

xx

Tiff_2

Hi cmp!
Y'know the Tiffster has seen some strange posts in her time......but I'd never have thought in a million years that one of my first posts back would be about K6 telephone kiosks - but that's life with the Tiffster for you!

cmp wrote:

On Wednesday I'm going to a Council meeting to try to persuade them to sponsor our local old-fashioned red phone box which BT want to get rid of since it's not longer profitable. I was told that the amount required was £500, which I offered to raise because the council expressed great reluctance to sponsor it. I've badgered friends and relatives for promises of money, also asked local businesses, appeared on local telly, I've leafleted the neighbourhood, sold quiz sheets, sold sponsorship packages online and started organising a jumble sale which I figured should, with all the money already rasied and pledged, take us over the £500 target.
Today (well, yesterday now) I got a copy of the report to go to the Council and it says the amount we need is £500 + VAT!
They never mentioned that bit before. That's like an extra £75 I have to find from somewhere :eek: The report also says BT will make it a cashless phone box so it'll only take cards (and freephone calls). I'm furious about this. One of the reasons I think the phone box is in a useful location is it's next to a community centre and outdoor games area used a lot by children, who don't tend to carry credit cards or even phone cards. I also object in principle to BT asking us to contribute towards the maintenance costs of the phone box which they previously subsidised, then implementing a cost-cutting measure which could mean I and my fellow sponsors/ fundraisers end up subsidising BT!
The report also completely fails to mention that it's an old K6 kiosk which is important to preserve as part of our heritage, and it's so negative in tone that I think the only way to convonce the council to back me will be to offer to write a cheque for the full amount upfront so there's no risk to them. If they accept that proposal I'd have to borrow the money on my credit card and pay interest myself while I collected the money back from sponsors (paying monthly not annually) and fundraising events.[/rant]
Sorry, long post! Love and hugs to all.
P.S. if any of you want to e-mail/ fax Dumfries & Galloway Council (F.A.O. Nithsdale Area Committee) by Wed to express support for the proposal to sponsor the red phone box in Ellisland Drive, Dumfries, here's their contact details:
Tel: 030 33 33 3000
Fax: 01387 260034
Email: [EMAIL="cis@dumgal.gov.uk"]cis@dumgal.gov.uk[/EMAIL]

Well done you for making such a huge effort. I've been down to the Tiff archives,, and found the following information on two BT schemes...

Basically, the council can apply to the ''Adopt A Kiosk Scheme'' to adopt the kiosk for just £1 from BT - but it would not have a working telephone in it. BT would remove the telephony equipment. All you need to know about this scheme is available from the links below...

http://www.payphones.bt.com/adopt_a_kiosk/HTML/payphone/howtoapply.htm

http://www.payphones.bt.com/adopt_a_kiosk/HTML/payphone/Conditions_Transfer.html

http://www.payphones.bt.com/adopt_a_kiosk/HTML/payphone/whathappensnext.htm

http://www.payphones.bt.com/adopt_a_kiosk/HTML/payphone/faq.htm

THE AGREEMENT TO DOWNLOAD
http://www.payphones.bt.com/adopt_a_kiosk/HTML/payphone/download.htm


Here's just one example of how it has worked for others...
http://www.thisisbath.co.uk/news/Village-buy-phone-boxarticle-479834-details/article.html


The second scheme is the ''Adopt A Kiosk Sponsorship Scheme'' and it's this one that costs £500 + VAT. And just in case they haven't told you hunnie, that's ANNUALLY! This will provide a cashless telephone. The national usage of public payphones has nearly halved within the last year or so.
http://www.payphones.bt.com/adopt_a_kiosk/HTML/payphone/Conditions_Sponsorship.html

Now even Tiffy knows that Dumfries isn't in Falkirk, (is it?), but this link also supplies information on preserving national icons etc, and the relevant laws, specific to Scotland...
http://www.falkirk.gov.uk/services/development/planning_and_environment/conservation_and_design_guidance/pdfs/Built Heritage Strategy.pdf

It may even be worth looking into whether the National Trust can help, so here's a link for them...
http://www.nationaltrust.org.uk/main/w-trust.htm

As we know here on MSE, people's actions can make a huge difference angel,, so it might very well be worth your while to start a petition in your area. You badger away, hunnie!(Sorry gilly-badgie!) Good luck cmp - I hope this information helps somehow.

Safe journeys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx