Weekly Flylady Thread 1st December 2008

Flylady_Flower

toottifrootti wrote: »

its Tiscali flower. i thought it was my old pc??? not able to cope??? I could do what you suggest and save to a word doc but sometimes its not until I press submit message key that I find out the connection has died so I lose the post! And sometimes it wont open up the tabs that I have collected so i cant save them!! It is really infuriating! I can only leave my internet on if its on the site or the thread - if i was to go to the loo say and I was on bbc news or anywhere I would have lost the connection by the time I came back same goes for emails - cant leave it on my inbox!

I don't think that is your computer Toots, I would speak to them and see if they can check your connection, definitly worth a go, if not, it may be worth speaking to a computer guy and seeing what they can do for you? I know PC world, while not the best or cheapest, offer set fees for such things - better than a guy for an hourly charge (I got caught out on that one and it cost me a fortune AND he didn't fix it!) but speak to Tiscali first though...

Pink_Fairy_2

Night all and God Bless. x

Flylady_Flower

pigpen wrote: »

No, I am an example of what NOT to be.. plus there is my motto..

'Do as I say not as I do'

Ahhh, the great parent motto... I love that one!:p :rotfl: (hated it as a child tho!:D )


Huge Hugs Chunky - I hope that your own problems sort themselves out and you feel better soon and I am so sorry for you and your aunts family - sending hugs and prayers to you all...
ETA: Dump on us as much as you want, we're all here for you...:A

Michelle, if you can encourage any child to read, that is great - but make it something they love - as Valli said, her DS loved numbers so anything to do with numbers would never be a chore - my DS loved reading and I always encouraged him, he loved cars so we used to read car books/magazines, basically anything to do with cars - even road signs as we went along, he was very good and reading very well from 2 years old - it wasn't until he went to year 5 that things started going downhill and I still believe a lot of it was an unwilling teacher to give him more than what the other children were doing and I unfortunatly worked when he finished school so was never able to help too much with homework or extra stuff and so he got bored, began playing up in class and the rest, as they say, is history...
So if I can say one thing, always know what they love, encourage it where ever possible and help them with stuff out of school - it doesn't have to be the time when they finish school, but before bed, at weekends, whenever you have time, even just 15 minutes - I was always busy and really regret that now so really, just be there and encourage, your can't go wrong...:D

pigpen

cha97michelle wrote: »

Can i ask opinions please. I'm reading a book about teaching young children to read. Does anyone have any thoughts on 2 year olds reading? I think it can only be a good thing as DS1 loves books and is starting to memorise some stories like the hungry caterpillar, but i don't want to 'be a teacher' and spoil it for him. Nicki how early did your DD read? I know she reads well for her age now.

My oldest 2 were read to from the day they were born pretty much and both were able to read WAY before they 'should' be able to.. DS1 was 2.5 and DD1 was almost 3 but both could easily read the 45 stage 1 words they are not meant to be able to read all of before they are 6.

Reading early can only be a good thing!! Mine are both on AGT for 4 subjects now!

Flylady_Flower

Valli wrote: »

He's asleep again so...

Hope he feels better tomorrow - glad he's got back to sleep though - nothing worse than feeling carp and just lying there awake...

Still have the headache, but have made the house presentable, if not level 3 clean, and I'm hoping to finish paperwork all off tomorrow (has to be done this weekend as I am working Mon-Wed, packing Thur and flying Fri...:eek: ) so cards should be sent to you tomorrow lil_me... (fingers crossed... they're nearly done...)

Trouble is, coz I went back to bed this morning I'm not tired now, hubby home but back at work in the morning so we will be up before 5am, so think I will go to bed and see if I can fall asleep to the sound of snooring as I've not had it all week where he's been away... (he is a VERY loud snorer) Anyway, I can always nap tomorrow...

Good night everyone...

pigpen

sexymouse wrote: »

Stoopid cat! He's gone off somewhere and stoopid OH has used the torch so I can't go out to look for him and can't see him in the dark as he's totally black! I've called and called him, but I'm not going to stay up all night waiting for him to turn up. Have left the back door just pushed to so he should be able to push it open. Just hope he wakes me up when he gets in so I can get up and close it again or the house will get very cold.

Have you tried clanking the spoon on the cat food tin and shaking the biscuit box??

always works with my big fat furry fiends

lil_me

:rotfl: don't panic about the cards, I haven't even written mine yet

Well Sainsburys order done (mainly boxes and tins of chocolates, sweets, biscuits etc for presents) , I need a present for my Nana then all the presents for 'others' (as in anyone who doesn't live in this house) is sorted, well they are ordered anyway, waiting for about 8 deliveries now if not more :rotfl: I have managed to buy almost everything online sorry I do like shopping locally when it comes to grocery etc but can't cope with December chaos in shops very well.

Nana's present I am waiting for ideas from Mam as she stays with her a lot I thought she'd know better what she needs, but she's been as much use as a chocolate fireguard! The problem with 'Nana Presents' is she's got so many of us buy for her, 5 kids, 16 grandkids, oodles of great grandkids, then there is the other family and her friends, so it just gets silly, there is only so many smellies sets one old lady can use so I prefer to share the cost with Mam on something bigger.

Just remembered we're supposed to be at a kids party tomorrow, I am in 2 minds about if I am looking forward to it or not, someone who will be there was involved in the last time me and DP seperated.....so it's iffy. Hopefully as the children are there I will keep my cool........just hope DSs behave and DS1 manages to tolerate it.

The issues with DPs work has been mentioned again tonight (work reducing from April as unitary council comes in) so he's been in a right mood on the phone, stress from worrying when/if/how much the income drops by I suppose, he's going to be a barrel of fun on Sunday, tempted to cancel going out if he's going to be in a stress head mood.

Going to let the dogs out, quick tidy round then bed I think, feeling exhausted tonight.

juliejim

:jBrilliant news summermoon! Good luck today.:T

Hope your DS is feeling better today Valli.

Chunky - huge hugs for you and your family - that's a big shock for you.

I'm sure I've forgot people so everyone have a hug from me!

Flylady_Flower

Morning all,

Head still a bit muzzy today, but feel better...

Hubby packed off to work with a really stinking cold (not manflu), but HAS to go in (they don't think any more of you do they?), but like he says, all extra money helps (not if he makes himself ill and he can't enjoy it)...

So was going back to bed but am wide awake, have written my list which will not include flying today except dailies (leave that till tomorrow) so am going to do my cards now then have to brave Lakeside (REALLY not looking forward to that... )... see you all later (if I make it out alive...)

juliejim

Okay I need some advice.

DD is very bright, wants to be doing things all the time but isn't very good at occupying herself. She doesn't really sit and watch TV or anything like that - she wants to be doing things - 5 mins after getting up she'll be saying she's bored, what can she do?

The problem is though the way she speaks to people. I know that she's picked it up from DH because it's how he speaks to her. He expects her to do things as soon as she's asked and if she doesn't do it straight away then he starts having a go at her - don't have this problem with DS particularly as he is a lot more laid back. He doesn't give her time to do anything, he expects her to do it straight away even if she's in the middle of doing something else. I'm sick of having conversations with him about it and trying to explain that if he asked her nicely to do something but said as soon as you've finished that will you do this he'd get a better response but he doesn't get it at all.

Anyway, it has got to the point where DD doesn't speak nicely to people (I'm talking about other adults mainly) and is quite rude but I don't think she realises that she's doing it. She then gets really upset if someone says they won't do something for her because of the way she is speaking to them and says they're being nasty to her. If they then try to speak to her she tells them to go away and leave her alone which obviously doesn't help matters as she's then being rude again. Things sort of came to a head last night as she was being rude to my parents who look after her a lot of the time, especially my dad, because he picks them up from school at least twice a week and takes to school twice a week too. They're really good with her but last night she got really shouted at for being rude - she was tired and hungry (tea was on it's way), but that's no excuse because like I say she's doing it a lot of the time - in fact it got to the point where they gave her her coat and told her she could go home as they weren't putting up with it anymore. The thing is she'll shout she hates them and they're being nasty all the time when she gets to the point that she's really upset which obviously upsets them but she doesn't seem to realise what she's doing wrong so thinks they're having a go at her for nothing - even when they're talking nicely to her but refusing to do something for her because she hasn't asked nicely.

Anyway, I need to sort the situation out - I think she needs more attention and more structure and I thought about trying the Omega 3 stuff to see if that helped at all. I also though about doing a chart and giving her stars when she speaks nicely to people. Any more ideas what I can do? I ended up in tears last night because I was so upset by it all.

Sorry for the long post and thank you if you've managed to read through it all.